A narcissistic personality

Anyway I believe most of us must have already know about this disorder but anyways..... NPD as it is commonly called is a behavioral specific where a person always want to be dominant, egocentric and selfish. With an absence of compassion and thoughtfulness, such an individual bears an exergerated feeling of self-worth and tends to behave lordly over others.

A narcissist could be anybody from a parent, sibling, friend, classmate or colleague. A narcissist would always like to associate with a person who have a lower self esteem. They wouldn't dare mess with you if you are the kind of person that have much confidence and positive image about yourself. I'm quite sure that we all have cut off such toxic people from our life at one point or the other . Such persons derives satisfaction when he/she finally finds someone who they could easily manipulate and kick around at will.

You could be able to see the early signs that your partner is a narcissist, but most times, they tend to hide their real character. Ofcourse a narcissist would know that you would avoid him the sooner you get to realize who they truly are. Just like the way others have been avoiding him. Hence, a narcissist could be deliberately very impressive at the beginning of a friendship and this might cause you to fall head over heels in love with the person. But when things begin to get serious between you both and probably lead to marriage......Viola! The mask falls off and they instantly change.

They begin to find it difficult not to get angry at the slightest mistake. Always wanting to maintain a commanding control and presence that could choke the living daylight out of you. They become more and more suspicious of the calls you make and every step you take. And when you begin to complain about such unnecessary complains and disgusting behaviors, things might get uglier, thus resulting to a verbal or physical abuse.

The disorder could suddenly be triggered by some unfortunate circumstances and stresses that overwhelms a sufferer. Such as a past betrayal, an embarrassing moment or mistake, a business deal gone bad. And ofcourse a narcissist would always find a scapegoat to take the fall.

What's worse is that a person who is in love with a narcissist always have this feeling of inferiority towards their partner. they'd always think they are inadequate, or not smart enough. But no matter how hard the scapegoat tries to make things work between them, the narcissist is never impressed. As a matter of fact, things could get worse.

Having a sibling or parent who is a narcissist is just as bad. A narcissist Mom or Dad never fails to criticize you at the slightest error. They would always magnify your mistakes even to outsiders but whisper your succeses, that's if they would ever mention it. A guy once told me about how he spent late nights and early mornings studying so that he could top his class and make his father proud and celebrate him atleast for once. But guess what, his father never said a word to him for months since there was nothing bad he could say against him again.

Infact, you could even help a narcissist friend or sibling fight off his perceived "enemies" and when there's no one else to fight, they wouldn't hesitate to bring the fight home to you.

Unfortunately, a narcissist might not be aware that he/she have such a disorder. Such a person always see his/her self as perfect. They always want to be heard even if they have absolutely nothing to say. They seem so convinced that every other person is saying nonsense. It's always their duty to disagree in a matter where the ninety nine percent have agreed. When you try to point out a error in their points or opinions, they'd rather put it on someone else or blame circumstances than admit. They always feel that their logic is flawlessly undeniable.

Sadly, a narcissist may never change and this disorder may get worse . This is because as an individual grows older, the ego also grows...

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