Last week, as I was watching my favorite noontime show on television, one topic really caught my attention. Couples who were married for fifty years, wow! Isn’t it just so inspiring how these couples stays together for that long. Since I was so interested with them, I immediately stopped everything I was doing and focused on watching tv. Upon finishing the show, I listed some of their tips and secrets for a long lasting relationship. And today, let me share it all to you. Just a clarification, what I will enumerate were only based on what the couples had said on tv while they were interviewed. I just added some insights base on my opinion too. So let’s start.

Commitment

Number one on the list is commitment. The moment we marry our partner, we already promise to commit our whole life together with her/him. We also shared vows and promises in front of God and the rest of our loved ones. This lines say “in sickness and in health till death do us part”, this is a one big commitment that we shouldn’t ignore. Marriage is not a one man show. It will always involves the two of you in every decision making. In whatever you do, always consult or talked with your better half.

Trust and Honesty

Never ever lie to your partner/spouse. For me trust is like a fragile glass, once it’s broken, it can never go back to its original size and shape. Just like in every marriage, trust will always be tested between husbands and wives, and once it’s broken, we know that it can’t easily be fixed. We’ve heard a lot of different stories about broken trust between our neighbourhood, our friends, relatives and even the high profile people. And we know very well that trusting the same person who broke it is quite hard. Same goes with honesty. If you are honest to begin with, then there would never be a broken trust. Being honest is such a hard thing to do, but I think, it would be much better to be honest than to tell lies. Because at the end of the day, lying would just ate your conscience day after day until it gets worst.

Being Thoughtful

The act of being thoughtful is sometimes neglected in a relationship. During the first year of marriage being attentive to our other half is overflowing, but as years goes by we became inattentive with each other. This happens because of many factors within the family like new kids that need to be taken care of, and new jobs that takes your time and causes a lot of stress. We oftentimes neglect our partners during these stages, that was why we ended being distant. So to make things right, as a married couple, we should always have a time for each other despite the busy schedules. Set a time for a date, like you used to do before. It doesn’t have to be an extravagant or an expensive one, a simple appreciation dinner date for two will do.

Loyalty

What is loyalty? Being faithful to someone is something a lot of us struggled. But if you really love someone, you’ll remain faithful to her/him no matter what and that is the essence of loyalty. There would be a lot of temptation around your works, colleagues and everywhere, but would you remain loyal to your other half? My husband’s is working as a seaman, and there’s a lot rumours going here in our country about marrying a seaman. They said “seaman-loloko yan” (manloloko is a tagalog word for cheater), of course this was only a joke that lasted for decades already. Honestly though I was also affected by it, during our first years, but after almost 10 years of being together I can feel his faithfulness throughout our relationship.

Love

Love will always be the foundation of any relationship. And I also believe that this is the an important secret for a long lasting relationship just like others mentioned above. Isn’t it wonderful when you saw two old couples still acting lovey dovey even at their age. I really admire couples reaching that stage in their life yet so much in love with each other. I believe they’ve gone a lot in this life, but the love they’ve had still prevails. They stay true with each other and let their love overcomes every challenges they face all through out the years. I believe it was also love that makes them stay stronger for the rest of the years.

Closing Thoughts

As I was watching the 5 couples on television, 4 couples reached their 50th years anniversary this year, while the other one is on their 40th years, I am thinking if whether my husband and I will do the same in the future. I know we have a long long way to go before we can even reached half of it. With all the things I have mentioned above, I hope we can also do it. How about you? Do you have the same sentiments as mine? In addition to what I have stated earlier, communication will also play a big part if we want to have a long lasting relationship. Lack of communication can lead to misunderstandings and doubt, so to avoid these things better improve our communication with our other half.

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That would be for my today entry. If you think I am missing something you can share it down below and let’s talk. For suggestions and objections you can write it down too.😅 And last but definitely not the least kindly check this beautiful souls below. Have a good day guys.

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