Everything seems right in front of a child

I am not married yet nor have I given birth but the fact remains that I am growing every day and I gather experience every freaky time. I have looked around me, especially at the area that I lived in and studied the people around there and I could denote that everything seems to be right in front of every child.

Of course, I think you know that. That's why there is always room for correction and rebuke. If as a parent, you refuse to take monitor every of your child's steps and know clearly what they do and what they don't do, I will boldly say you have failed as a parent. I expect every parent to know what their children do and don't do cos they are there to take care of and monitor them. No wonder many children are out there roaming around the street aimlessly with no assurance of where they will lay their heads when the day is dark. No assurance of a better tomorrow for them cos they aren't walking toward that path at all. Will I say it's because of their failed parent? Or did their parent tries their best but the child chooses his path?

I was having a conversation with a friend one time like that and she said " our parents should thank God that we chose the right path and that it's not their monitoring and care that shape us in a good way "I partly agree with this and I partly disagree with it at the same time, why?

The Bible says train up a child the way he should so when he is old he will not depart from it. If our parents haven't shown us the way, there's no way we would have been what we are today. If at all the environment and friends have an influence on us and at some point, we deviate from the path they lead us, a time will surely come that we will retrace our step back to that way. Just like the story of the prodigal son, he later thinks about his life and could conclude that the best solution is to go back home.

If it was the other way our parents have brought us up, then that's how we would have been till only God want us to be on the right track. It's what we are being brought up with that we will stick to and that's how it is.

If as a parent, all that we do in the presence of our children is fight, smoke, lie etc, they will never know it is wrong or bad until they see what other people do in the environment. The fact that they see others not fighting, not smoking, not lying etc won't change them to do like them, it is what they have seen their parent do that will be right in their eyes and they will stand by it ans defend it any day anytime.

Just like a comedy skit, I watched some years ago, it's a skit but it's what's happening in the real-life that was being portrayed to us. The parent of the little child does fight and call themselves abusive names like a mad man and unfortunate woman in the presence of their child. So, one day when the child went to school, they ask him what the name of his parent are and he said, Mad man and unfortunate woman. Was it the fault of the child? Of course not, it is what he was brought up with that he stuck to. In some other homes, parents call themselves sweet names like darling or honey and if their children are being asked, that's what they will also call their parent.

It's what we do in the presence of our children that they would do cos they believe what we do is correct. They trust us that we can't mislead them as a parent and that's why everything seems right in their presence. The inspiration for this came up when I saw a boy that has turned into a lout and can do anything just to get money, I tried looking at the reason why he was like that and that was when I remember that's the way the boy's mum was. The mom is a very violent woman, she fights, drinks and life of the party without any work to bring in money for her. I guess she sleeps around to get money cos she is always at home 24/7.

It's the life the boy has grown up seeing his mom live that he also chooses to live cos it seems right in his face.

This is my advice to every parent out there, let us endeavour to live rightly in the presence of our children. If there's an argument between you both, we can always settle it when our children are not there or when they are asleep. They shouldn't know what's going on between you both cos it counts in their eyes. Stay positive and responsible in their presence every time and they emulate every good thing about you all. Correct your child when it's needed, rebuke them when it's needed, and chastise them when it's needed also.

I want to believe we all understood all that I have written so far, so I will put a full stop here and say thanks for your time in reading this. I do appreciate your effort, God bless you all.

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