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A friend is always a friend? Greetings dear reader friends, today I am going to tell you about a subject that seemed appropriate to me. All this after having read a story that I am going to tell you. It happens that there were two friends who had known each other for many years and were used to give each other their sincere friendship. They grew up together and in college they behaved more than just as friends, they were like brothers. One day they decided to take a trip, they wanted to get to know the desert area and in what better condition to do it but with the presence and mutual support of both of them, they both wanted to know the intricate routes of the desert area.
They prepared to make their journey and went into the place prepared with compasses, food and water. Just relying on their luck and the support the two friends gave each other, but as the day wore on, things went off course. They are inexperienced, lost their way and the inclement sun seemed to take away their spirits. At first the need for food and water was not very demanding, but as the day wore on and the sun embraced them and they failed to reach their destination. They began to worry. The day passed and they faced the onslaught of the desert weather and after two days they were both very irritated. They were already arguing often, blaming each other. To the point that in a moment of heated argument one of them hit the other one's face hard. The friend who was the victim of the blow of the other still hurt by the blow received wrote in the sand.... "my best friend gave me a hard punch". They kept on walking and met new obstacles and the hit friend fell into a swamp, without realizing it was quicksand and the friend tried in every way to rescue his best friend who was sinking in the swamp, he put all his effort and with his last strength he succeeded! He pulled his friend out of the swamp. When he came out of the swamp and was rescued, he looked for a rock and began to write on it... "My best friend has saved my life today". Seeing this the other asked him... "Why did you write over there on the sand and here on a rock?" To which the friend replied... "I wrote there on the sand because when a true friend offends you this offense must be forgiven as the breeze erases the footprint in the sand but when that friend does you a great favor it must be written on the rock never to be forgotten". The friends came out of the desert and their friendship was tested and preserved. But does this happen in real life? I don't think so. I have seen how many people are publicly acknowledged for the offenses they have taken against a friend but I have never heard those people shout into the wind when they are entertained by that friend. Many times we act impulsively and do not realize that we should thank our friends for their many ways of showing us their friendship and when the opposite happens and we feel offended we should be able to forget the offense and forgive in order to maintain the good relationship. At one time I myself did not know how to see the value of some people who offered me their friendship and later when I was offended repeatedly, I no longer felt interested enough to keep the supposed friendship. I decided to break the friendship because I considered that the offenses were becoming more and more frequent and began to overshadow what had been a beautiful friendship. I think they are two different cases. Feeling that in one opportunity we are offended and we forgive and forget it in honor of the friendship, another case is when the friendship starts to deteriorate and the other person thinks he can offend as many times as he wants because he knows he will be forgiven. I decided to break with the friendship and I broke with the relationship of years. I preferred it rather than continue to feel that I would be hurt again. I think it was my best decision. Sometimes we are ungrateful with the people who help us but in other opportunities we have to get rid of a bond that more than friendly seems unhealthy because of the mistreatment to which we are exposed. Thank you friends for reading and I hope that as always I can read your comments and opinions on this matter.
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True friendship survives the test of time, and while you may have disagreements with that friend, they should eventually be resolved and help nurture and strengthen the relationship. However, if it is a one-sided friendship, and you end up getting hurt a lot of the time, then it is probably time to distance yourself from that supposed friend.
I agree with you and that is what happened in my case. Thank you for your comment friend.
I have a childhood friend who is younger than me, she treats me as her big sis. I gave her advice very often because she's a bit wild and went overboard many times. But I guess she did not like it because, after that, she never called or messaged me...I feel sad though, she's a dear friend to me..
But if you feel bad about her attitude seek her out, there is nothing more valuable than a true friendship broken by a misunderstanding.
I did many times but she ignored it. Even visited her house but she refused to see me...
I know how it feels. They did it to me too, they refused to receive me. But I was the one who was mistreated and she was the one who was upset. I left it at that, I didn't insist anymore.
The true friendship may test on having a struggles. If they will truly they will find ways and doing their best to save you and that's what we called the real friends. I have a bestfriend ma'am gertu. I really missed her a lot. Sometimes we have misunderstandings but we settled it fastly then she is always beside me when the times I was really down. I'm really grateful to her. She's one of my saviour. She's one of my motivator. She's one of my inspiration.❤️
Then you should write that on the rock and never forget what it does for you now. She is your friend indeed
Thank you so much for this ma'am. It's a brilliant idea because of your article ma'am.
maybe if I judge from the description this description is the form of a friend's character that has a different level.. there is a time we have to conflict with a friend but there is a time to forgive each other if someone who apologizes then doesn't repeat it means he has deeply acknowledged his actions and that is an attitude of humility but if someone who has done something wrong then apologizes and repeats the same mistake then he is a selfish person.. these two traits are character driven attitudes that naturally come from heredity and intentional factors.
