Breaking promises.

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These were the last words of a young single mother shortly after before she took her own life in june 2021. It leaves one to imagine the kind of heartbreak and pains she had been through as regards to an important promise that was broken by someone she holds dear.

Going through with suicide despite being a mother to a young child that is expected to give her hope and courage to survive simply shows the extent of her misery.

Making false promises to someone just to keep them or having your fun with them especially when you know you don't have feelings for them is absolutely wrong and inhumane. I only wondered how many betrayals she had been through in the past, before deciding to end it all.

Hurting others by breaking the big promises you made to them is indeed a great sin just like any other terrible sin. Especially when the person had good intentions towards you and never did anything bad to warrant such a disgrace.

Such a betrayal would definitely meet his karma in the nearest future and also incur the wrath of God in the afterlife.

It's quite disappointing that alot of folks are fond of giving others false hope by making promises that they have no intention of fulfilling. What makes this more appalling is that you were never forced to promise anyone anything . As a matter of fact, I have observed that alot of people who go back on their words had made the promise on their own accord without being cajoled.

I understand that sometimes, we just have to promise something to an unhappy friend or loved one just to cheer them up and make them feel better. It might be that we might even forget about what was promised as soon as they are out of our sight. Not carrying out your words could even make them feel worse afterwards.

Even if you had been under pressure about making a promise that you think you wouldn't be able to keep, it is always more honorable to admit that the circumstances are beyond your control as soon as you find out that things might not go as planned. Even if the person becomes dissapointed at you, they'd definitely realize that you meant well when they later calm down. And ofcourse, they'd later come to respect you for not taking them for a ride. Your words would always be trusted afterwards since you have proved that you are an individual with integrity.

We all have had personal experiences of tonnes of unfulfilled promises made to us by a parent, sibling, friend, or colleague. I have come to observe that in most cases, we don't feel bad not because we couldn't get what was promised but because the person whom we had trusted so much had dissapointed us again.

Personally speaking, this is one of the reasons why I hardly promise, not even to a child, so that I wouldn't be portrayed in bad light if things don't work out. I simply tell the individual that "I will see what I can do to help"or "I will try to help you to the best of my abilities". No one really know what might happen the next minute and how favorable conditions might be. And if I couldn't deliver, I wouldn't be afraid to tell them about it and in most cases they come to understand.

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I couldn't read the writing because of the language, but wow, I think suicide has to be seen as the result of a disease and not as a coldly thought-out act, that is, no matter how programmed it is. has been, behind it is depression, any mental or emotional disorder that has not been treated. Perhaps that person was struggling not to do it, but his mind played tricks on him

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I am the type of person that keeps his word when I give them. That's why I often don't say "I PROMISE" as I know I would want to do anything I can to possibly fulfill it. As for the suicide, I don't think any reason is good enough to do that to yourself an your kid. Oh well.

Lest I forget, Eid Mubarak Bil.

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Thank you Aimure. Sending you blessings from here 😁

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2 years ago

Bilqees. No mutton added to the blessings?

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Reading that wonan's last note, i was close to tears. She must have been hurt deeply but the broken promises. I wish people consider the effect of a broken promise before committing or making a promise.

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2 years ago

Some people are just self centered. That's how their heart have been made, they would never show empathy

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2 years ago

Nobody should make promises that they can't keep to people. It's can be really heart breaking when you're on the on other end of having a promise made to you get broken at the moment of need.

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Damn, for her to take her own life must have been a tough decision, which means the heartbreak is a very big one. This is the reason why I don't expect much from people, even when I am promised something I don't put all hopes on it been fulfilled, that's the easiest way to avoid disappointments and regrets

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2 years ago

That's sad to give promises that we can't keep. Be careful with words. They can hurt so much more than actions.

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2 years ago

It´s always so sad to see people not fulfilling their promises especially when you know such a person might depend on that and you cut their expectations. It´s better not to promise at all than making promises and not bringing it to pass. It´s so disheartening the young woman took her life because she was disappointed.

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2 years ago

It's better to just flow with word you said, making promises is way worse, raising people's hopes is just as bad as stabbing them with a knife. I feel for that woman though, it's really saddening; she had to end her life. It's just better to trust God than to trust in mere mortals.

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2 years ago

That's it o my dear. I have already prepared my mind in expecting disappointment from anybody no matter the role they play in my life. Although it may hurt, but so long as they are not God, I think I would be fine

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2 years ago

Dear Bilqees, I completely agree with you, it isn't right at all to make promises to others, but not to keep our promises. By doing this, we give hope to that person, but in the end we do nothing for him. However, some people also use promises to their advantage. They try to deceive the other party and then they break their promises, in order to they do what they are asked them. As you said, karma is this world, and they will definitely answer for their evils.

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2 years ago

Exactly dear Ellen. We should never toy with the feelings of others

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That's so emotional, for the woman to take her life she must have passed through a lot. Aside promising for fun, I don't see any reason for making promise when you fully know that you don't have the capacity. For God's sake, no one will take your life if fail promise.

I'm the type that says it out on the spot Whether I have what you're asking for or not. Giving someone promise on things you're expecting is not ideal too

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2 years ago

It's not good at all. Infact one can lose respect others have for him

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2 years ago

That's just it. But the political sector it's not like this and I raise hand for them. Infact the more politicians promise and fail, the more people trip for them🤣

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2 years ago

This is why they said we should never make a promise when we are too excited or make a decision when we are too sad. Many people promise what they can't deliver or what they think they can deliver in the heat of their excitement only for realization to set in and they fall off the wagon. Those who don't understand the value of words throw it carelessly with no hope of keeping it. It's honourable to keep to one's word. There is dignity in it.

Most people make a promise just to soothe someone for that time being not knowing that that person might depend on it.

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2 years ago

This is so true sir. How I wish the alot of people would get to see this

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2 years ago

🤗🤗🤗 anytime.

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