From all the gifts that you had received in this lifetime, have you tried to assess yourself on what is the biggest / greatest gift that you had received?

This is the question that I decided to answer for the 30 days of gratitude challenge from @Jane blogpost'. I am having some dryness on the creative side lately and even getting lazy on researching the usual topics that I am covering thus it will be a good breather for me this time. I hope that I can complete the 30 days gratitude challenge as I am not that consistent in creating content and doing them in my spare time.

Going back to the greatest gift that I had received, for now, you may have already a clue about what it is based on the image above. If you haven't guessed it yet, it is my wife and my daughter.

Some guys will say that a car, laptop, gaming device, basketball shoes, and NFTs will be the greatest gift that they can receive but in my case, it is quite different or I am not interested in such material stuff anymore.

Journey Being A Husband

We got married 29th of February prior to the start of lockdown here in the country. My wife knew each other for a while but not that much as we didn't practice living together as boyfriend-girlfriend. When we did the "pamamanhikan" ( I do not know the English term ) some of my relatives asked if she is pregnant and that is why we are getting married. Somehow, I am quite private thus the time that my relatives knew that I had a fiance is the time that they are meeting my in-laws. I always believe that there are things best kept in private.

Transitioning from being a boyfriend to a husband was quite hard! There are days wherein either you will be getting on her nerves or I will be getting on her nerves with the simple stuff. Budgeting was also an issue as we are both fans of eating out and ordering online. The bills that we pay are also one of the stresses that we have, from being a freeloader in our respective homes now we pay for rent, electricity, water, and garbage bills.

So what is the greatest gift there?

It is the joy of journeying together with the person whom you decided to spend your life with. The impromptu short walks in the morning that discuss what will happen next in life, supporting each other's dreams and aspirations. And more, someone to wake you up and prepare you a hot cup of coffee to start your day. ( So cheesy naman this guy)

As a young reserved guy, I am grateful that someone took a chance and said yes to me without any hesitation.

As of this moment, I am still learning the ropes of being a good husband. There's no Youtube course that you can enroll in but there are a ton of people that I was able to get a hold of asking for help and ideas. Also, the best resource person is available within reach too which is my wife.

On Being A Father

When becoming a parent, a new person lives in you. I will still remember the first day that I saw my little one in the nursing area. Mixed emotions surged into me and tears began to fall in my eyes due to amazement. I always joke with my wife that when we shared our wedding vows, I never shed any tear on it but when I saw our kid as if a cry switch was "on" I can't stop myself.

After becoming a dad, I understood why my father behave in that way. Back then I will always say that my father keeps on working days and never had the chance to attend to our needs. Dad is a workaholic and this is the trait that I think I inherited from him. I always tend to make sure to see things to an end when I start something and with my 6 siblings, my mom agreed as well that I take the personality of my dad. I am not the closest to him btw but, but I guess because we have both strong ideologies most of the time we clash.

I never knew that I have an OVER in anything persona.

Growing up as a middle child, somehow we are tasked to become independent ourselves. In a typical Filipino household, the middle children are the ones who are often neglected and thus required to become more capable. The firstborns may raise an eyebrow on this one but hear me out before you bat me an eye.

Firstborns still get some guidance from their parents as they are seen as the head of the household at times. However, middle children more often than not are disregarded as either parent will prioritize the older ones because they are the ones that will be able to help them in the future and the youngest as they are their babies.

So going back, now that I have our own child, I realized that I want to shower everything with all that we own. May it be food, toys, medicine etc if there's a need to buy something I immediately go to the nearest grocer to search. ( Such a spoiler)

If my daughter is not feeling well, I always say that go ahead and schedule a visit to the doctor and so on.

So there you have it, this is my response to the 30 days gratitude challenge. I enjoyed writing this blog post and working on the draft on my second day.

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