Don't help her up!

We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone.

Ronald Reagan

The above statement poses a question, why?.

Why shouldn't I help her?

Why should I let her be when I could have helped?

The below short true-life event will give more glimpse into the statement made.

I left work early today for a friend's place after she called me on urgent matters.

After going on and on with the discussion we finally concluded.

I am a counselor which she knows which is why she called me.

The matter tabled was settled and I was neutral, not picking a side whatsoever.

After our discussions, I attempted to stand up to go home.

Her son came in that instant with his little sister who was a year and some weeks old. He ran toward me and hugged me tightly and I returned the kind gesture with lots of pecks.

I gave him money to get things out since I wasn't able to get him any when coming.

He left to get things for himself and his baby sister leaving me, his mom, and baby sister alone in the sitting room.

I carried the baby and played with her for a while and put her down when she wanted to pick something up from a far end.

The baby's legs were still a bit wobbling so she kept falling, I picked her up the first two times and was about to do that again when she fell.

Her mother's words stop me from moving forward.

No! Don't pick her up.

I turned and my brain questioned, why?.

I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion so I didn't judge.

Why?

She said and I quote.

"You don't have to pick her up every time she falls."

I gave her a questioning look, urging her to speak more on it.

Then she continued.

"Picking her up while she falls at all times will make her lenient and stop her from trying to stand herself. She needs to know she can stand without needing anyone's help at all times."

Looking at life.

Our parents won't be there for us at all times, so they prepared us for the gradual process unknowingly for our adulthood.

We've all passed through this stage while growing up, and we've had our mothers look away sometimes, leaving us to rise ourselves.

No one told us about adult life, but in a way, they prepared us for it.

A mother looking away while her baby falls while trying to walk sometimes doesn't mean she doesn't like her baby but in a way, she is preparing her for adulthood.

We've all passed through the process that's why we can face life situations times without anyone helping.

But sometimes, we let the tears fall in the darkness because we have no one to help.

They are certain people we are sure of who can help us out if they want to but they just don't do it.

When a baby hits her butt on the floor while chasing something she rises and continues with the chase.

That's why we get to rise with a determined soul to chase after what we want.

We can't be brave all the time because even the bravest of hearts cries the most.

Then comes our parents to raise us or our friends during those times.

Life in its mercies may be kind sometimes and sends us people to be with us when we lost it all. But sometimes we are unfortunate to experience it alone.

That's why we must always be kind towards people, you never know if you are the one life has chosen to help someone up. Maybe not with funds or connections but with your words.

My friend's statement sounded absurd at first then I found reason in it and I laughed.

Don't raise her up

What's your thought on this?

Though I knew why she said that, I perfectly understood the deep meaning of it.

But what about you? What deep meaning do you have to this?

Or do you think it absurd?.

Or what other addition do you have to this?

Here I come again to the end and a new beginning to another article.

Till when next we meet either in yours or mine.

Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.

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Date:22 June 2022.

Writer: Balikis.