Is it the fault of the parent?

I saw a tweet on twitter that says.

When I was growing, I saw adult getting married, now that I'm an adult, I see kids get married, where did it go wrong

I have actually have this thought before seeing this tweet, it's very sad how I see young kids especially the younger ladies pregnant at a very young age, we can call this teenage pregnancy. When I was leaving home to study in another state, I remember a lot of young girls in my community, some still in secondary school and some planning how to further their education. It pains me to say when I got back home for my semester break, I saw many of this girls pregnant, for some, the man or young boy accepted the pregnancy and they got married, and some the pregnancy was rejected saying he wasn't the only one sleeping with her.

Is this how bad the society is? Is this the length children will go for pleasure? What is it they are looking for now that they can't get in their marriage?, I have all this thought running in my mind

Can we blame the parent?

This was one of the main thought in my mind, can it be the parent fault, aren't parent training their kids in the right way anymore.

I'm very sure there is no parent in this world that wouldn't want their kids to have a bright future and getting pregnant at a young age or becoming a father when the child isn't ready can actually delay that bright future. Many parent have fail to teach their kids about sex education thinking it not necessary or it feels weird talking about sex to their kids, and that's where they get things wrong.

Some parent can be blame and some can't be, some parent have done all they could and its left to the child to follow the right path, while some parent make all necessary plan and teaching to make sure their follow the right path, some just abandon their child to the world.

As a mother, I'm sure you will know when your daughter or son is in love or start seeing an opposite sex mate, at this point, that's when a parent should take a step in tutoring the child on what sex is and what unwanted pregnancy can cause in a child life

I don't even think a parent should wait before that before they start educating their kids on what sex is, and how to avoid it even in a relationship. How to have a protected sex for the adult and for the kids, absence!!

A story that shock me: Base on true life

This girl met me, she saw me as a big brother she can confined in, she's just 17years old, she told me about how her dad friend has been disturbing her for a relationship, the man has a failed marriage, he explained all that happened to the girl and said he wants to be in a relationship that would lead to marriage with her😱, I was really angry at this thought, she's just 17years old.

He promise to send her to school and get a phone for her, but she have to say yes to the relationship first, she decline but still visits him because he do give her money sometimes, after several visit, he started taking about sex to her, and how hard he get when she's comes around, there was a day he try to have his way with her and she threaten to shout, so he had to let her go, she couldn't tell her dad because he was a close friend to her dad, and her dad keeps sending her to the man house to get things for him.

She decided to tell her mom, and her mom said, "Its up to you to decide that, he might mean well, and I won't say you should discard him because he will stop helping you the way he is doing now"

I was pissed at this advise, how could a mother tell her 17year old daughter to make the decision herself, it was at that point she got so confuse and ask me. I told her the man have no plan for her, he would only destroy her future, if he truly love her like he claims, he would do everything to make sure she has a good education, and he shouldn't even be going after a minor. I still do advise her till date and help her the best way I can

So now can we say, if this girl gets pregnant, who would we blame. This topic is very broad cause we can't discuss all of it today, maybe another time, I would talk about how other things can cause teenage pregnancy like forceful partner, peer pressure and many more.

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