Be Your Own Motivation!

This morning I read a post on a Facebook page that I have been following for quite a while now. The Female Hustlers says,

"Let no one discourage your ambitious attitude. You don't need a fan club to achieve your goals. Be your own motivation."

This quotation hit me right through my core. I acknowledge I really am a highly ambitious person. I have so many goals and dreams that I want to pursue, and I am working so hard every single day to achieve all of them. Every day I find something that I want to do and I give my best to attain and achieve it.

However, sometimes, I get so excited about fulfilling the goals that I end up sharing them with my friends, family, and relatives, and even with strangers just like when I write about them through my articles. They know I am quite ambitious, but sometimes, I still get a negative response or feedback from them. Like they would question my capabilities about fulfilling my goals, and they would also advise me to stop dreaming huge things because I might end up disappointed when I don't reach them. They also think that I am just being arrogant about my dreams.

I totally understand their point, but sometimes, their messages become words of discouragement to me that I end up thinking if I still should go for it. I lose the confidence that I have been building for years. I also get to doubt myself because of the words I have heard from the people that are special to me.

I admit every time I share my plans for the future, I expect them to give some words of encouragement for me to keep reaching for my goals. But what I like to hear is not exactly what is spoken to me.

So I realized that if I keep telling them about my plans, I would end up being distracted by their negativity that might lead me to not working for my goals.

"Showing them your results is much more effective than sharing your plans."

This is another quotation that I read from The Female Hustlers' page and I totally agree with it.

Back in High School, I would always share the goals that I want to achieve in the future. Doing so did not give any benefit to me, instead, I just doubted myself. But when I stepped into college, I learned to keep my plans only to myself, and I would only show people the results of my hard work.

"Work hard in silence. And let your success be the noise."

When I was in High School, I told my friends that I will buy land and build my own house someday. They only laughed at me like what I said was a joke. I also told them that I will be able to travel alone to some places that I want to visit. They thought that would be impossible because it is quite risky. I told them we should start saving money but they told me to just live life to the fullest, and that we only live once. I told them we should start investing, but they told me money is supposed to be spent. I told them to start thinking and planning about the future but they told me to just live in the now.

One of the financial mentors that I have been following says that if my circle of friends does not want to talk about serious stuff, then I should find another circle to be with. This is probably the reason why I have only a few good friends, which is totally fine with me.

I have been sharing so much, but they have been ignoring my calls. This is why I decided to only keep things to myself. But when they start noticing that I am slowly fulfilling my goals, they would then congratulate me as if they did not doubt me in the first place.

I admit I myself still get to share some of my goals with some of my friends, but I have learned to only listen to words that will empower me. I still learn to accept constructive criticisms, but if it's just purely discouragement, I wouldn't give my time thinking about it.

I have been living my life trying to prove everyone wrong. I think it's now time to live my life according to my own terms.

The bottom line is that you don't need a lot of people to believe in your abilities. You know yourself better than they do. So if you have a lot of goals and dreams that you want to pursue, go on and don't stop. Because the moment you let their words affect you, that's when you lose the confidence you have in yourself.

Be your own motivation. Be your own cheerleader. Be there for yourself when no one is around to lift your spirit up. It's your life and future that are at stake not them, so be fearless and courageous in the pursuit of your goals.