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I Didn't Know That! Christmas Countdown: 2 This has nothing to do with Christmas, but the most recent couple of days, the site been acting kind of weird and thus, I needed to augment my time disconnected enjoying more with my daughter. Since it's Christmas vacation, I needed to ensure I spend it meaningfully. So beside being with my daughter, I additionally have been chilling watching series like 90-Day Fiance. I had to watch the series from Season 1 all over again to present. I just find it very interesting. It's exceptionally intriguing to find out about different cultures and traditions from all over the world particularly about relationships and marriage. Wondering for no specific reason. Just curious. So have of it just stunned me. **Let's take some examples of traditions that shocked me in the reality show:** **In Nigeria, if the wife cannot bear a child due to infertility or some medical issues, the husband is allowed to find another woman whom he could have a child and that's legal to them. Whew! Shocking!**
*One couple in the show had this problem (Angela Deem from the US and Michael Elisanmi from Nigeria). Angela at that time was 54 years old if I am not mistaken and Michael was only 31. In one of the episodes, Angela was searching out the assistance of a gynecologist prior to getting hitched. The specialist had cautioned her that she could be confronting the danger of having malignant pregnancy. On hearing the news Michael felt distressed yet in addition re-considered their future together. Michael's desire to be a dad, coupled up with his family's tensions might have driven him to require a subsequent spouse, yet this was positively not what Angela would need.* **In Kenya, the groom-to-be is obliged to pay the "Bride Price". A bride price is a way of saying "Thank You" to the-bride-to be's parents you for raising her to a certain point. This should not be lesser than $800-1000 as of my understanding based on the show.**
*Also one couple had this issue. (Benjamin Taylor from the US and Akinyi Obala from Kenya). Benjamin was 33 and Akinyi was 26. The couple met online and Benjamin at first feared Akinyi was a catfish. Benjamin is a very conservative kind of guy especially with reagards to his Christian values. Benjamin met Akinyi's family interestingly when he got to visit Kenya for the first time. At the very least, there were major social contrasts. Akinyi's family felt he wasn't a lot of an "alpha" male. Akinyi's big brother explicitly was extremely uncertain with Benjamin.* *Benjamin couldn't pay the "bride price" he initially suggested (worth of 80,000 shillings or roughly around $800 US dollars). As for Akinyi's family, that amount is already "very low" compared to her schooling which costs around $3,000 US dollars. Akinyi's father had the option to work out an installment plan for Benjamin thus might end him up paying portions for a long while since he never mentioned the exact amount to pay.* **In Syria and other Muslin countries, the parents of the bride need to pay the "dowry money". To me is is very similar to the "Bride Price" in Kenya.**
*Maybe one of my favorites couple in 90-Day Fiance (Avery Mills from The US and Omar Albakkur of Syria) They are very young, but they seemed to be the most mature couples I've seen yet. Avery was only 19 at that time and Omar was only 25.* *The night prior to Omar and Avery's wedding, Omar welcomes Teri Mills (Avery's mom) to dinner. They discussed about the dowry money for Avery. Omar disclosed to his prospective relative that paying cash to Avery's family is compulsory in their culture. He takes note of that the cash should monetarily help the spouse in the event separation or divorce happens. Although Teri agreed, she appeared to be awkward with putting a dowry money on Avery as though she's selling her daughter. Omar guarantees her that paying the share is possibly intended to help Avery monetarily when the need emerges.*
There were many other cultures I've seen that truly shocked me, like tattoos are prohibited in Muslim countries etc., but who am I to judge? That's their tradition and I fully respect that. I myself is also married to a foreigner for almost 10 years now. During our first years of being a couple, there were some culture shocks happened. Like a lot. We also have different religious views. I am Catholic and my husband was baptized as Presbyterian. As the years go by, we started embracing our differences and that's a good thing.
