Why I'm Single For Almost 23 Years

I'll be turning 23 years old more than 2 months from now and while people expect that at that age, you probably already have some experiences when it comes to your romantic love life, it is not the case for me. While others my age are already getting engaged, and some are even already married and building their families, I'm just here having a crush on someone who will probably never be mine or just collecting a bunch of Korean Oppas that I call my husbands. Lol

Some of you probably know that I've never been into any kind of serious or long-term type of relationship. In fact, I belong to the "No Boyfriend Since Birth" club. However, I too have had my fair share of love stories and heartaches, and some of them, I even talked about in my previous blogs.

Now, the point of this article is that I want to talk about Why I'm single for almost 23 years. When I signed up on a dating app called OkCupid and whenever I share with some guys that I've matched with that I haven't had a boyfriend all my life, they usually ask why. So let me grab this opportunity to explain my side and probably, there are also some NBSBs there who can relate with me.

1. Strict Parents

Well, it is just normal to have strict parents, especially if you are the only daughter they have. Back when I was in High School, my only routine was to go to school and come home right after class. I remember, when my mother found out that I was having a crush on a student in the higher year and texting with him, she confiscated my phone right away. She scolded me and told me that I should focus on my studies first instead of entertaining any guy out there. So I got afraid, and after that incident, I didn't bother texting any guy anymore.

2. Focus on my studies

From elementary to High School, I have been an honor student and since I was a little competitive in our class, I wanted to focus on my studies to maintain my high grades so that I would always be included as one of the honor students. And I brought that trait into my college life, so I didn't really have time to meet and entertain guys from different colleges. In fact, I only know a few guys in college since I didn't want to be out and about to try and meet new people.

3. Proving people they're wrong

When I was in High School, I remember some teachers used to gossip about me and they think that I will not even graduate from High School because I will already get pregnant in Grade 9 and get married right away. They thought I won't be able to finish my studies because they thought that I'm "Malandi" or "Flirty" because of my physical appearance. I was only in Grade 8 when I heard these teachers talk about me so I really wanted to prove they were wrong about me.

And now, I'm already a college graduate, but I still haven't had a boyfriend, how much more about getting pregnant and getting married? Lol

4. Being Ghosted and Ghosting (Pushing people away from me)

Well, in my 22 years of existence, I can say that there were a few good guys who wanted to pursue me but we didn't end up together because they ended up ghosting me or I ended up ghosting them. When I ghost guys, it's only because they're not in my league or that he is just too rich for me so we're not on the same level. I remember this one guy whom I always went out with to eat back in my freshman year in college when I found out that his family is rich and always having foreign country trips, I immediately distanced myself away from him because he deserved someone better. Lol! Well, I'm actually happy for those guys who used to be a part of my life that they now have happy and long-term relationships. I wish them all well.

5. It's not yet time

I really believe that there is a perfect time for everything and just because you want something now, doesn't mean it's already time for it. While I'm already turning 23 and I feel that I'm now ready to be in a relationship, destiny just keeps telling me that it's not time yet. Perhaps, I still need to work on making myself better to be the best version of myself before I found the one for me. So instead of finding the one, I should work on being the right one first.

Perhaps, another reason why I'm single is that I want my first boyfriend to be my last and that if I will date, I will date to marry. I don't want to be in so many "trial and error" relationships because I don't think my heart could afford to experience so many heartbreaks in life so I'll just really wait for the right person, at the right time, and right place.

There are so many reasons why I've been single my whole life and perhaps, the best reason is that I'm not really the "Jowable" type. Lols! 😂

Anyway, if you're still single right now, don't worry. The right man will find you. And while he's not yet around, let's work on achieving our goals first.

Cheers to singlehood! ✨