Do women take men who do chores for granted?

I gave up writing an article already for today because I have been sleeping all day since my phone was down until the evening when some discussion came up about relationships and I felt like bringing it to have a better understanding from the experienced people on the platform.

Let me use the opportunity to wish my Muslim brothers and sister on the platform a happy Eid-al- Fitr celebration, may the Almighty Allah grant us all our heart desires.

Mom called that she would be coming home with a few guests so had to prepare vegetables and wheat, I quickly got to work. I felt bad my phone was down because I would have loved to make a video of the meal so I can upload it on my YouTube.

The truth is that I wasn't interested in the guest, seeing mom again was the inspiration that took me out of the bed. I rushed to get some stuff and started making the meal immediately, it was tiring with the heat but I managed to avoid mom going through the stress when she comes.

They came before I finished, the guests were from her evangelism team and they admired me for cooking and sweating at the same time. Soon the discussion started and one of the men advised me not to let my wife know that I can cook when I am married because she will take me for granted.

I got interested in the discussion and made them understand the world is different from what it used to be, relationships today requires both parties to understand and support one another.

The man made it clear that he was like me when he was young and he assisted his wife with every chore, it got to a stage where she will pretend to be sick, tired, and sometimes even returned from work late just to skip doing those chores. He said he abandoned it and only tend to his kids, he said the act happened repeatedly until he threatened to marry another woman.

A woman among them contributed to the discussion, she said some women do it but not many. The man insisted that you can hardly pick 3 out of 10 and it became a discussion even while they were eaten, too bad the wheat wasn't enough and I wasn't able to eat out of it.

I sat with them and listened to the conversation, they sighted several instances. I was glued to the discussion because my phone was down, at the end they leave but the man didn't hesitate to remind me that a woman doesn't have to see all you can do else she will take advantage of you.

Power was restored when they left, I took my phone to check what was happening online and the man's words came again to my head.

His points don't change anything because I love doing it but being taken for granted is something I wouldn't appreciate no matter how much I love a person. I felt he should have told me in a way that would make marriage look like a war zone to me and he could poison the mind of other young men out there but could he be saying the truth?

I asked mom why she never joined the discussion? She said we all have different perspectives about things due to experience and it would be wrong to allow other views and experiences to ruin what hasn't even started.

She went you get there, you will understand and what's right so just be the person you are.

I ended up making Eba later in the evening for myself with the leftover soup.

Chores aren't meant for any gender and it all started with the fact that our forefathers didn't allow their wives to do other work except the house chores and it became a tradition.

I feel supporting one another should be the goal at home, when the woman is cooking; the man can help wash the dishes. These things make love grow in the family, it is romantic to me that doing chores with one's lover and respecting one another no matter the role they play is important.

Even the kids would learn from it and apply it when they grow, I would love to hear opinions about the topic as well.

Men do you think women take their husband for granted when he does the house chores? Women, please do you have to say about this?

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