A mother's love to her children is unconditional. She would do anything for them.
As a mom, how do you discipline your kids?.. I am a child who grew up with great fear towards my parents. Their way of teachings is authoritative. The man who has the great authority at home is always my father. We were hit sometimes with belt or worst belt buckles to give us the consequence of our mistakes. We are therefore in a strict home policy.
When I was so little, I never understood why we are being hit and sometimes I would feel hate against my parents. I felt manipulated for being told what to do and not to do.
As we grow, we learn to choose things that are best for us. My siblings and I became professionals and our good decision making has made us a great pride to our parents.
We became parents. Then, I realized parenting isn't an easy peasy task. Being a mom isn't just about changing diapers and feeding my children, bringing them to bed after bath, etc...
The part that I hate most is the disciplining. How do I do what my parents did when my heart is too weak to see a child crying in pain?? At times when I'm at my boiling point I get to hit them on their mouths if they ever talk back. Sometimes on their hands when they carry somethings what is told to them not to touch.
Even my words are hurtful and I see its penetrating the child so hard that makes him cry easily. I turn around for them not to see a tear coming out from my eyes.. I have to be strong to make them strong.
My children are my happy pill. But that doesn't mean I should always smile and understand them as kids. I believe they have a "built in" attitude inside and that must be managed.
As a mother, I feel guilty and think I'm a bad mother for making my children feel bad. Sometimes they have questions as if they doubt my love for them.
My parents being grandparents were too considerate with their granchildrens' bad attitude, they spoil the kids with everything! Sometimes they hit us below the belt by telling me and my husband that our parenting style is a thumbs down. They didn't remember what they did before was much worst than today.
Sometimes my parents says bad at me about how I feed my children. Then I fall guilty again for not giving them enough as their parent.
One day I asked myself if my mother ever felt the same way I am today. Always feeling so guilty because its what she's feeding my mind. 😔😔
I'm a mom and I do all my best I and give what I can afford to give my children. The most important thing is that I establish love among them siblings and for us as parents, is full respect as they grow. Soon they will build great respect for me, for sure same with other people.
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kodus to parents out there who are trying to disciple their kids out of love. I'm also a mother of three and I can relate on how hard it is to raise a child. We, as parents, would want our children to grow as good kids and so disciplining them at a young age for me is still best. But then again, it is hard, most of the time I just shout at them when they are not listening or sometimes whip at the younger one because the older ones ran away from me when I try to catch and wish to pinch or whip them. lol! Explaining what they did wrong and correcting their mistake works for me. Don't feel guilty my friend, I think you're doing a good job with your kids unlike the way you are treated by your parents. Don't create a scar that you, until now, find it hurtful; create beautiful memories with them instead. Also, live separately from your parents so they will not mind you on how you raise your kids :)