Are you friend or foe?

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2 years ago

Greetings dear friends readers. I have always started from the idea that life is not complicated, we are the ones who complicate everything. It’s not that I have always thought this way, it has been the experience of the years that has brought me to this conclusion.

I have read some posts (and it's a pity I didn't get the names of the users) and in them they talk about things that I found interesting. One of them is in relation to friendship, we go through life always trying to be friendly or at least we try.

I have always said and will continue to say that I am an introvert who has a hard time making friends. I am not very friendly, because it's hard for me to get to a place and strike up a conversation with people I don't know. I have a childhood friend who told me that she met family members and even friends of mine while she was sitting in the waiting room at a doctor's office.

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I am her friend but I am never that outspoken in a public place. I have been here on read.cash for over a year and I am just now getting to know people who have been writing here as long as I have, but I don't go out to meet people or users and I only end up meeting the ones that come to my posts.

It's something about me that has nothing to do with me considering myself a better person, or a better writer or better at whatever. I don't suffer from such ills of superiority.

I’m and always will be a humble woman, with a strong character, yes, I had to be because I made myself through many sacrifices in my life, but that has not made me a person sick of titles or positions.

Everyone here knows that I am a health professional very proud of my two degrees obtained in my student life. Thanks to all the sacrifices I made to obtain them. But that did not make me sick. When I go to a party and people ask me what I do, I tell them that I am a health worker. And I wish they wouldn't ask me again.

Because sometimes people get down to people's titles and not to the person themselves. That's why not everyone who tells you they are your friend is actually a friend.

Today with this Christmas challenge I'm doing I'm starting to read people I've never read before and I think they're wonderful, but I hadn’t read them simply because I didn’t come out of my shell… To all these beautiful writers I apologize for missing out on your particular stories, they’re all beautiful.

By the way, remember that the challenge ends on December 15 and by December 16 I won't be receiving any more posts.

If you want to participate in the Christmas challenges you can enter these two addresses, the one of my friend todolotengo and mine.

Don't forget to participate in the Christmas contest of my friend @tengolotodo. Remember to go to this place, @TengoLoTodo/christmas-challenge-2021-

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Prizes will be reworded to give others a chance to win as well. The first prize will remain at $5 the second at $4 and the third at $3 and we have over $30 between my posting and the proceeds from the kindnesses of various users. giving us the opportunity to give out 10 more prizes of $2 each.

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And now back to the subject at hand, it’s easy to meet "friends" when we are in comfortable positions but it is very difficult to make them when we are down, that's why we have to watch very carefully and always be attentive so that disappointments don't end up draining our energy.

People are sometimes very hard to criticize because they do it from the point of view of a stranger. If we manage to think that this stranger with personal problems could be our best friend, or our brother or even our son, it would be a different thing, we would not be being so aggressive when justifying others.

I always refer to the fact of people's criticisms when it comes to an illness. For example, if it happens that a person is diagnosed with a tumor that needs to be studied.

What happens next is that a lot of nefarious comments from people who have no sentimental connection with the person, what they say are all negative things, supposedly to help the person with the diagnosis, to be cautious.

But what happens with the comments from people who do have a sentimental connection? Those people will say that the doctor made a mistake, or they will tell you not to worry that everything will be fine, some of them will also tell you that God is in control (which I don't doubt) and it won't go any further.

Having said that, I am referring to the two situations above, because when there is advice from people it is always about yes you are my friend or family member so I’ll help you and we also give a different advice if you are a stranger. Why don't we empathize with the person who is suffering and why do we tell them things that we know absolutely nothing about?

So, for these reasons sometimes we cannot say exactly what we feel and what we suffer unless we are prepared to receive both types of criticism, because many people go around the world just distilling evil and venom and think that they will never be carrion meat.

And that’s it for this personal commentary of mine, and I’m open to hear what those who agree and those who disagree will tell me because as simple as that I already have my point of view and I will always support the one who seeks comfort as I too would like to be supported if I needed it.

Thank you for your comments and for reading, and thank you to all my dear readers and sponsors.

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That's true. Sometimes we have to be cautious too, not all the friends we call a friend is sincere enough to offer good judgement. This is reality and it's sad. Ops, I have forgotten the timeline of the giveaway :(

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2 years ago

Absolutely your correct.. Im a friendly person but im just selecting the trusted people. Traitor is everywhere so we need to be careful with fake friends.

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2 years ago

That is very true.

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2 years ago

Very nice, your writing skill is amazing. It reminds me the Friend or Foe by TATU

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2 years ago

I don't know who he is but thank you.

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2 years ago

Beautiful words, we should always be humble and be loving to make friends and stay away from everyone who hurts us. Not all friends love us well.

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2 years ago

It is true. So not everyone is sincere.

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2 years ago

I am very introverted also in real life and not as I am here in Read, open with everyone. When you are popular and outgoing, you can make many friends, but the big question is how many are real friends. I prefer to be the way I am and know that the few friends are real friends. And I am grateful to have met people like you on Read. And by the way, I have already made my entry for the contest. Yeah!🎄

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2 years ago

Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I have also met some very nice people and I hope to continue to meet more, including you. I read your entry, thank you. I saw you hugging with your personal Santa. Lol.

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2 years ago

You are welcome amiga. The Santa pic, lol I was looking for old photos and that is the only one I found, hehe

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2 years ago

Greetings to you big momma. Now a days I really find it hard to make friends , I must choose wisely the kind of friends I want to be with so as I should not get disappointed. Anyway big mom , I am really happy to hear that you a doctor that sounds good ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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2 years ago

You learn to make friends as you get older. Are you studying? Or are you working?

