Godmother

Have you ever been chosen as a godmotger or godfather to your sibling, cousin, friend or workmate's child? There is a saying that it is not nice to reject when someone had ask you to be a godparent to their child. I do not know why but I have heard about it a lot of times when someone would get me as godmother of their child.

Would you know how many are your godson and goddaughter if I someone is to ask you on the spot? Honestly, I do not really know who are my official godchildren. Some of my workmates would say that they would get me as the godmother of their child but I do not know if it was really true. But if I were to list down my godchildren that I can think of right now I would say that I have 12 though I know it is more than as I may have forgotten some of my godchildren. LOL. Sorry kids, your godmother is now forgetful not because I wanted to forget about my obligations to all of you but it is due to my last surgery. LOL.

There are some people that would only want to make you a godparent of their child because you have some money. Then there arw also those who would make you a godparent because you have been close friends ever since. There are also those that think you would be a perfect second parent for their child or combination of the given reasons. My cousins got me as the godmother to their child because I was close with them then with my workmates it was because they think I was a generous godmother. LOL. That is what I just think of as it was what they will tell me when they would say that they would make me godmother. Thinking of godparents as someone who would give expensive gifts or money to their godchild if they are chosen as one is a toxic culture. Most people neglect the real purpose of a godparent. For me a godparent is something that should be connected with their godchildren especially when they are growing up. They would act as a second parent if the parents of the child passes away. I cannot remember where I have read it but there was a story about a baby (or a child) who was saved and the parents died in the accident. One of the godparents, stood up as the baby's second parent. Even if the baby was been taken cared of by family of the deceased parents as the baby's guardian, the godparent would still visit the baby until it grew up to be a successful person. I do not know where I have read it but most probably in Facebook but it was really sad yet very touching don't you think?

If you have been reading my past articles, you would know that I attended a Christening recently. I was not a godmother though I feel slightly saddened about it to think that it was already my friend's second baby. I was not also a godmother to her first child as she chose 1 from our circle of friends. I do not know if she also someone in our circle of friends but honestly I feel mixed emotions whenever my friends and cousins would not get me as godmother to their child. I am happy because at least my list of godchildren will not be long as I feel that I am already quota with the number of godchildren that I have. I feel like I am "ninang ng bayan" (godmother of the town) with the number of godchildren that I have. That maybe I think is the reason why I still do not have my mini me because I already have a lot of godchildren. Just like how I have not yet been a bride because I was always the bridesmaid. Those are just some of my personal thoughts but I know that those will come at the right time. I do feel sad because I feel like they did not chose me because they feel like I am not the best choice or I was not a good role model to their children given that I always resign in my past jobs and still currently unemployed as if I am a person with no ambition. Then my friends also know who I am as a person with all the bad decisions that I have made in the past. That is actually how I felt last Sunday but I was more into the sudden changes in my schedule that is why I talked about it first that night. You would know what I am talking about if you have also read one of my previous articles. LOL. And now I get to talk about this now. 

Most of my cousins living abroad who already have family never chose me as a godmother to their children the same with my other high school friends. I know that they have the right to choose their child's godparents wisely just like in choosing who our candidate would be in any election but I cannot help but to really think that way. I do get flattered and honoured when someone would get me as godmother eventhough I know that they are already thinking how much I would give to my godchild but at the back of my mind I was already saying that I am not the type of godmother who would always give yearly gifts to my godchildren. Though I do act as the child's second mother when I am with them. I cared and protected them just how I would to any child. I also taught them good values even if I was only with them for a short period of time. About monetary and material gifts, I must say that I rarely give any to my godchildren. Why? Because I do not have money. LOL. Even if I did, I would have given them toys or something that I know that the child can use like diaper or milk. But if I have money now and I am to give them gifts, I think I would just give them money because the mother or father of the child would know what the child really wants if they are really going to spend the gift for their child.

How do you feel when somwone would choose you as a godparent to their child? How would you feel if they don't? If ever you will be chosen as a godparent, I hope that you will be able to see them as they grow up and not only during Christmas. Giving monetary gift is not really necessary as a godparent should act as a role model and help the parents in guiding their child.

March 15, 2022

P.S. lead image is a photo of me with my cousin's family together with my gift for my godson years ago. I cannot find a photo on Facebook of the actual baptism.