Last week when I had my beauty day or my hair cut, I was with my mom, my friend and her mom. When we were waiting for my friend to get finish, I browsed her Photos. Majority of the photos were BTS. She is a late bloomer and a certified BTS Army. Is that what you call a BTS fan?
Along with other BTS photos and videos were quotes. I remembered the time when I was healing my broken heart that I have saved a lot of quotes that I saw on Facebook and Instagram because I felt like they were all pertaining to me. LOL. Have you ever experienced that when you are broken hearted you feel like every movie, every quote and every song is pertaining to you? I do not know if it was also what my friend was experiencing at the moment but she has been heart broken for a year or so. She did not want to elaborate on the reasons as it was too painful for her to talk about it and I respect her decision. While I was browsing, I saw a quote, "It's okay to flex your achievements in social media". What is your take on this one?
This afternoon as I was reading @Firenze's Social media detox article, I instantly remembered that quote that I saw on my friend's phone. I even asked my friend to forward it to me the following day. The photo was from note.com. I have not yet checked it but she sent me 2 photos from the said site but this was what I saw while I was browsing her Photos.
Do you post your achievements on your social media accounts? What is your purpose in doing so? I remember when I was heart broken, I used to upload almost all of the places that I have been to. And if I can think of a caption that is related to what I feel, much better. My purpose of uploading it was for my past flirtationship to see that even if we were no longer together, I still get to enjoy my time with my family and my friends. He even liked one of my posts that was photos of different kinds of seafoods. He likes seafoods but honestly I never really expected that he would like it. It just means that he has not blocked me yet. LOL.
My intentions was kind of bad right? One of my friends told me that yes it was ok for me to post anything that I want as long as my intentions were good. So when she found out that I was only doing that to make someone know that I was better off without him, she said that I should have just texted or messaged him if I was only posting things for the sake of. Then that is where it hit me. And during the time when I posted about the seafoods, my intentions were already pure. I posted it as a keepsake and for my relatives to see about my whatabouts. The seafoods that I posted was during the time that I was in Zamboanga. My mom's sisters wanted me to post a lot of photos of the places that I visited and the foods that I ate.
My activity time on any social media has decreased slowly months after I resigned. Then I would only upload if there was an occasion. Honestly it was not only for me to show him that I was doing great without him but it was also for my relatives to see some of the things that is happening with my life especially if it was a family gathering. However I still have that dark intention before.
It was only when it hit me that I would think of what to post. There are times that I do not even post if we had a family gathering. I just grew tired of showing to people that I was ok even if I was not. Most of the things that I have posted were just the part of me that I wanted the people to see. I think I have mentioned this in one of my articles. Yes, I am guilty of filtering my life on social media. I only post the good stuffs. I don't even want to post how big I am right now but I still posted one during my brother's post birthday celebration. Though it was only on Instagram that I posted it as I have only few people who are following me there.
Now I only post occasionally and sometimes either I am late or I do not post it at all. I do not know if it is part of adulting but I am not like the me before who would upload anything and everything on social media. I would even tag each and everyone on the photos. The more people, the more likes. Now my intentions are pure and would only upload photos for my other relatives to see. No hidden agenda.
We all have our own opinion or reasons with regards to posting our achievements. Whether it is posting in social media or any task, God knows what our true intentions are. We can deceive ourselves but we can never ever deceive Him. I hope that our intentions would always be for the greater good. I will be ending this article with a quote by Anthony Douglas Williams.
"When our actions are based on good intentions our soul has no regrets."
P.S. lead image is a screen shot of "What's on your mind?" on my Facebook account.
My take on that quote, it is okay. Yes. As long as you are not harming anyone. However, what I don't like are the flexing with the intentions of literally letting the world know "Yeah, I am like this. And you can't relate". That type of flexing. And you will be able to tell how it differs from the good type of flexing.
There is this one girl on Tiktok that I've watched on my younger bro's phone. She just flexes her make up collections, or her money and gives some annoying looks while showing her whatever stuff. I am just there saying "Girl, who asked? Girl, what are we gonna do with those stuff you show on our faces? What's the prupose here, Marites ?" hahaha!
Anyway, yeah! I am an ARMY too! (I prefer it being all caps, since every letter stands for something) I am a big fan of BTS. Hehehe, I even posted an article about how happy I am with their latest single released. 😄