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2 years ago

Am studying mom

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2 years ago

That makes me happy and what year are you going?

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2 years ago

I am making 15 big momma

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2 years ago

That's true, not because they are good or nice to you they are already your friends. Somehow some of them act as your friend because they know they can get something from you and unfortunately some of them are also your silent competitor, they wanted to keep in touch because they wanted to see of how far you have done and they will Make sure you couldn't surpass them.

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2 years ago

I think we all go through that at some point in life. Because we grow up having many illusions and then with time they change.

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2 years ago

A true friend will always have your side whatever it takes.

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2 years ago

Its true it's easy to find friends when we are in a good situation but when things get worst, that's the time that we know who are our true friends. I was once a woman who easily trust the people around me. When someone shows goodness, I easily let them enter my life but things change when I reached this stage of life. I learned to choose whom I should be with. I don't want to be with people who only wants benefits from me because I was a victim of it many times already

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2 years ago

We encounter a lot of that in life. We learn the hard way to discern in friendship.

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2 years ago

We know that you say you are a doctor and you don't want to be asked more so as not to give you a free consultation, LOL.

Seriously, I am the opposite of you, conversation is easy for me, for a long time I was surrounded by many people, who claimed to be my friends, thank goodness I knew that few actually were, therefore, the extrovert is not It guarantees me to have many friends, only knowing the true value of friendship and finding others who share it is what makes you see them like this, I don't bother her anymore hahaha

BTW, I have a pain around here (points to his mouth) what would it be?

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2 years ago

If you only knew that it is not because of the consultation. It is because of the interest shown in wanting to be something you are not. I like to be appreciated for me, for my talents. What you mean is that both extremes where we are do not give you a security to make good friends. And seeing how well it's true... People always ended up saying that. It hurts me here, touch me there hahaha. You know you are great with your jokes. At least you must have had best friends since childhood.

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2 years ago

some time ago I published a duplicitous article. perhaps the point in this context is talking about sincere and hypocritical friends. the same as what I published. In conclusion, humans have two sides, good and bad. so be wise in making friends. because not all good people are and are true. and remember also the righteous are certainly good.

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2 years ago

Imagine how many times we can talk about the same subject. I think since I've been writing here I have three or four posts written on the same subject. Loyalty in friendship, interest in being friends, hypocrisy, and on and on. I also think that this will not be my last post on this subject. Friendship and friends are complex subjects.

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2 years ago

I wish you a beautiful day ma'am

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2 years ago

Thanks

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2 years ago

I have tried to be fair, being friends with someone for me is not easy, it is about commitment and loyalty, if that does not exist then you are an acquaintance. In my journey I learned to be a hypocrite, I am not proud of that, otherwise I would not have a job in a national institute, I adapted to the system or I had to leave, by that time there was no alternative. I fought so that it would not affect me, I made few comments at home, you cannot mix work with home, because it affects us.

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2 years ago

Sometimes we forge personalities suited to our work. But they are not really our essence. Just for convenience. It's not about being hypocrites, it's about learning to live.

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2 years ago

Thanks for the clarification, I always felt I was being hypocritical.

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2 years ago

You're right maam gertu. We should be careful choosing people to be with since it doesn't mean you're friends already it's real but there are times it's fake. They can use you that's why they make you to be close them, they will take you as an advantage.

Real friends can be find when you are in complicated situations or you need someone to lean on. The times you need some help and sharing someone, there's a shoulder you can burst out your tears. If you can see their presence, mostly 100% they are all true friends with yours.

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2 years ago

It is true, in difficult times we find kindness in people and we recognize our friends.

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2 years ago

We should be careful in chosing our friends because some friends are nor real. We can test our friend if they are true, if we are in the bad situation.

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2 years ago

When we are in trouble we find true friendship among all those around us.

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2 years ago

Indeed, Ma'am Gertu

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2 years ago

Indeed.. We can only see real friends when we are in a bad situation. Some would only take us for granted just because they can get something from us. And some would silently stab our back or think something bad even if we are not doing anything bad. These are common.

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2 years ago

Those who stab you were never friends. They were only interested in your friendship. For wanting to extract something from you. And it's good to know them and thank God for exposing them. We move forward and they are the ones who are left behind.

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2 years ago

I agree friend. Sometimes when you have a good job or when you are wealthy, you are sweet in the nose of the people. A lot would be friendly to you but when you have nothing, no one wants to be friends with you. So it is better not to disclose anything. And it is good to really discern the people who are wanting to be your friends.

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2 years ago

And it is good to thank God for taking bad people out of our way.

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2 years ago

It's easy to make friends when we are comfortable,but making friends when we are down is something that isn't easy at all, let's be extra careful while making friends,we should keep the ones who cherish our moments.

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2 years ago

Yes, we must be selective not out of convenience but out of true friendship.

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2 years ago

I've always loved being friends with others especially when they are very beneficial to and iam to them as well.

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2 years ago

The important thing is to be a true friend, not a friend for one's own convenience.

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2 years ago

Criticisms are always there, we must be thoughtful always on how to avoid our self to be affected for this. We should also be aware always that life isn't perfect 🧡🧡

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2 years ago

It is clear that it is not perfect because we are not perfect. Some people are very susceptible to criticism. I tolerate them but to the point where they do not offend me. At that point I break off the dialogue and withdraw.

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2 years ago

Yup I agree with you 🤗

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2 years ago

I feel in summary of all what good things you've analysed regarding friends and foes boils down to being careful and choosing our friends wisely and thanks a great deal for reminding me of the @tengolotodo's Xmas competition as I will try writing something as well interesting

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2 years ago

And especially in these times when it seems that friends have become very difficult to keep. There in the other challenge you have another chance to win.

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