Social Media and Peers

Almost all of us here I guess have their social media accounts. Others may have more than one account, say for example Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.

How long have you been using one of these? How was your experience so far?

Honestly speaking I have created five Facebook dummy accounts. The first and original account was created 2009 and deactivated 2012. Then for some reason I created a new one for my personal account in 2012 and finally decided to leave Facebook completely only in December 2020. Yes, it’s been six months now that I no longer use it and have no more connections with my personal friends on Facebook or even my relatives. I just want to vanish myself on such toxic social media these days. I just get tired of my old schoolmates posting rants. Then another would post hatred to a friend we both know. The rest would post their grievances and some would brag of their wealth. What really annoys me was the post of my high school schoolmate who is now a priest. He would post his luxury car and dirt bike. I was kind of, what duff! Seriously, are those really necessary, as a priest?! 

I only have Instagram and Twitter but I rarely visit them.

Facebook Noob

Back in 2009 when I was just new to FB, I was kind of active during those days. My friends and I at work have found ways to browse the internet for free. Those are the days when Nokia phones were dominating but were dying. It was killed by android smartphones.

So what I did with FB was to post nonsense things as other users do. Then I tend to bully my FB friends but I only do that to my real close friends. You know if you have close friends with you it’s normal that you’ll be doing things like teasing and bullying each other. The “Poke” feature was kind of cute on FB at that time.

As years went by with Facebook, cyber bullying became trending.  So, I don’t normally post photos of myself because I don’t want to be bashed or bullied by my friends. I also stopped teasing my friends when they would upload photos of themselves or change their profile picture.

You know some people, even our friends, have the habit of criticizing others or dislike whenever they see something new to us. Often they would disagree whenever we tell them something good. Or tell promising things like business opportunities or sources of income.

Always on the loop

For example, in my previous work place, we have a coworker who tends to disagree with everything we tell him. He will insist on what he knows. Like when I say something, “Hey, check this out I have a new server for my free internet on my phone.” Then he will respond like, “Yeah, I already know that. I have read in some forums. It’s kind of slow but I have not tested it yet.”

He was like everything that you know, he already knew it before you could share it with him. You know, like a person who doesn’t seem to want to leave behind the trend. He was always up to date. Sometimes we argue but we don’t fight.

There were also times when my friend would ask me about updates of a certain app, I would tell him to go ask our friend instead, for sure he always has an answer. He was always on the loop.

People like him was helpful sometimes. You know he was like a journalist that he knew even the love stories of famous local actors.

Sometimes it is not bad to disagree or to contradict. We just have to show it at the right moment and at the right place.

Going back on a Facebook post for example, even if the person is your close friend you can’t just make a comment on his post that would make him feel uneasy. Remember that most of our friends on social media don’t know each other and the worst was that we don’t even know some of our friends on FB. Particularly the teenage kids these days. They tend to compete with each other’s number of FB friends. Unless you are making your account secure then you will never have to worry about harsh comments or jokes on your post.

Giving and receiving criticism

If we are in a certain group of people, it is also not good to just show our dislike to our friend.  We will just humiliate him in front of other people.

We may be playful sometimes but making fun of someone's photo is not a laughing matter. Let's have some respect. Even if you feel like having a dislike, don't show it in a harmful manner.

On the other hand if we are the ones receiving the negative feedback. We can just ignore them. Or show kindness in return.

I, for example, am very sensitive to criticism. I tend to easily raise my adrenaline if I receive destructive criticism. I am a short-tempered person. 

I know that some of my readers would tend to disagree with some of the things I said in my posts. I am not saying that you should always agree. We always have the right to express our own understanding to anything.

Whether we give or receive criticism, we should treat each other as what we ought to be. We should always be looking at our attitude and don’t let somebody choose it for us.

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