Hello dear friends, fellow #Read.cash, today I want to talk to you about a topic that many of us find difficult to understand, I hope to reach your hearts in a clear, simple way, but first of all I ask you to open your heart, so everything will flow in a harmonious and orderly manner.
Today's reflection is about loving yourself, loving yourself, taking care of yourself, because only those people who have a balanced self-esteem or rather an adequate self-esteem with the reality that we live, can be successful, why? Because if we have a hyper self-esteem that does not help us at all, remember that everything in excess does much harm, but neither would it work to have a low self-esteem; in summary we can say that no one can love others if he does not love himself, no one who does not have a good relationship with himself can have a good relationship with the people around him.
Unfortunately there are many people like this, who do not love themselves and assume an aggressive attitude, complaining, fighting. One way of expressing themselves is by showing others what they have, for example a new car, the latest cell phone, the most expensive brand of clothes and shoes on the market, and in this way they compensate for their low self-esteem.
Others instead like to make themselves felt in social networks and do everything to be noticed and earn a like, they like to seek controversy and make media shows to feel noticed. If we have in our habits these compensatory activities to feel loved and recognized, let me tell you that we are not only hurting ourselves but we are also hurting others and instead of winning friends what we are achieving is that they move away and no longer want to share with you.
That's why today I want us to review together how our self-esteem is and work to have a proper self-esteem. But you have to be aware of what I said at the beginning, it has to be a real, healthy, true self-esteem that recognizes and allows the good things in you to emerge. I insist that we all must live and work to know ourselves first, to accept ourselves as we are.
My son Fabian
Today I have brought this reflection before you because in my condition as a mother I have made some mistakes and now I am trying to correct them, I never thought that in my eagerness to feed my children a good self-esteem so that no one would ever cause them harm and they would love and accept themselves as God made us, because one of them, my youngest son Fabian, instead of having self-esteem what he has is a syndrome of egolatry. I have detected that he loves himself so much that he tends to believe that he deserves everything, that his decisions and thoughts are the best and most accurate. This happened not only because at home we nurtured his self-esteem but also at school since he was a child his teachers loved him and told him how wonderful he was. Today my son is no longer a child but a 16 year old teenager who needs my love as a mother but also needs me to guide him and help him to correct his behavior. He is not bad, he just exasperates me sometimes when he thinks he is an adult who doesn't have to follow rules and can run his life without anyone telling him anything.
I remember once I wanted to correct something and he told me why I was criticizing him and he said because he wasn't like other people who only told him how great he was.
If he only knew that only a mother's love is the purest and most sincere that can exist and that every scolding is loaded with a huge desire to see him grow and be happy and successful. My love as a mother is very great, but this does not make me blind, that is why I want to tell you from my experience, so that you can help and love your children but always in the right measure.
Let's talk about several tools that I found on the Internet to avoid damaging our self-esteem, that is to say, neither hyper nor hypo.
Be careful with criticizing yourself in exaggeration, you must make a balance of self-criticism, seen from the positive side is good to realize that we have done wrong and correct. When you make this analysis of conscience one is more master of oneself, but when is self-criticism bad? When you exaggerate, because from there comes a low self-esteem and from there comes only pain and suffering. Perhaps you remember the case of my niece Emily who fell into an eating disorder and no matter how much you tell her that she is a beautiful girl, that she is a good and intelligent girl, that she behaves well, is educated and many other things, she only sees negative things. By the way, I must tell you that after so much talking to her and seeking help I have finally noticed a positive change in her behavior, but that is something I will tell you later.
Another tool that we can put into practice to have a good self-esteem and be healthier and happier is to forgive. But be careful, I am talking about forgiving ourselves "If forgiving others is good for you, forgiving yourself is much better" forgiving is healing. If you know you have done something wrong, whatever it is, you have to learn to forgive yourself and that will allow you to remove that bag of stones that you were carrying in your ribs and you can move forward and if it is necessary to go and ask forgiveness to someone you have hurt in some way, then go ahead.
Finally I tell you that it makes no sense to live in a world of comparison, today technology has made us all live comparing ourselves with the one next to us, with family, friends. We all want to show who is better, who has more, both men and women live comparing ourselves at home, between siblings, at work, in the neighborhood. When we live our life focused on the life of the other, we live in bitterness because he is doing well or full of anger because I am not doing as well as he is or I do not look as good as he does.
How difficult, it is true, it certainly hurts to be in this situation, none of this makes us happy, on the contrary, it lowers our spirits and makes us suffer. But instead of comparing yourself, why don't we take the opportunity to show that you are better and unrepeatable and give the best version of yourself by being supportive, a good friend.
Love yourself, take care of yourself, pamper yourself, take care of yourself, take care of others, if you do this you can get ahead and have a good relationship with everyone around you. Dedicate time to yourself, have spiritual experiences, keep silence, meditate, pray, help others. If you always keep in mind these types of actions you will be very happy, you will be free, you will feel good about yourself and you will get ahead.
"Love thy neighbor as thyself."
So as soon as I read that self love title, I knew right away that, that is what I want to feature in my article on my trip through read.cash today! Thank you so much for the inspiration and your maturity levels are just tops! so much love, so much light and so much so much to learn from! Thanks!