Solo parent

Blog:181-4th
Date :October 08,2022
Time :03:31pm

I was a solo parent for 13 years before I got married and I want to share how hard for me to find the right man for me. It was honestly challenging because I have a daughter to consider. If you wanna know why I end up being a solo parent then you can read my previous article entitled "Abortion will never be my option"

First, before choosing a guy I had to consider the feelings of my daughter. I don't want her to feel uneasy if I dated someone. Yet I was too careless as one time I had a relationship with someone whom my daughter don't like. It comes to the point where she even asks me who I will choose is it her or that guy? It hit me so hard that I wondered why I have to choose between the two of them. I love them both. Honestly, I am not a good example to my daughter. I am not proud of what I have done.

Being a solo parent with a daughter is way harder to find the right one since I have to think of the safety of my daughter. We've heard a lot of rape cases like a father raper their own kids. So considering that my daughter is not related to whom I dated with I had to remind my daughter to be mindful and never get close to someone I dated with. I know she is looking for a father figure yet I failed to find one.

I married the immature one. The one that my daughter can't rely on.

I have only 2 people that I trust in terms of dealing with my daughter. I see both of them as father figures to my daughter. I witness how my daughter interacts with them without any fear. Anyway, there's a reason why my relationship with those two people ends up. I am still thankful that even though we separate ways already they still care for my daughter.

Anyway, I got this topic from a friend of mine, an old customer here at the computer shop who is a solo parent now.It happen that he drop by here yesterday. He is a guy. he use play DOTA at my workplace. His Live-in partner died in a vehicular accident 3 years ago. They had one daughter. It comes to my mind why he never finds another woman to be with. I ask him that question and he answered that it's hard for him to find the perfect kay basin daw daog-daogon iyang anak.Basin daw ug maayo lang ug naa siya unya ug naa siya sa work basin maltratuhon daw iyang anak.(what if the woman he will find will maltreated his daughter, what if his new woman will act okay if he is around). I am honestly happy that he is a responsible father. He is thinking about what is good for his daughter.

Ending thoughts

Being a solo parent is never easy. We have to stand two responsibilities as father and mother. I personally can attest to how hard to be a solo parent. I maybe can buy the things that my daughter needs or want yet I know she still feels incomplete without her father.

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