Can Humans Survive without Lies?

I am sure lies are not one of the things the world was built on but it has become something we can't do without as humans. It has gotten worse to the extent that people don't care about the environment or the people around them before lying, they just go on telling heavy lies without caring if it would backfire at any point in life.

There are times I wonder where every human conscience went, only a few people are reluctant to do things that would benefit them at the expense of others.

I am not a saint, I have lied to save myself from silly situations in life. I hate to do it because my conscience disturbs me a lot and I have regretted doing that in many situations when I have to cover up my lies with another lie, it ends up as a long chain tied around your neck. Seriously lying can be stressful but people now find it very easy because you have to remember everything lies you have said in the past, forgetting just one out of many could reveal the truth if your word contradicts.

I remembered some years back, I was on a bus and an evangelist was preaching to the passenger about sin. He was still shouting at the top of his voice just to win souls and make people stay away from sin. While he was preaching, a passenger's phone rang. The volume of the phone was so loud that it got everyone attention, the woman picked and after seconds of listening to the caller.

She said she was at the garage whereas, we haven't even traveled half the journey and the lie made everyone looked in her direction again and she didn't feel ashamed of what she did.

I was shocked that she was reluctant to say it due to the crowd that could be listening to her.

Anyway, that's not the case. It baffles me how people choose lies over the truth, it is funny how lies soothe the ear than the truth for many people in what the world has become today.

I wouldn't blame people who are obsessed with lying because sometimes they are involved with someone or people who can't handle the truth and these people are difficult to be with.

While I was in the sales job, I had lots of marketers and I was reporting to an expatriate at the office who made my job difficult for me. He is always mad when you try to make him realize the truth so I just switched to the lying mode.

He calls almost every hour to know how the team is doing with sales, if I gave him a low sales figure which is the correct thing, he shouts and threatens to sack the team. When he hears lies, he would be happy we are doing well, and unknown to him, he is not giving us room for growth because he doesn't know the challenges we are facing at ground level.

We kept piling the problem until one day it became unbearable and I voiced out without the fear of been sacked. I was dropped but another brand that valued my points picked me up and that taught me a lesson that there would be someone who would be ready to listen to your truth no matter how disturbing it is.

Another experience

I experienced a scene about two months now, we were in traffic for over 4hrs going to Oshodi.

There was this lady in the bus receiving calls from time to time updating someone about the traffic, at a point, she looked teary and I couldn't approach her even though she was sitting beside me. She started talking alone, did I cause the traffic, it is not my fault and she alighted at the next bus stop.

Looking at what happened, I think she has had an issue at work with saying the truth.

I thought they said the truth would set us free, why then is it complicating issues for people who are fond of it. I believe there is a reward for holding on to the truth but how long do we have to hold on before the truth resurfaces and sets us free.

I am not promoting lies but I just needed to share my thoughts about it. In my case, I love to hear the truth regardless of how it would make me feel, especially in a relationship. I have grown to be able to handle situations maturely, trust me if I say my exes are still my friend today because I detest lies so much that it would end my relationship straight away but we can still be friends if they choose to repent.

I said earlier that I am not a saint but I would only lie to save something very valuable when I say valuable I meant that something that has to do with life. I won't hesitate to say the truth as long as my life wouldn't be taken away from me.

I have also lied to save my job but didn't lie to get my job even when I was desperate, I am sure you didn't skip how I do lie to my boss to protect my job and my team.

Let me share another story of how saying the truth didn't make me get a job.

While searching for a job after I was dismissed then, I went for an interview on the island. It was an IT company that needed a warehouse manager, I told my friend to apply as well and we were both called for the interview.

Who does that? Everyone scolded me for inviting my friend who later got the job offer, I did it because it brings me joy to help my friends to get opportunities that I might not be qualified for.

During the interview, I was asked "where do I see myself in 5 years?".

I replied that I hope to have my own business in five years, I shared my plans. I didn't know why but I always feel very comfortable during interviews and I feel the truth is important.

My friend was asked the same question and she said she would be helping the company promote its brand at a bigger level, that was the lie she needed to get the job.

I didn't have a business then and she had one, she needed the job just to earn money to boost her business, and when she is set, she would leave. I didn't believe it when she told me that the lie got her the job.

Just a few months after, she quit the job to focus on her business and the company returned to the field searching for someone else.

Another thing that baffles me about lying is that we don't learn to do it, kids automatically start lying without been taught how to do it, or was I wrong saying lies were not part of the world foundation?

Religiously it's a sin but what if survival or life depends on it? This reminds me of a movie where a security agent lied about something at the court because he knew a lot of people would suffer if the culprit went to jail. The culprit wasn't really at fault because the victim had a fault in the incident that led to her death.

These are difficult things to answer and I will want you to help me out, feel free to share any shocking lie experience you have had.

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