Unreal Concern
I once believed that the only places where I could see the conflicts, intrigue, and mistreatment that occur in real families were in my films. However, it isn't because it is actually taking place right now.
I mentioned in a previous post that I used to love being around my relatives from my father's side better than those on my mother's side, but that was back then and it isn't the case now. Allow me to explain the two incidents that altered my perception of my relatives from my father's side.
My mother hated vices like alcohol, cigarettes, and even gambling. Even though when he was younger, my father was rumored to be an outgoing person, he has a cigarette addiction, and he loves to gamble in cockfighting, he was able to change after meeting my mother. Love really does make us be something different, that's why even I have high standards for men because my father was a real 10 for being able to change for my mother.
I never saw my father gamble or smoke as I was growing up. He drinks alcohol but on rare occasions usually, when we have a family gathering, that is why I'm very proud of him for keeping his promise to my mom.
However, perhaps there are times when it's impossible to resist temptation. there where this rumor that going around back then that my father was betting on cockfighting, it was the cause of their fight with my mother then but it didn't turn into a big fight because they also talked about it right away. It's surprising how word of their parents' argument over cockfighting ended up with my aunts. When I spoke to my aunt once, she was ranting about how my mother seemed to care too much, pointing out that my mother was overreacting and that there was no need for her to prevent my father from betting on cockfights because it was just a form of entertainment.
Wow, how could she possibly have the audacity to criticize my mother in such a way?
The other one is when my uncle had a birthday celebration, usually, my father and I with my siblings attended the gatherings but during that time my mother also went to the party. My mother arrived late, but what was even more annoying was when I heard what my aunts and uncles were saying. "She's there already", "What a miracle that she came for this birthday party". The tone of their speech makes it seem as though they are telling me that my mother is not welcome at that birthday party, which made me furious. After my mother finished eating, I immediately invite her to leave right away.
Since that time, my viewpoints toward my father's siblings haven't changed. I'm no longer upset about them, but there are still some times that I can't help but choose to avoid getting in touch with them. I don't understand how they can make my mother feel disgusted when she has no choice but to care. The only thing that can be challenging at times is that the people with bad habits are the ones we expect to be able to trust.
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Disclaimer: I am neither a psychologist nor a financial advisor, and all of my pieces were done for entertainment purposes only. What I've written here is merely my personal opinion, and any statements made are based on my personal views and should not be taken as fact. Always do your due diligence.
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