Love or family

When I was drafting the introduction on It's complicated article, I got an idea to talk about today's article when I asked,

Have you ever fought for someone before? What happened? Are you still together or not anymore? Did you choose love over family or vice versa?

Was there ever a time that you fought for someone because you loved that person so much however, your parents were not in favor of your love story? Seems like a love story of Romeo and Juliet or that typical drama that we watch right? As much as I want to say that it only happens in books and TVs, I cannot because it happens in real life and I did not imagine that I would also experience that situation.

I have already shared with you the story about my first love. He was a pump attendant or a gas boy where our coffee shop was located and we were just under one company. I was so young and very much in love. We even talked about living together and starting a life just the 2 of us. He introduced me to his brother and sisters while I only introduced him to aome of my friends. He was not able to introduce me to his parents because when I went to their province, his parents were not home. I on the other hand, I cannot introduce him to my parents especially to my mom because I know that my mom would disapprove of him and our relationship.

Our parents have high expectations on us. They only want what's best for us that the first thing that they told us when we started to hit puberty is to focus and finish our studies. We can fall in love but it should not be a distraction to our studies. Well that did not happen to me when I was in college as no one courted me back then. LOL. I was in all girls school from elementary to college. That is why it when I lost a lot of weight after college and started working, it was when my world had changed. I experience falling in love and having my heart broken.

Working in the restaurant industry has a higher chance of falling in love with their workmates and slight percentage to their guests. With the guests, it depends on how persistent they are. I did experienced having guests as admirers. Most of them would bring food to the store but I did not go out with them because I was afraid that maybe something bad will happen. At first I was hesitant to accept the foods that they gave me thinking that there might be a love potion but I still ended up taking it and sharing it with my other workmates. Sadly, I did not like those guests because I would only see them once a week unlike with the pump attendant who I always see for 5-6 times in a week and I was more into looks. LOL.

With all the years that I have worked in the restaurant industry, there was not one guy that I know who would pass my mom's standards. But that doea not mean that I did not tried my best to fight for mt first love. I did slowly told my mom about my first love. That even if he was a pump attendant, he also was a college graduate. If I remember it correctly I think he was a mechanical engineering graduate. He onky ended up being as a pump attendant because he needed to start working after he graduated and one of the gas stations of our boss was near their province so he grabbed that opportunity. He was only transferred in Metro Manila so he would be part of the opening team and that is where we met.

No matter how many times I tried to build him up to my mom, she was not really interested. But I only told my.mom before that he was courting me. Little did she knew that we have already exchanged I love you. My mom said a lot of things to me and she even wanted me to resign right away from my job but of course I never made any resignation letter. Because my mom knew that there was someone from work that was courting me, she became even more stricter. She would drive me to work just few minutes before clock in and she would be on our store half an hour before my duty ends. That means, I do not have any more time to spend with him but we still did tried to glance at each other and exchange sweet smiles even if we were on duty as the coffee shop was just in front of the gas station.

It was.with my firdlst love that I lied a lot of times to my parents just to be with him. I would sometimes tell my mom that I have straight duty even if I only had 1 shift. I chose love over my family but not to the point that I would run away from home. However, if he did not have a girlfriend that time, maybe there's a chance that I would choose him over my family.

Would you choose love over your family or your family over love? I always say that things happen for a reason and I believe that he just came into my life for me to learn something out of it. I do not know what would have happen if I chose him or if my parents would still welcome me with open arms even after I betrayed them buf I hope that we all can meet someone that our parents would give their blessings to us and the person that we love. Choosing between love and family is difficult. I am not going to say to you that you choose love over your family or vice versa but I hope that before you would choose one, you should have to think about it a lot of times. If you are going to choose love, ask yourself if it is worth it. Remember that our parents only want what's best for us. We can meet and fall in love many times but we only have one mother and father who loves us unconditionally. But I know that God will give us the love of our life that our parents would approve of and we do not need to choose anymore. We just have to faith for that person to come.

P.S. lead image is a photo of me and my parents.