Mariage Blanc

In other words, it is called an " arranged" marriage. As the name implies,it means when a young man marries a young woman in order to fulfill their family's wish of them marrying each other. The two families would have definitely known each other for a very long time in which alot of favors had been granted from both sides.

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It might be that the heads of the two families were childhood friends or have business partners for a sometime. And now, they have finally decided to cement their relationship forever by uniting the two families through the marriage if their children.

In my parts of the country, the region where such a marriage is prevalent is the northern region, where I also live. In some families, a girl's parents might have already informed her about the man she'd get married to in the nearest future. He might be a cousin, a father's friend, a son to a father's friend or business partner who she must have known since she was a child. Sometimes, she might not even know who the person is until weeks before the wedding.

Due to the strong religious inclinations of this ethnic group.a girl willingly accepts whoever her parents have chosen for her in most cases. Afterall, the religion commands that parent's wishes should always be respected and carried out by the child, so long as it doesn't lead to disobedience of the creator.

No need to mention that divorce is also quite prevalent in this particular region more than the other parts of the country. Recently, I met a woman of thirty five who had been married four times and had been divorced four times. It's possible that more than half of these men were chosen for her by her parents. Before the end of next month, she will be getting married to another man who probably had been approved by her parents. A marriage of convenience rather than love.

It has also been noticed that such marriages have lower divorce rates. This is because the families of the couples would almost always intervene and immediately solve their marital issues for them. Afterall, the marriage was originally their idea and they'd do anything to make it work. Since it was for the interest of the two heads of the families and not for the children.

In more conservative families, dating is actually forbidden. This is because it is believed that it would lead to the corruption of a young virgin girl by "michevious" boys around. So, a girl's parents might think it wise to immediately marry her out to a young man they are very familiar with, who they could vouch for his integrity, hardwork and other admirable qualities they think that young man possesses

This type of reasoning on the side of the parent can be flawed. We have heard true stories handful of girls who got married to their parents' choice but still engaged in secret affairs with the man they truly loved. And when she's finally caught and thrown out by her parents' "anointed" husband, the shame would be on her entire family I guess. .......How do you expect a very young woman to spend the rest of her life with a man she never loved?

Conversely , the "God fearing" man recommended by her parents might turn into a monster few months into the marriage

Although, there have also been alot of succeses in such marriages. I have seen where girls that were forced to marry people they don't know but are now happy and grateful to their parents. I have also seen girls who disobeyed their parents and got married to the "love of their lives" but the marriage later turned out to be their worst nightmare.

So you see, such marriages are not that bad. Afterall, some of our mothers and grandmothers got married in a very similar way. Although some of them were never forced as they were allowed to accept or refuse a suitor. By the way, I am fully aware that the times have changed and such practices are becoming obsolete.

Sometimes, such a marriage is not always initiated by the parents. A young man in his early or mid thirties who is very busy with his career or business might not have the time to search for soul mate. So, he might decide to entrust the duty of searching of a suitable girl for marriage to his mom. And ofcourse, mothers have the knack for choosing just the perfect wife for their sons, Lol.

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