Why should future parents reduce their dream number of children?
Have you heard the word pandemic babies? Those are the babies born because of Pandemic, but some side was sarcasm. Due to the boredom of lockdown at the start of the pandemic parent or partners had intimate time resulting in a sudden high pick of babies born. But why should parents nowadays reduce their number of children? What was the purpose?.
I had a conversation with a friend, and the topic began to look at the number of my future child. How many children do you want in the future? One, two or dozens?. Then comes to think of yesterday's plan. I really think that someday I will have a group of kids on my own, not only two or three but a lot more than that, well dreaming of a happy family if everyone wants right?
I brought a book that was worth $3 with its shipping fee and I began to read the first pages then I couldn't help but read more. I planned to read the book within a week in the past to kill some boredom, yet it didn't happen because I think I read half of the book for a couple of hours. Then one thing that triggered me to write an article instead of reading so I could still have some printed book to read under the mango tree is the pregnancy things.
Well, it’s a normal day that people celebrates when they tested positive in pregnancy. Social media broadcasts everything about the life of our neighbours. Some were shocking for they are too early to have that, some were accidentally and others are secret for some reasons, either whatever the reason maybe they just wanted privacy.
Back to the main agenda, how many children do you want in the future?
Hearing the older people, when they are young they think that having a large number of children will be a great asset so they could escape poverty, they had more chances if at least one of them will study somewhere and other will either help the family to plough the land or work in the city so the brightest child will continue to study to escape the poverty.
Yeah, that’s really happened in the past, it's absurd and unequal where the first and second-born will either be the one to study or be the one who will be the breadwinner to achieve the parent's goals to escape the provoking curse of poverty.
That’s the reason why some elders in the Philippines are actually “No read No write” because parents will have a lot of children yet one or two will only be the ones who will have the chance to go schooling.
Still, this time the remnant of the old traditions was still present and meeting those people who don’t know how to read even in the Filipino native tongue was heart devastating.
Don’t repeat the history, the past and the lesson had been untold. But it has not happened even at this moment. I had neighbours and people around that still had a large number of children. The worst part is that the cycle and gap of their age were just closed to each other, it seems like parents are not aware of just ignoring that their children were not their home but in the street for something.
Babies are a blessing as they said, but are we giving them the blessing they deserved?. Mostly under the poverty underlying societies, I see that the blessing they need to have was not on their side. They are forced to have child labour or the child alone forces himself to help their family.
I am not against a family with a large number of siblings, but I think we should limit our dreams of having that big one. In reality, the life-sustaining of every child is expensive. From conception to birth, the hospital bills when you don’t have the beneficial tickets was a huge one, the checkups to paediatricians and vitamins they needed.
Because parents had a huge number of children, some children didn't have the check-ups, the vitamins that resulted in malnourishment and were unable to focus well in their studies. I believed that there was no child who wasn’t smart, I think some had problems with studying when they were unfocused because they were hungry.
Take a look at the side where you are the child even living a normal life but you are not hungry, healthy and doing good there's no way that you can't be a smart kid or a kid who could perform well in the class. And a child with a complete set of things not expensive but with different kinds of crayons, pencils, and notebooks there is no way that you will enjoy the schools.
For the brighter future over the old tradition that they need to have more children to have more assets in escaping poverty was a failed plan for me, because some will sacrifice things and more will again repeat as they see to their parents.
Limit the number of your dream children and give them the blessing they must have, health, education and equal love. That's the best strategy to escape poverty because when children see how you loved them there is no way that they will study harder, find their dream job and help their parents. Just my Saturday thought, thanks for reading…
Very precise, we should only bear the children that we can raise. They could be a blessing but they also hold loads of responsibilities. As for myself, I can't even think of having children, least be married, because of how hard life has been these days 😅