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"Things to consider when you are in a Long Distance Relationship" So basically I'd come to this topic because of sis #Cleophia article, where she mentioned the word Long Distance Relationship, and from that word I got this idea, thanks sis anyway ☺️. Before I start, I just wanted to inform you all, that all the information that I am going to write from this blog is actually base on my own experience. I am not actually an expert when it comes to this kind of relationship but since I came from a Long Distance Relationship and soon to be in a Long Distance Relationship again, I'll share to you some tips of how your relationship will last and grow. So as I have said, my partner and I just meet online. In Facebook to be specific. We were in a long distance relationship for four years and the only communication that we have in that long period of time was only Facebook and messenger, and yet we also have different time zone and so the struggle is indeed real. To those who are in a Long Distance Relationship specially those who are just new in this term, one thing that I can really advise you was to have a great communication with your special someone to avoid conflicts as it may be the cause that your relationship will fail if you cannot balance everything. Well anyway, my LDR journey isn't that perfect. We also face lots of struggles, misunderstandings and break ups but I don't know, we ended up having a son.😁. So let me share to you some tips that you should consider if you are in a Long Distance Relationship😁. So you can build a strong and healthy Relationship. Trust

Above all, trust is the main reason that makes a relationship last forever and yet makes the relationship fail. In any kind of relationship to be exact. So before you agreed to a Long Distance Relationship, make sure that you know how to trust, not only to other people, but also to your self. Yes! To yourself! Because if you don't know how to trust even at your own self you cannot empower that word Trust. Considering that you have a trust issues at your own self, things between you and your special someone will turned out complicated eventually, until you both fully learned how to trust each self. Entering into a Long Distance Relationship is similar with how risky when you enter the crypto world😁. **So trust that you are a lovable person, trust that you are a trustworthy and Trust specially your value. Trust the intention indeed.** Let him/her feel that you would trust her/him at any cost. Unlike with the other couples who are also in a Long Distance Relationship, we are a total strangers to each other's. We don't even know our real names when we meet, as we both using an alias on our Facebook accounts. As far as I remember, my Facebook friends know me as Farley, as that's what I am using when we add each other in Facebook and so he literally thought that my real name was Farley , which is not😂. While he is using MC, as short for his real name. But we still choose to trust each other equally, of how we trust our selves and let our faith decide if we can last. Be Honest and Be sincere enough with your feelings(**Don't lie**)

As we all know, honesty is the best policy and so you should also apply it to your relationship and to yourself too. Considering that small lies is still a lie, and be aware that every thing has a consequences can literally bring a positive impact to your relationship. Lying about your feelings and real intention can eventually makes you unhappy. So if you just meet the person online, make sure that before you say I like you/ I love you to each other, your being honest to yourself. Don't make her/him fall with your lies and make her/him believe with your words if you're being unsure. Be honest with your intentions and feelings. Don't try to enter someone's peaceful life, if you are just looking for fun. If you have any secrets about your past, let him/her know immediately and don't wait that time will let him/her know about your secret. As for me it's already a betrayal. By that you can also measure his/her real intention to you. **Love is not a game that children's play.** Opppsss! Be sincere enough with your feelings. Nobody wants to be fooled, not even you. And so be honest and don't play someone's heart. Be considerate and learn to balance everything

Considering each others privacy, freedom, feelings and priorities, specially if both of you are working can create a good communication to both of you. Don't keep on calling and texting him/her every second of the day. Like gosh, in one day you'll gonna send him/her thousands of messages. Asking him/her what's she's/he's doing, where is she/he and etcetera. And when she/ he texted you back a little late you'll gonna get mad. Gosh it's quite annoying, you know? 😂. Remember both of you have priorities, and so give a little space. Make him/her miss you for sometime. For me, it's not really necessary to know everything. Because if you consider that everything must be reported to you, trust me, it will create a trust issues and conflicts. Your special someone will soon found your relationship so tiring. Give him/her freedom to do he's/ her normal routine. Don't expect that he/she would make you he's/her entire world. Like every time that he/ she was free from work, you're going to expect that he/she will gonna spend all he's/her time texting you. He/she will get bored. So learn to balance everything. **Be matured enough for the best of your relationship.** Let him have time to have fun with he's/her friends. Let him/her feel that you trusted him/her because you love him/her. Don't overthink This is somehow hard, honestly. Because we know that sometimes no matter how much we trust our special someone, there's a possibility that he's/ her friends can't be trusted, lol. You know, you are not around and so you don't know and you can't see who's with him/her and so some negative thoughts will pop up. I can relate with that🤣. However we shouldn't overthink too much. If a person love's you, temptations won't won. He/she would respect your relationship and so for sure he/she won't be tempted, specially if he/she felt that you love her/him so much.. Be contented and be supportive Considering that you are a million miles makes things actually difficult, but if you're contented with he's/her attention and love, your relationship would last. For others, being in a Long Distance Relationship is very complicated, well honestly it's true. But stay positive and be he's/her favourite supporter. Trust your relationship. Sometimes we also need to do some sacrifices, for our future and dreams. And having a supportive special someone, makes all things possible. It's literally bring a good feeling if there's someone who truly appreciate and believes in you. That even if you fail she/he won't makes you feel disappointed, as she was always there and ready to lift you up. Giving you some encouragement and with he's/her love you will feel motivated. There's no one can take your place on her/he's heart as you are the perfect one who makes her/he's life complete. Build a good communication

Lack with a good communication will eventually create a serious conflicts to your relationship. As what I have said balance everything. Let each other's be heard and be a good listener. If you had a misunderstanding, talk about it. Consider each others feelings and don't be insensitive. Give enough time and attention for each other and let each other feels that both of you are still available for each other. Don't allow that loneliness makes her/him felt that your a million miles away at heart. Love always finds away and time. And so that's all for today and if you still have any tip's to share, allow me to read it in the comment section and I'll surely appreciate it☺️. Thank you for reading and I wish for a happy ending to your relationship. Lead image was edited using Canva app.

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