Call them to order before it's too late
The rate of immoral acts happening in society today, especially among teens is alarming. And it is a matter that every sensible person must be concerned about. In the northern part of Nigeria alone, this tragic situation has gone out of hand.
From Lagos to Port Harcourt, Maiduguri to Yola, it is one story after the other about young girls and boys being involved in one immoral act or the other, abusing drugs, engaging in illicit sex, and involving in rituals for money and for the fulfillment of their personal aspirations. And we wondered where these kids learn these things from.
I have read several posts and comments about the recent sex video being circulated on social media with some teenagers supposed to be secondary school students engaging in live sex as though they were recording a sex movie. I never wanted to have anything to do with this or say anything about it.
However, I could not restrain myself after reading a post on Facebook today by the mother of the teenage girl involved in the sex video asking for justice for her daughter because she claimed that her daughter was raped. Even when it was glaringly clear the girl was prostituting herself she was making a big issue about it instead of being ashamed for her failure to train her daughter right.
Some parents will blame social and the society for their children being exposed to sex; but to me, the parents are to be blamed for not being there for them, not caring about them, not being able to provide them with a decent upbringing to protect them from wrong ideas and wrong people and no real parents and child relationship.
Everything starts at home and raising children especially the girl child should not taking lightly. It requires extra vigilance, deep study, and education on how to raise a girl child. If you cannot raise your children, especially your daughter until she turns 23 you are a failed parent.
The story of teenage pregnancy is now everyday news but instead of taking seriously the issue of raising children the right way, the parents will go on to blame the schools, and therefore deny themselves the opportunity of good moral upbringing for their children.
If this kind of immoral and wild behavior continues to take place, it is only a matter of time before society descends into total chaos and anarchy. In another video shared on Facebook, a 14-year teenage boy was captured trying to book a room in a hotel with two teenage girls with him but was driven away by the hotel management. I wonder what kind of upbringing these young boys and girls are getting.
Parents must be called to order and as a father of a teenage boy and a girl, I wonder where I should start to do some corrections in their behavior before society starts to put the blame on me. I cannot be everywhere to ensure my children are on the right behavior but I must not fail my duty at home as a father.
The Bible admonished parents to train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it. The foundation we laid for our children plays an important role in what they exposed themselves to. I must not let my efforts in raising my children down by failing to teach them the way they should go. The starting point is at home. The role of home is to instill morality and manners in our children.
Unfortunately, many parents have failed in this area and thereby leading the children astray to live with quick sexual encounters. My experience in life has taught me that no matter how much you love your children, you must be prepared to deal with them when they disobey you. Some parents are unable to handle this situation and end up pushing their children into the arms of every stranger and bad company.
As much as possible parents must refrain from giving in to some of these temptations and encourage their children to live a good life. To do that, there is a need for regular mentoring and the moral upbringing of children. If this is done right, it becomes an avenue for the children to know who to avoid in life, and therefore society can avoid crime and social ills that come from moral and sexual decadence.
The mother of the girl claimed it was a rape, which was not. The children purposely engage in the act just to satisfy themselves. They are both underage, the girl is just 11 while the guy is 13. When I come across the girl's Instagram page, I saw most of her video was done at home which the parents must have seen her before twerking and dancing online in short wear. The world is dealing with failed parenting.