Almost all relationships are somewhat culturally diverse. Culture isn't just with regards to the things we can see. It's not just with regards to the food, the clothing, the things they love, or even the places they live. Culture is generally imperceptible. A lot of what we do, say, think, accept, and somewhat, feel is formed by the way of life we come from. I wish you all a good day, my friends. One love, @Bloghound Find me on noise.cash https://noise.cash/u/wickedsoul `#Bloghound #Bloghoundism and I am a member of #ClubBrokeBch` December 23, 2021 3:00 pm Philippines `(The last photo is my own and taken by me unless stated otherwise)` Copyright @Bloghound 2021. All Rights Reserved. https://read.cash/@Bloghound/no-price-tag-85d0926d#copyright-at-bloghound-2021-all-rights-reserved `To my wonderful and amazing daily readers and my generous sponsors (old and new - TOO MANY OF YOU TO MENTION), from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!`
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Amg tangkad ng hubby mo madam .
Uu, sis hehe. Buti nakuha ng anak ko height nya hehe.
Nanood ako before ng 90 days fiancee ate tas ung napanood ko ung kay rose saka ung dun sa may walang leeg baeon? Then sumunod ung pinay tas yung tagaibang bansa pero di nilantanggap yung pinay. Ang ganda tingnan kapag sweet not until magaway sa harap ng cam 😅. Ay tekaa, ang cutee. Ako 4'11 rin HAHAHAHA partner ko 4'11 rin HAHAHAHAAH
haha yung kay rose ang tumalo sa lahat, sis 😁
*Dito sa area namin sis which is mostly Muslims, yung Dowry ang pinakaimportante bago makasal ang isang couple. Yung sa kaibigan ko, yung 16 years old na anak niya na kinasal binigyan sila ng 100k sa pamilya ng lalaki.*
Ang mahal naman magpakasal sa kanina, sis no? Huhu
*Oo sis mahal talaga, sa future mas lalaki pa yung dowry nila kaya kung may anak na lalaki, mag iipon na talaga pang dowry*
sakap, besh 😬
Sounds like a series with many cultural diversity imbibed into the story. Though, in Nigeria, the liberty to marry another woman is becoming obsolete, as modernization and Christianity is against that. Although, polygamy used to be a strong part of our society, that is not the case now. Many Nigerian polygamists you will see now are usually Muslims. As their religion permits it. That is not to say manyNigerian men don't have extramarital affairs outside their marriage, they do. Same way it is done is many parts of the world. And Nigerians pay bride price too like the Kenyans. The only reason the Nigerian in the show didn't pay bride price is simply because he was marrying an American woman. Merry Christmas Bloghound 🤶🏿
Oh!!! Thank you for the clarrification, Aimure. Merry Christmas to you too, my friend!
I didn't know that is really a perfect topic to give this article cos alot of things were new to me. This has been thoroughly informative, nice one!
Thank you, Talon.
Series which gives knowledge of so many different cultures.
Indeed, Rakhi 😊
Yung dowry at price bride ate same² lang sila. Yung dowry naranasan namin yan yung ikinasal kuya ko sa babaeng muslim as in lahat ng gastos sa kasal samin talaga good thing lang is half muslim yung babae kaya hindi masyado malaki yung dowry.
now ko lang nalaman, sis. although may mga muslim din akong friends personally.
Hindi ako sure ate😂 observation ko lang kasi😂 Mas malaki amg dowry pag educated you muslim na babae at galing sa pamilyang may kaya at "datu"
oh wow
in my culture, the groom is should present six boxes of assorted dresses to before the wedding would hold. This would show whether the man is really capable.... Morning ma'am ,my regards to your address your daughter ☺
Different country different culture but to be honest I am against all the dowry system and multi marriage system. By the way marrying a foreigner is interesting and beautiful it also brings out a good evolution.
I think the dowry thing started in their tradition long long time ago and just passed it on to the new generation, so we have to show some respect to that :)
Culture is closely related to life in an area. it sounds very strange but that's the customs and culture handed down by their ancestors. if I might marry in their area I might sacrifice my culture.
