When people get married they do it very much in love, figuring it will be for life. When I met France I did so while working at the hospital, she was an excellent co-worker with some years of experience.
In fact she worked in two hospitals. She was a wife, mother of three children and sister of another very good co-worker.
When I met her whole family it was because we had already become friends. We would go out on the weekend off together in groups of friends, and husbands. We were all very good at sharing.
Then I quit my job. I went to college and left all my friends with the promise to come back on vacation to work and see them, some of us went out again on a few occasions but it was no longer the same because I had to work too much and I only had few free hours.
My friend France, when I came back, told me that she was separated from her husband. He had someone else with him and when she found out she divorced him, but he didn’t want to leave the house. He only left the union with his wife to dedicate himself to the life of a lover without the commitment of a new home.
So he stayed in the same roof but in the upper level of the house, thus they did not see each other except when they were dealing with the children. Nothing else, he became an uncompromising, quarrelsome, ill-mannered man. He no longer loved her and had no reason to show respect for her, it happens in divorces. You lose respect and consideration for the spouse you no longer love.
My friend continued with her youthful spirit, always cheerful. Even though she now had the burdens of the household on her own, her children were grown. They started going to high school.
And in the end, the husband’s new lover left him over the years, leaving him alone and sad on the top floor of his house. As life would have it, he was suffering from high blood pressure and that led him one bad day to suffer a mild stroke. It brought him to a serious but recoverable condition.
He didn’t die. He remained alive but with many after-effects. His wife, the person he disowned and insulted, my friend, took care of him. During his recovery, which was progressive, she always helped him. He improved a little, he managed to walk, always with help, his children helped him and so did my friend.
I saw in her what I always saw when she took care of her patients, a spirit of solidarity, her service to the weakest. She told me that she never felt love for him anymore, but he was the father of her children, the man she married and then decided to break his oath.
She always helped him. Later he was declining and she never left him, his diapers, his food, his cleaning, she never left him until he died.
She was a good friend after all, because she could have rejected him after all the insults she received from him.
But that's the difference between a clean-hearted person, who forgives his offenders and then he also gives them his help.
He has a very nice family with his children graduated, married, with grandchildren. A life that the two of them could have enjoyed together, but that he decided to end it to live a teenage passion that did not last many years.
To then have to accept her, the woman he abandoned, back into his life and she selflessly takes care of him until the last days of his life.
Believe me, it’s not something that I have seen a lot in people, but I have the pleasure of knowing at least three people like my friend. After being abandoned by their husbands in marriage, after they went through the mourning of their husband's abandonment, after insults and vexations, they helped them in their last moment.
This is commendable. It’s worthy of admiration on my part. Forgiveness exists, you still remember the mistreatment, you let go and live life and when you least expect it, the one who hurt you so much comes back into your life and you give him your unconditional hand. You no longer have anything to offer him, the only thing left is the memory of the good times you lived in love and the children that God sent you as a gift of your union.
What do you think my readers, would you do the same with the person who offended you?
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