Whenever we get hurt, been betrayed, or someone we love left. We felt that the pain was unbearable. When someone broke our hearts by betrayal, sometimes we felt like trusting to anyone is totally impossible. When our relatives who we love dearly died, we felt like the world has ended.
And those who have been beside us keep on lifting us. They keep on trying to comfort us by staying at our side and giving us some words of encouragement. Unfortunately there are also some people who can't hold their patience towards us, as they can't understand that we were graving or mourning, because someone had left and broke our hearts. They feel irritated watching us crying, and even get mad and force us to immediately fixed our selves and move on.
They couldn't understand the pain, as they are not standing the same shoe. They thought that nagging will help, but they didn't realize that they are just torturing someone's feelings. They don't know that sometimes, acceptance is the hardest thing to accept.
I came to understand that acceptance is the hardest thing to accept when we lose our father. His death is too sudden and the pain is totally unbearable. The moment he died, I can't do anything. My mom get worried, as I'm stock in one corner for days. I don't talk, I don't eat, I don't even cry. I was blank with full of emotions. Honestly my mom thought that I'm already crazy lol, she even cried in front of me while begging me to go back to my senses. I can hear my mom, I can saw everyone around me, but I feel weak to the point that I can't even move my body. I don't want to eat as I don't feel hungry but according to my mom, I haven't been eaten for almost two day's which makes her worried. Among siblings I was the one who's very close to our father. He was my favourite person in our house and his death totally kills my joy. I felt that the world had stop.
They keep on talking to me, telling me some encouraging words to lift me up but my mind isn't cooperating. Whenever I saw my father lying inside his coffin, I felt that I'm suffocating. There were night's that i came to mourn in front of him, begging him to woke up and asking him why he left me/ us.
One, and two more years had passed, but the pain is still the same. They say's that i should move on and accept the reality, so my father will be peaceful. Actually I wanted to, but it's hard, how can acceptance be easy to accept if it's killed your joy? How can they say that I'm just over reacting, if the pain don't want to go? It's not my intention to stay in one corner, but what can I do? Accepting the fact that he was gone, is the hardest thing to accept for me? Can they just let me mourn?
Eventually, after three years I have finally accepted that reality. But unfortunately I had to leave my family to do that. I left and go abroad so I won't see anything that makes me remember him. I drown my self through work, so my mind will be busy and it don't have any time to reminisce.
Acceptance is the hardest thing to accept. The person who is in pain needs more understanding and support from the people he/she love. Pain will go without forcing it to leave. We shouldn't force people to accept the fact easily, instead let them cry until they don't have any tear's to cried. Give them freedom to mourn, as for sure it will make them feel better.
Somehow, not all people are strong. So by that time, we can't just let them cried alone. They need more love and care as they are still suffering from pain.
Acceptance is the hardest thing to accept in many forms of pain. It ain't easy to immediately accept the reality that we failed, and we get hurt in many different reasons. Acceptance is easy to spell but it ain't easy to accept.
Anyway this is just my own opinion about acceptance. I just came to this topic as I am missing my family and since I can't be with them. Christmas won't be the same without them.
Thank you for reading ❤️
December 16,2021 16:00
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I’ve been here before and it’s tough to do that, I could recall far back when my Father passed away it was the most painful thing that happened but at some stage I’ve got to accept it and move on… thank you for this article, it will be very helpful to anyone still struggling to move on God bless you and I’m sorry for all you went through for 3 years…