I have to agree with you, frenly :)
Different countries different traditions :) In Poland we also have a variation of the bride price 💙
Truly, Monika. I think there are also some parts here the Philippines where they do practice the dowry thing. Some tribes but not just sure who are they have to research more :) Good afternoon, sis!
I remember my ex husband brought jewellery and cash for me 😅 But it is also a tradition in the South of Poland where my parents now live. My family from other parts of Poland was surprised by this.
Iba't iba talaga yung culture, and every culture has a shocking truth for why is to why and what is to what.
Indeed, sis. Kaya dapat respect lang basta di ka naaapakan :) Good afternoon.
I can testify to the infertility problem in Nigeria especially from Yoruba tribe. If the woman doesn't give birth as at when they were expecting her, they would find a young wife for the man. I see this as nonsense because no one is greater than God. Also, not only in Kenya do they pay bride price. They do that especially in the Eastern part of Nigeria too. Thanks for sharing this beautiful article about some cultures.
Oh, thanks for the info. Princess. I sure would love to research on this one.
Alright ma 👍
xoxo
In our area they also give bride price, and this happens at weddings. It is not a huge sum of money, but as a symbol from past times. Also, a bride does not leave her family empty-handed! She has a "dowry (pridanoe)" which is prepared all her life by the bride's family and can be anything. From blankets and pillows to a large sum of money. Without this "pridanogo" a girl was not married either! Thanks for the extended sponsorship❤
I'm learning a lot. Thank you, Belo! And you're always welcome 😊
That tradition is no longer popular here in Nigeria. In ancient Nigeria it was dominant but in present day it isn't. The bride price paid in Kenya is also paid here in Nigeria but not as much as that. It's a little token to seal the marriage, some family reject it a with the reply that "the daughter isn't for sale"
Laging may dowry sa muslim sissy pero di nmn kalakihan ang halagang nakasaad sa original na paniniwala namin pero sa panahon ngaun sumama sa new generation ang laki ng dowry nakakaloka na nga hahaha parang benebenta na
In our region, the groom pays the dowry
Different countries and different stories. But the marriage is the bond of being together forever.
Each countries have there own traditions and we must respect that.
The beauty of difference really shows among those couples. I never knew any kind of dowry money for marriage and it's quite weird personally for me to pay someone for raising their own child (?), well the more we know about traditions!
Your husband is the same height as me (6'3" 😁). What you said about Nigeria is true, the traditional marriage here is tailored to favor the men and many people don't even know that. This is the reason why it's recommended that a couple do a church wedding or a court marriage (this one is even better) to protect the woman too from things like taking another wife. But even women that have done court wedding still don't know the kind of power they hold 😀 ignorance is very bad
Merry Christmas sis!!! love love!
You too, sis. Thank you 😘
In our area like you've stated above which is Nigeria,the man is allowed to marry another wife is she doesn't conceive a child for the man and there's also some that whenever the bride gives birth to a female child continuously the man is subject to take in another wife that can bear him a male child as they said it's important.
Merry Christmas sis, nashookt ako dun sa tradition ng Nigeria. Share ko lang, this is not about marriage but giving birth naman. Sa mga Badjao, when a mom gives birth, the baby will be thrown in the water, pag lumutang, sa kanila ang baby if not, then there's nothing they can do about it. Not sure though if nagbago natong tradition nato. Btw, ang tangkad pala ng hubby mo hehe. Sinliit lang tayo.
Omg that's kind of sad, sis huhu!
It is, sis. Nashock din ako when I learned about it.
Ayus sa nigeria ahh hahaha... Pero bad dito yan sa ph, papatayin cguro ako kung ganyan tahahaha
A very informative post. Some things I didn't know. Thanks for sharing. Merry christmas my friend!
Pag nagbasa pa tayo mg ibang tradirions, actually, mas mashshock pa tayo. Pero sa kanila, normal yon. Grabe talaga nagagawa ng cultures. And we are all encouraged to respect tge differences.
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