10 Signs You're Not Yet Ready To Get Married
Are you ready to get married? Do you feel like you're ready to make that kind of commitment?
Getting married is one of the major decisions we will ever make in our lives. You'll probably know why when you're in that situation. It can be the most beautiful relationship of one's life. However, it can also be one of the hardest relationships to maintain. Many don't realize they are not quite there until it's too late. Sometimes, it's hard to tell if someone is really right for you. Or if you are the right person for someone.
When attempting to prepare for the responsibilities of marriage, you can look for certain indicators that you are not yet ready. Here are some obvious, and not so obvious, signs that you might be too young or inexperienced to get married:
You're being pressured.
If you're feeling pressured to get married, you might be trying to fill a void in your life rather than finding a partner to marry. This isn't always a bad thing, but it's important to understand where these sentiments are coming from and what part they may be playing in your marriage decision. It's important to be honest with yourself about what your motivations are.
You think marriage will solve all of your problems.
Are you marrying this person because you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them? Or are you marrying them because they already have a house and you think they'll make a good provider? Marriage is a great way to deepen your commitment and love for one another, but it won't fix any of the issues you have going on in your relationship. If you get married now, the same challenges will still be there. You are not yet ready if you are choosing your partner for the wrong reasons (like because he has a good job, not because you want to spend your life with him).
You want to start a family right away.
For many, the experience of raising children helps gives their life meaning and can bring families closer. However, there is no reason why you should feel the need to begin having children as soon as you get married. Marriage is a decision in which both partners are expected to fully commit themselves emotionally and financially. There's no rule that says you have to have kids the second you get married.
You don't know how to listen and compromise.
Learning how to listen and compromise is an essential part of any relationship, and marriage is no exception. If you're not yet ready for marriage, you may need some time before you feel comfortable compromising in order for both parties involved in the relationship can benefit from their partnership together.
You've only been with your partner for a short time.
If you haven't lived together or even spent much time with your partner and his/her family, it may be too soon to get married. It's important that you know what each other is like on a day-to-day basis before you take the plunge.
You find it hard to keep promises.
If you struggle with keeping promises or following through in general, it may not be the right time to tie the knot just yet. Committing yourself to someone means standing by them no matter what comes up—and that's a huge deal! Make sure you and your partner know how to trust each other and honor your commitments before getting married.
You still live like you're in high school.
If your habits involve staying up until four in the morning, only wearing sweatpants, and throwing crazy parties at your place all the time, then it's likely that you're not ready for marriage just yet!
You're not yet financially stable.
Sometimes it seems like people are getting engaged and married at younger and younger ages, and that's great! But, before you say "I do," make sure you're living an adult life—complete with adult finances. If you can't quite pay all your bills, save for retirement, and have a little fun money left over without going into debt every month, it might be time to put those marriage plans on hold until you can afford them—literally and figuratively.
You're not yet emotionally stable.
If you're still carrying baggage from a previous relationship, you may not be ready for marriage. It can be difficult to let go of the past, whether you've had a traumatic experience or just experienced a lot of loss. If you can't move beyond your past and are still holding on to those memories, it may be hard for you to open up and trust someone new enough to build a future with them. It's important that you move on from the past before getting married so that you can begin your new life with a clean slate.
You're not yet mentally stable.
If you haven't yet figured out who you are and what you want, getting into a relationship is hard enough. But getting into one with someone who hasn't yet figured out what they want from life makes it even tougher. If you haven't gotten to know yourself, consider spending more time on self-discovery before committing to marriage. Take some time to reflect on who you are and where you want to go from here before taking this huge step.
If you're feeling like you're ready for marriage, take another minute and look at these ten signs. They may just provide the clarity you need to help you decide whether or not this step is truly right for you -- and your partner. And if you are seriously considering marriage, then I applaud you for getting in touch with your emotions and thoughts. Marriage is supposed to be a great milestone in anyone's life, but it is important to be sure that it is the right decision.
Whether or not you get married tomorrow, there is always room for improvement and expansion in your relationship. To live happily ever after requires an ongoing commitment from both partners to continually work on improving their relationship. But if you really want to make something last forever, don't rush into marriage.
Marry when you’re ready!
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Marriage is more than what people think. It is a lifelong commitment that we should prepare ourselves for. We should not rush things and go straight to marriage right away.