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Ways To Stop Caring About Other People Thinking About Us

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Living with the society standard will make us sick, in everything we do bad or good they'll always have something to say. We must try not to seek approval with other people especially if we don't do anything that can harm others. We can only achieve these things not caring about what other people thinks about us if we stop giving a damn about it.

Our environment is one of the factors that can affect our mental growth depending on how it behaves as it can influence us, can shape us or ruin us. If we live on a toxic environment, it's not surprising that somehow it will reflect on how we behave. It might be that we absorb the toxicity, act on it or will give us traumatic experience that will kill our self esteem.

Ways To Stop Caring About Other People Opinions About Us

There are ways that can help us not to care about other people's opinions about us, we just have to know and apply it so we can focus on self growth instead of minding other people's thinking.

Practice selective hearing

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In this world critisism will always be there no matter how you tried your best, there are always people who will try to dragged you down. In this case practice to have a selective hearing, only listen to constructive criticism not the distractive one. Don't listen to people who keep on criticizing you as some of them are envious, if you listen to them you'll only waste your time.

If you know how to accept constructive criticism it only means you are willing to grow instead of thinking negatively. Practice how to develop a thicker skin, because only people who have thicker skin can handle critisism.

Work out your self-esteem

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People who keep seeking other people's validation are usually have low self-esteem as they cannot asses they're own actions, they are not confident enough with themselves and what they do.

Try to be true to yourself, what you want to be and why. If you know what you want, you can work on your self-esteem as you are sure about what you want and you don't need to seek an approval to other people anymore because you are confident that you are doing the right thing for yourself. Other people's thinking cannot break through if you are have a healthy self-esteem.

Decide for yourself and stand on your principle

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You must decide for yourself, what values and principle you stand for, what life you wanted to create because if not the society will do it for you.

Some people likes to put others in the box , to control them so they can't see what they are capable of. They like to manipulate people who are confused with what they want to do in their lives.

Decide to write your own story, the pen is yours and not theirs.

Healing from the past traumatic experience

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You must find ways to heal from past traumatic experience, keep looking back to the past will keep hurting you and will restrict you in expanding your wings as you have many doubts, confusion, fears as well as you cannot trust anyone.

It's not easy to heal from traumatic past but it's the only way for you to move forward without looking back so you'll not keep stumbling on your way. If you're having hard time to overcome your trauma you can seek professional help from psychologist or psychiatrist if your case is severe.

Fears can hold us back in growing, in moving forward, so we should overcome all of it. If we are fearless enough other people's opinions about us doesn't matter anymore as we fear no one.

Closing Thoughts

Knowing ourselves, our value and our worth will help us not to mind other people's thinking about us. Other people's thinking is not our business anymore, if we keep on minding them we will never be at peace and it will only give you doubt on yourselves.

You are you and not them, just be yourself and stop minding other people's thinking about you.

Thank you for reading!

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Date Published: October 27, 2021

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Yes indeed, just like my recent experience that I wrote about. Haha. We better know ourselves more so we don't listen to the negativities and lies of other people.

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1 month ago

Something we need to avoid is to stop waiting for people to decide for us because it will get to a point, they will be dictatorship to our lives. Learn to make decisions on your own and stop expecting people to do that for you. Thank you for sharing

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1 month ago

Each person is a world apart. It has its own problems and concerns. We cannot be aware of the lives of others to do evil or envy them, we already have enough with trying to make our own life have a meaning to be involved in that of others. Likewise, you should not care what is said about you or not. People will always talk. You stand firm and with a well-defined path to success

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1 month ago

Mukhang para sa akin itong article na ito ate ah..Di ko talaga maiwasan palagi na nag aalala ako kung paano ang iniisip sa akin ng ibang tao. And sa palagay ko ang major probs ko is lack of self esteem. . Madalas ito sa work. May times na alam ko ang gagawin pero hesitant ako dahil kulang ang self confidence ko. Nag aalala ako na baka mali pala ako, etc.

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1 month ago

Just like you said, critism will always be there whether someone is on the right track or not, it's natural. But sometimes this critism goes down to the our deeper heart when the bites are coming from close friends. Ofcourse the critisms that affect the most are the ones that come from family or friends because if a far person (someone you're not related with) talk about you, you won't feel it that much. In as much as it's recommended to play deaf ear to the talks, it's still not easy. You can't completely mute your family. 🙌🙌🙌

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1 month ago

When we don't value ourselves or our health, most people will also take us for granted. It's good to love ourselves first before anyone else .

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1 month ago

Hayst, i think low tlga self esteem ko e, takot ako gumawa sa mga bagay na gusto ko ksi takot ako kung anu sasanihin ng iba. Minsan na akong umiyak dahil sa ibang tao. Dahil sa mga pangit na salita

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1 month ago

I totally agree with all the things that you have stated above ate. Pero pinka gusto ko talaga is yung selective hearing. We don't have to absorb everything na naririnig natin. We are not sponge. Let's learn to filter things and jut like what you have said po, choose the constructive criticism and not the distracting ones.

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1 month ago

People say it's selfish. I say it's self-care. When we become our priority, we automatically take the position to care for others too. It was a good read.

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1 month ago

Its a form of self love to not listen to them po. As long as you are not trampling on their rights, you are doing just fine. ❤️

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1 month ago

I totally agree with your article, we have to get away from toxic people and concentrate on improving and feeling good about ourselves. Have a happy day

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1 month ago

Allowing one make decisions for us is tantamount to selling our pride, our formations and everything about us to such individuals and that's very wrong

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1 month ago

Not letting the society control you is the biggest form of self-love din. So just focus on those people who truly matters in your life ❤

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1 month ago

I think having a set order of principles would do the magic

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1 month ago

It's as simple as ABC. All these sum up to just three words: Know Your Self. Know Your Worth and you're all set to go.

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1 month ago

One thing I love about myself is that I don't care about what people think of me and that makes it possible for me to do whatever I set my mind to do. I usually pretend I don't hear what people say anytime they are talking thrash about me because replying them will only make it fun for them which is exactly what they are looking for. Most people feed on the attention you give to them so it's always better to ignore them 😊

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1 month ago

For many long time, I've thinking of what people would say of me if I do what I would like to do. I think especially in my family's opinion. But after many years, I decided that the only one living my life is me, so I should do what I like. I wish I could have found some article like this one before. It's really helpful, it's like a reminder of being whoever you want to be to make yourself happy. That's why I changed my career. And now I'm so proud of myself!

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1 month ago

Be neutral. Char 🤣 . Stay at home at wag makinig sa mga aling marites. Haha

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Pano kung nasa home mismo ang marites? 🤦

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1 month ago

Naku yari. Mahirap Yan haysss. Pm pm

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

There is no point in crying for other people. We have to think about ourselves all the time.

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1 month ago

Yes, exactly.. I agree.

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