Heart to heart talk with my auntie: Her marriage is about to fail

Yesterday was filled with love and laugh. My aunties and uncles visited us because they want to have a small reunion. This reunion always happened every Thursday of the holy week. It was a tradition. They came here with lots of food and gift. I don’t get why they have gifts and give it to us. Maybe they felt like giving. Anyways, I am truly grateful to what I received yesterday. I did not expect it.

I was busy writing an article yesterday in front of our house. In the middle of my writing, my aunt sat down beside me. I thought she was just there to get some air because its quite hot inside. She started to talk about my uncle. Alright, my uncle and my mother are siblings. Meaning, she is my aunt and everything she said was a revelation about what’s really going on in their family.

Just a short background and history. I really envy their family because to all of my aunt’s and uncle’s, they are the richest and seemingly perfect family. However, what I saw is just a shade outside of their family’s shadow. I envy their children which is my cousins because they can get whatever they want. Their eldest son is one year older than me. I respected and adored him. He is handsome, I admit that. He is good at math, it’s true. He is in a good body shape, it’s a fact.

All I thought ever since I was young is that they are the good model family. The family I want to have and to be with. However, it changed drastically after I heard what’s the struggle of their family. My aunt smiled at me and he asked me how I am. Of course, I narrated how’s my week and my exam’s results. It’s fantastic because I almost perfect all of my exams.  I continued my storytelling until I ran out of words. She’s still smiling and enjoying what she was hearing.

“That’s good to hear about you Denn! You seem satisfied and happy. I know you will reach your dream soon and you will make us proud”, she said.

You know what I was just stunned and my heart is flattered. I never thought that I would hear something like that from my aunt. In fact, that aunt of mine is quite serious and has this intimidating aura. She’s my least favourite aunt of all. To hear those words from her is mind-blowing. Of course, I smiled back and asked her the same question right away. Then that is the start of our heart to heart talk.

When she found out my uncle is cheating

In previous years, I had a hint that her husband which is my uncle has doing something wrong. Meaning, he has something addicted to. The first thing she shared about me is about how she caught my uncle having an affair. Although, I knew that before but I didn’t know the whole story and what exactly happened. She narrated that she had this feeling, a women’s instinct that kept bugging to spy my uncle. And she did. My uncle went to a private resort in Laguna. He told my aunt that it is only for work, a business meeting or sort. My aunt stayed in the resort and after two hours of waiting. The scene she don’t want to happen, happened. She saw my uncle hug and kiss the girl. As much as she wanted to confront my uncle, she retreated. But she took some photos and videos.

When my uncle went home later night, she confronted him right away with kids asleep. My uncle fabricated a story and until she showed the photos and videos. My uncle cannot speak and deny it. That’s how their family started to have crack. I believe I was only 9 or 10 years old when the cheating happened.

My uncle's casino addiction

The second trial in their marriage was when my uncle started addicting to casino. Although he’s winning at first but kept loosing at the end. My uncle won’t stop playing in the casino until she seek help to my grandparents. My grandpa educated him with good words as my aunt said. Grandpa kept telling that if he still continued that wrongdoing he will banish in the family for good. Thankfully, my uncle stopped visiting and playing in the casino.

The drug addiction

However, years had passed my aunt told me that my uncle started to loose weight. She thought that maybe he is sick or something. She asked my uncle to go with her in the hospital for check up but my uncle always decline. Until she found out that my uncle is trying the illegal drug. Of course, you know what kind of drug it is. That’s the struggle that lasts for about 3 years. It started on year 2019, and as of today fortunately my uncle stopped and recovering.

As I listened to her, my heart felt a sudden pain. A pain that came from out of nowhere. It is shocking! I was shocked in the whole story. That’s a story that I do not know until she opened it to me. She said that she did it because she don’t want me to do the same thing as what my uncle did. She kept educating her kids, my cousins about what’s the struggle of their family.

In the end of our conversation, she told me to pursue my dreams whatever happens. Just continue studying and work wise after. She advised me if ever I will get married, you have to be prepared to change and learn to forgive. It is because at the end of the day, she and my uncle is husband and wife in the eye of God and man’s law. They swore an oath and it is valid until lifetime.

Thank you for reading!