Resentment.

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I'm sure, you feel this is an article; defining resentment, its causes and the way out. Well, I hate to burst your bubbles, but... Let's begin:

What could be more better?

He deserves it all. I grew up in the house of a father who found pleasure in my pains, for many years; I suffered grievous beatings in his hands. Days; when he'd press my neck to the ground, days when he'd use a wooden rod to hit my nose; causing it to swell; making me look ugly and scared.

Days... days... I truly suffered...

Days, nights when he'll willfully throw me out of his house, locking me all out, only because I mummured while going to do his bidding, days when he would tear off my clothes; with me trying my best to cover the parts where my private part lies.

Days... days... A father!!

Resentment is what I feel for him through the years, how can I forgive such a man?! It's easier to say the word "forgive" but it's harder to actually do it, I see his face everyday and it makes me feel more pains... pains... pains, oh! resentment knocks so terribly on the doors of my heart...

When I was quite younger, I couldn't fathom what actually happened to my senses, all I know was that my own father almost led me into... into commiting the worst abomination a father and his daughter could ever... All to soothe the desires of his sexual urges.

Oh! You would curiously ask... Where was my mother?

Oh definitely, from the way he treated me, you should know, he had long sent her packing; away from his house.

Resentment.

the harboring of ill-will or anger against someone who you feel has wronged or hurt you in the past, and you couldn't stop it.

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Poverty made him sober, I feel God has his reasons for taking out some people's wealth, now he's all out, looking pitiful and in pains.

There was a day he asked: "Why do you hate me this much?" I hissed and walked out. He has changed, and even if he hasn't, I'm no longer the little girl who was scared of his hands. If he dares touch me again, I definitely can defend myself. I've tried forgiving, it's easier to forgive when I don't look into his eyes... It's easier to forgive him when I'm far away from his house. Believe me I tried...

But...

Whenever I see him, old grudges comes back to relax in my heart. It's easier to tell a story, but how hard it might be; for the readers to understand the pains behind it.

Truly they say; one might never understand the pain of a person, but the person (him)herself.

Years rolled by as my resentment for him grew stronger, oh yes! I did try... Try; forgiving, but my past life just won't let me.

I don't know about your experience with your father, but one thing I know for sure is: "my own experience with him was hardly... ever a father and daughter's bonding."

I'm so filled with hatred, the resentment I feel for him has definitely made me hate the people in the world.

Oh! How can I forgive?.

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As am typing this, there's a gun in my hands. What would you have me do?

Shoot him? Or leave him alive?

Till we meet again in my next article and in yours.

I'm guessing, if I kill him, my next article would be written in jail.

But... What do I do to quench the undying resentment I feel deep inside.

Thanks for reading.

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I really feel upset for you my girl but remember one thing one has to pay back for his/her deeds wearher it's good or bad , it's really hard to forgive but forgiveness is a great act you will feel soo good if you forgive him I know saying all this is much easy and practically it's soo hard , you should change your environment and leave him alone if you'll kill him your own life will be destroyed, you have to stay happy , May God bless you and give you more and more happiness

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2 years ago

Sighs, thanks alot dear. I'll change my environment, πŸ₯Ί you're right. Amen, thanks so much for these kind prayers of yours.

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2 years ago

I have found, my friend, that resentment hurts only the heart of the person who carries it. I too have suffered at the hands of adults as a child, and I remember promising that when I grew up, I would always fight for myself. But this anger, my dear, became a stain, like tar on my heart. This is what resentment does. And it steals your time, it steals your peace, it steals your soul. It makes your heart weary. So my advice to you my dear, is to release this pain. Set this burden down. This is not for him, this is a choice you should make yourself out of love for yourself. And it will not always be easy, because your heart has become accustomed to bearing this pain, so sometimes muscle memory will make you want to take it back up again. Each time that happens though, you must remind yourself to breathe and to let it go. Have a great day.

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2 years ago

Ouch!, I never knew you've been through this hurdle in time past. Sighs... Oh! Trifecta, thanks alot for this brilliant advice. It has really stolen my peace. I'll let this go.

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2 years ago

It's a really big issue, but no issue does not have solution. As it stands now, i will first of all beg you to keep the gun away. Don't kill your dad oh!! Hope you heard me?! I repeat, don't shoot him oh! Because i don't want to hear that my sponsor has been jailed, eenn, that she now writes articles from jail. No, i don't want that for you. Keep the gun away and change environment for now, probably you can also visit the medical professionals, to see if there is a way they could help get the resentment(anger) off you.

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2 years ago

Lol πŸ˜‚ Ayo! You really got me cracked up. I didn't shoot him dear. Thanks for this lovely advice of yours, I really do appreciate it.

