Currently, I am reading some of the posts from CFO PESO SENSE and there's a section wherein people are sending their stories anonymously since I try to stay away from commenting on the page I just decided to extend it on my blog post instead.

In a gist, the letter sender is asking if she will proceed with the wedding or not as their plan wasn't followed and each time that they will talk about it her fiancé' will have some issues as the soon-to-be husband's family want other stuff to be added, etc. You can find the whole story here and this is my take on the current situation.

It is your wedding and not theirs.

Some may find it offensive especially the relatives but since they are the ones that will get wed it will be better if they are able to set some rules and stuff to follow. I do remember the time when there was a "pagpupulong" prior to our wedding. The "pagpupulong" was a part of the tradition wherein both parties involved will see each other and meet and talk about the wedding proper etc.

When the elders met, my family and my wife just lay down what our plans are. We talked about getting married on the 29th of February and the location to where it will happen. In most cases, this is where the families will clash with each other as they have some rules and expectations that want to happen but we did not allow them to give suggestions. Technically we just answered some of the questions that they have in mind like why it is the 29th, if my fiancee is pregnant and where we will be getting the funds.

In some parts of the country, it is the man's family that will be shouldering everything in the financial side, i believe that this belief isn't feasible for everyone thus when my wife talked it over to everyone we informed them that we are saving for this big day. Both of us are separating some of our monies to secure everything.

If you want to get married, whatever the circumstances you will still get wed.

This is the predicament for some, if other family members don't agree on the terms the event can be postponed or delayed. I believe that honoring parents is one of the key things that we should follow. However, when it comes to marriage it will be the decision of the two people that will get married. Exemption if you are not yet 23 as there's consent needed from the parents before doing such action.

Making decisions is one way to determine if you can handle married life. If either one of you can be swayed by the provocation from relatives it isn't a good sign as people may find it easier for you to be controlled.

Another story was when a relative of mine ( that never got married) shared what they she wants to happen and expecting some bands, flowers, and programs with the reception given the target budget that we have.

Since they know how I speak I told her "Ate kasal po namin ito, hindi dream wedding mo po" and yes she stopped speaking after.

If you do not have any plans, they will plan it for you.

Never, ever say that you do not have any plans, etc. when you are stating about the wedding as some people will feed you will every idea that they can imagine to better the ceremony. They will also plan about the date where you should get wed and the location.

Message for a young man planning to get married someday:

Save up for your marriage while you are still young it helps! You may not be able to give a grand wedding to her just like the celebrities but saving money can help you leverage what your plans are. Also, it is okay not to shoulder everything ask for your fiancee and set realistic goals that can be achieved. Wedding is just 1 day prepare for the married life as it will be for a lifetime and lastly do not create debts.