Not many people know how to be true friends.
A friend in need is a friend indeed, not all friends are worthy of being a part of once life. Some are just beneficial friends
Those are not the friends I am talking about, but the ones we think of in our lives who have truly been our friends.
Those are blessed who have true friends. Nowadays it’s very hard to find true friends, otherwise everyone is snake here. And thanks to God I am blessed with many friends who are true.
You are blessed indeed. To have one friend is already a blessing.
Relationships are really quick to be destroyed because we tend to hold grudge at the one mistake that is committed. We fail to recognize and appreciate the wonderful favors done to us.
I agree with you.
Some friends don't want to be advised nor to accept their wrong doings. But my friends are not like that and they can accept their faults and they will changed it. That's the real friendship for me. If were concern to our friends maybe we have some thoughts to share so that they can realized their mistakes. Am I right ma'am gertu?
With friends we can agree on what affects us in friendship. If it is a strong feeling, it cannot end if we explain it and understand each other. It ends if we don't talk about it and we break up without talking.
You are right, truly we shouldn't forget all the many good because of the few bad. It is virtually impossible for two people not to have tiff no matter how close they are
Because we are human and we also fail but that is why there is a bond that overcomes any rancor if we are true friends.
I completely agree with you on that one
It's true, it can't be helped. And being strengthens the bond.
***I have these two friend before who aren't that close to me but we shared some moments together. We've been so good to each other at first, share what we have to each other but as time pass by there are some things that they did that have offended me. I forgive them coz i thought that was the only time that they will do it to me. But i was wrong so I decided to cut all our connections coz i am not at peace anymore. The relationship that I have with them is already toxic.***
You have to be able to tell the difference between a good friend and an opportunist. Someone who wants to be by our side to take advantage of the fact that we are friendly, cooperative, good people and then they make a grievance followed by another... No, you must write it in the sand and turn the page.
***Yes sis, with what i experienced before, I learned to know who are my good friends and the fake ones***
I'm happy for you, my friend
My best friend messed me up when we were in high school and i was pained so much by such an ugly attitude of his and i've also got to realize that forgiving him is very much difficult to come from me. What do you think i should do ma?
When you are a true friend, you talk about the points. If the person in question didn't respect you and you didn't make him a good friend, why keep him with you?
Having a true friend is one of the best treasure we could have. I have my best friend and he treats me like a family, he even followed me in the same school hahaha because I'm scared being alone in strangers. He was all out but then he had his girlfriend and now we barely even talk and I understand him. Me too should distance myself as a sign of respect to their relationship.
True friends do not distance themselves because they have a love. Friends must have time to continue to maintain such a special bond as friendship. If he doesn't understand that your friend was not a better friend and that will weigh on him later. When he needs you and you are no longer there.
Agree madam!
In my entire life, I don't think I've had bad friends cos I've always been assisted by the good friends I have the same way you all are assisting me here especially as I'm a newbie. Good morning ma
And the time will come when you too will write on the sand. Welcome.
Thank you ma
I learnt something in the story that many people don't remember the good deeds of people, they mostly focus on the bad one's. Nobody on earth is perfect.
It is like this. People are used to write everything in the sand.
That's a true friend. They can fight and bickering on each other but at the end od the day they are still friend. I'm not sure if I can be a good friend too to someone 🤔
You will only know when you pass the test with a true friend. Someday you will.
As I am now, I can't find myself staying in a place I'll be treated badly all in the name of friendship. If I'm being kind and at the end I'm receiving backstabbing, I move away from the friendship.
It's a matter of if it's a best friend it's about maintaining the friendship if not what it's worth.
This is so inspiring. I never forget the good and favors my one time friends did to me. But generally, people tend to eat the meat and throw the bone o fire
Yes, it's true.
Childhood friends are really special. Cos as we grow up together we get to know each other well. I had a very close friend right from my kindergarten time. But few years back i lost contact. Wish I meet her again.
I wish you success in the task.
A lot of friendships no longer stand the test of time. People fall out for little things and make impulsive decisions,.forgetting the good things the other person have done
Yes, they write their history in the grains of sand and leave.
Aún teniendo una discusión con tu amigo, o una pequeña pelea, siempre será tu amigo. Eventualmente los ánimos bajarán y todo volverá a la normalidad. La amistad está por encima de todo y siempre prevalece. Sólo el amor es su superior.
Well, you're talking about a true friend. How about when it's a wolf in sheep's clothing? Or rather, that friend was never a true friend?
I've had a few of those. True friendship can be harder to find than love. But when you find it, it's forever.
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