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2 years ago

Sometimes it is better to avoid talking to some people that are violent instead of in a dispute so what you will gain is your relaxation and not feeling nervous and anxious which is destructive to our health.

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2 years ago

You have to move forward in this fight. You need to show your dad that he hates what he's doing today.

You said with great difficulty that you will kill your father. Could this be a solution? Forgiveness is a great virtue. Give yourself time even if you can't forgive. Try to think less of the bad past. God will do you good.

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2 years ago

Awwwn, Sonali, thanks alot for this. I'll do this dear friend. I hope he does me good. Thanks Sonali

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2 years ago

I do not even have words for these kind of people.. you are amazing for holding back though.. do you want me to fight them for you?

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2 years ago

Awww, thanks doll, I really do appreciate this. Awww, lol doll, I'll love you to.

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2 years ago

Wow! You nailed the post and I enjoyed reading it. I believe no matter what your dad has done to you, he is still your father, your blood and I don't think shooting him would make you forget such. You just have to forgive him since you saw he has changed. Beautifully written πŸ‘

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2 years ago

The Princess herself, thanks alot for stopping by here, and thanks for the compliment dear princess. Sighs, you're right, I should just forgive him. Thanks alot for this thoughtful reply of yours.

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2 years ago

Wow! The title alone is attention grabbing. Well done sisπŸ‘πŸ»

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2 years ago

Awwwn, thanks alot Sis πŸ’–

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2 years ago

Killing him means staining your hands with blood and you know how that feels.. having the conscience that you've killed someone. Let him Live, if possible distance yourself from him to avoid fueling the anger with his presence

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2 years ago

Wow, this is a really brilliant idea from you Kay, thanks a whole lot for this. This is what I should doπŸ₯Ί

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2 years ago

Choose violence 😁

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2 years ago

Lol, aaah πŸ˜‚ so I'll nau go to jail πŸ₯Ί

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2 years ago

Pheew!!.… You'd be the same as him if you pull the trigger, he doesn't even deserve to die yet.. let him live and see that his plans to make you sour in life wasn't achievable. God knows best.

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2 years ago

Bali, awwn.... Thanks dearest, this is awesome. God knows best indeed dear.

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2 years ago

Shoot your gun up in the roof and move on with your life. You can see a specialist, but I don't think those things work... Just placebo effect. Move on

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2 years ago

Moving on, sighs... Thanks Aimure, I love this idea of yours, really grateful dear friend.

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You're most welcome

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2 years ago

Hmm, I dont even know where to start from, but babe, firstly you need a change of environment and a person that is well matured enough, probably a therapist you can pour out all your anger and resentment for him, I know it can be tough. Resentment can actually turn to a dangerous weapon in ones heart.. Have a blessed day dear

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2 years ago

Sighs... Fash, a change of environment would really be nice and bring with a matured person would also be super nice, thanks alot Fash. Your ideas are really, really brilliant.

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2 years ago

I have heard stories of such emotional and physical abuse a father meted to his own daughter and I'm always short of words. But what I do know is that most young ladies who have had such painful experience usually use it as nothing short of a motivation for their rapid development in order to attain a greater goal in life...

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2 years ago

Indeed it's so painful Bilquees, and yes you're right. Most of them truly use their story as a motivation to achieve a greater goal. This is quite thoughtful, thanks Bilquees for your brilliant contribution.

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2 years ago

O my god that was heart wrenching. I'm feeling bad for you, your life should not be that torture able . And you're also right we can't understand the pain your beard. I don't want you to kill him because I want you to be happy, but still how's this possible seeing him alive all around. What about constitution, can't court give you a justice in a legal way.

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2 years ago

Yes Bibi, indeed it is... Hmmmm, Bibi, you're right, the court should be able to grant me justice. This is brilliant Bibi, thanks alot for your thoughtful contribution.

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2 years ago

She was tortured to the extent that she was left with absolutely no choice. Those terrific experiences have actually been scribbled down on the walls of her memory, making it really hard to let go. Personally, I would advice that she should calm down a bit and not pay evil with evil but guess what? It's actually easier said than done. PTSD is a thing.

She may never recover until she does what she feels is the "needful".

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2 years ago

Indeed Chief, you're right. Thanks so much for this thoughtful advice of yours.

PTSD got me lost. Thanks for stopping by Chief.

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2 years ago

I think the best you should do is to leave him so he can live alone and maybe you should live with your mother or one of her family. I’m waiting unto your next article.

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2 years ago

Wow! Allboy, this is a great advice. I really should do this. Thanks alot dear friend.

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