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Women are very complicated creatures, especially when we talk about relationships. Most men complain about how their wives or girlfriend behave, sometimes it's too overbearing, and they cannot understand. To avoid sudden breakups, please pay attention to small details.

Pay attention to small details, which might be small, but it is essential to handle your woman.

Woman's thinking is far different from men's; if men think straight, women have a zigzag way of thinking. This way of thinking can sometimes cause a lot of trouble because we tend to have some reactions based on what we think and how we feel.

Hormonal imbalance

This is the culprit of everything why a woman has to go through this complicated thinking. When a woman's menstrual period is approaching, we start behaving abnormally. It's abnormal because we get too emotional and too sensitive sometimes.

There are things we experience while our menstrual period is approaching or on red days;

• Abdominal cramps - this will give us abdominal pain; sometimes, it is bearable, but sometimes not. Because of our pain, we get easily irritated as we are not feeling well.

• Body pain - this body pain feels like we are battered, which is why sometimes we are very weak. It's hard to move around when your body is aching, right? That is why if your wife, live-in partner, or girlfriend cannot do the task at home as usual, please understand that it's not to do all the functions if you are in pain.

• Swelling breasts - some women experience these swelling breasts when they have their period. It's excruciating, especially if it is hit or if we move vigorously.

• Headache - some women experience headaches as well when their period is coming. It is also one of the reasons why we are irritated even by small things.

• Very emotional or sensitive - we have these temporary emotions or sensitivity during our menstruation due to hormonal imbalances. It's not temporary because we have our menstruation every month, so we are emotional creatures, even on small details.

• Cravings - we also have cravings when our red days are coming; some women like sweet, sour, or anything that can satisfy them. It's the same thing with pregnancy cravings. In my case, I always crave spicy food when my red days are coming. If your gf, wife, or lip wants to eat something, please spoil them at that time. It touches our hearts when our man shows care during our most sensitive days. This is why some girlfriends demand their boyfriends to buy them food when they have menstruation. It's like we are asking for some caring moments. Except those patay gutom girls talaga.

After Giving Birth

Women change their attitude due to PPD (Post Partum Depression) or anxiety, especially after giving birth. After giving birth, our body changes, so as our priority, we tend to forget to take care of ourselves, making us look lousy. We don't have any "Me Time" anymore that makes us mentally and psychologically unhealthy. During this time, the husband or the partner should stick to her and help her in a way he can to lessen loads of duties and assure her that your treatment will still be the same as when you were still dating.

When we say YES, it means NO, and when we say NO, it means YES.

Except for the marriage proposal, if we say YES, it's a yes!

Sometimes, you guys must pay attention when your woman says YES or NO, especially if you are in an argument.

This is one of the complicated things boys sometimes do not understand with their partners because we don't speak directly about what's on our minds. We tend to make our partners guess. I don't know why some women, but it's my way of testing how my man takes the initiative; maybe it is also like that with other women.

Scenario example:

When my partner was still in his apprenticeship, he took a selfie with a Korean girl. He said the girl works at the Seaman's club. I don't know if it was a prostitute. I don't know if he also used the girl (sex), but he said no because they disagree with said takeouts, but who knows? Lol. He was in Korea; how would I know if he was telling the truth or not? Haha

So here's the deal, he showed me the picture via PM. He explained that they had just met the girl in the club and only had selfies. As a girlfriend, it hurts seeing your boyfriend having a close-up picture with another woman, skin-to-skin. Like, what the fvck? I am an open-minded girlfriend, so I stay calm even if I want to smash him. The most fvcking part is that he asked permission to post it on his F.B. wall; again, I was stunned. Like really?! I stayed calm and said, "Okay, fine! go ahead and post it; you've done taking selfies anyway!" I had all the exclamation points in my statement, no emojis. I was pissed.

So boyfriend thought it was fine with me, and he posted it. The post went viral on his feed as he was having a good time with a Korean girl. I explode like a bomb!

"YAWA KA! PINOST MO TALAGA HAYOP KA WALA KANG RESPITO SAKIN! I HATE YOU! LET'S BREAK UP!" I replied to his post. It means you're a bastard and don't respect me as a girlfriend.

He deleted the post immediately after seeing my reply. He asked for forgiveness as he thought it was fine with me because I said OKAY. Like, what the hell, man? I am a girlfriend, and you're asking me to let you post with another girl. Don't you have shame? Don't you think I was jealous, especially seeing the girl looks hot, for Pete's sake?

Okay, this happened in 2014, and I have already moved on, LOL. We were still immature during those times.

So yeah, in that scenario, always pay attention to how your woman reacts, behaves, and how she uses some words when she talks to you, especially if the issue involves other girls. We are jealous, but we don't admit that either, as we have some pride like "Am I too head over heels in love with him?" if we admit it directly.

If your girl keeps saying, "She's prettier than me, she's sexier, etc., or keeps comparing herself to one of your female friends," please understand that she's jealous and wants you to avoid that girl. I mean, keep your distance. You can still be friends but has some limitations, give her assurance that she's the only one.

When we said LEAVE US ALONE, the truth is we want you to stay with us.

Again if you and your partner argue, when she says get lost or leave her alone, try not to walk out directly. Try to comfort her, try to persuade her. Sometimes we want to be convinced but cannot tell it straight.

If you've done persuading her and she still wants you to get lost, then that's when you give her space to breathe, but never leave her side for real, show that you are always there for her.

For Takeaways,...

Women are indeed complicated; we don't even understand ourselves sometimes. A man must have long patience to understand her woman's lapses and help her get through with it instead of dumping her. I'll tell you, most women have the same traits, some are just too immature to go overboard, but they'll grow eventually if they are with the right person.

The key to having a better relationship with your woman is not to expect she is perfect; instead, help her to grow and accept the way she is not unless she's a psycho; you have to flee for your mental health sake too!

P.S. this article has been on my draft for a year, so I think I should post it not to waste my effort!