In my life and throughout my years I have gone through so many circumstances, that’s why I always write from my perspective, from the particular of each of my experiences.
Generally my posts are based on the knowledge acquired through my personal circumstances, there have been many because from an early age I have had to fight too much to achieve and reach my goals.
I received a lot of help, because God always sends his angels to protect us, do you know that we all have a guardian angel? Do you know that they are sent by our father to be with us always? When was the last time you talked to your guardian angel and thanked him for being your faithful guardian?
Do you remember that prayer they teach us as children… guardian angel, sweet companion, do not forsake me... do you remember it? Well, they are with us not only during the nights, they are also with us in the course of the day.
Have you put your angel to work lately? Or is he full of cobwebs because you haven't called him since your childhood? I invite you to seek him out again and trust him.
This is a personal advice, I like to give advice and always have, but you know what? Sometimes our advice is not useful to others because it is in our memory as an experience as a result of our personal way of facing our difficulties.
Maybe our experiences have very personal details, it’s our own special way of solving a problem or dealing with them. The traumatic and personal events of others also have the implicit details of the way in which they are presented. Much like our own, problems sometimes have similar topics but never the same.
When people ask for our advice on how to act at a particular time, we must understand in great detail all the details of the issue at hand.
Especially when the situation in conflict involves other people, everyone has their own way of looking at their problem and wanting to be right about everything is always our biggest problem.
When giving advice we must keep in our mind that we don’t know the complete truth of the facts. We only have a part of a person's opinion and on that opinion we give our advice.
We may be wrong in making our opinion clear. We may be making an erroneous judgment because we do not know all the facts, therefore our advice given with the best of our faith may be affecting another person indirectly and we do not know it.
I was listening to a sister in Christ and Mary making a discussion about giving advice and the way in which people who are of good faith give it.
This sister, who is a person qualified to give advice and counsel in conflict situations, says that we Christians should ask the Holy Spirit for discernment when we want to give good advice to troubled people with problems.
Because many times our advice, instead of helping others, produces another detrimental effect to the second person of the conflict and we worsen the whole matter.
What would you do, if I asked you I want to get a divorce because I dislike the way he does this and that? I would like to read your answer to this question and what you think about it.
When it comes to friends who are going through very serious problems let's not make a hasty decision, let us advise them to seek a solution to the conflict with people who have the professionalism to do so. In that case these professionals will give them the best solution and with the appropriate tools so that the conflict ends and is settled in the best way for those involved.
A little advice given without malice and in order to help end a dispute is always well advised.
My advice, after listening to the teaching of this sister in Christ and Mary, is that if we want to help, we should advise people to go to specialists when the conflict is so big that it could cause a fracture in the family or destruct the lives of others.
Small pieces of advice always given in good faith as if they are suggested to ourselves are always good to give, but let us not tell other people to do things that we ourselves could not cope with. Let us be wary of the fear of God by causing harm to others by wanting to act in a good way.
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Somehow, I consider myself as a good advicer but if it's something I have not experienced it yet (divorce), I'll be a good listener instead.
I believe giving advice is something you must apply to yourself too rather than just utter a word that would make the situation change for the worst.
It is highly recommended to not let your pride take over because it is very dangerous, you can make a drastic decision you'll regret after.