I have watched a Facebook video about a girl who looks like ranting but she delivered it like a spoken poetry. I rant that showing her feelings about parents who are so strict when it comes on allowing thier child to enjoy life outside. Then I shared it to my Facebook account saying that I experienced that my parents is not that strict to me when I was teenager but I can feel that I will not be the type of my parents when it comes on raising my son because I know the effects on me. How I wish they became strict to me when I was teenager.
The girl in the video said , she wants to experience to go outside when night time. She wants to experience going outside without chaperone and she wants to experience the feeling of being trusted instead of being doubtful everytime. She wants to experience being free to express her feelings. She wants to explore , go to party , go to js prom , meet new friends and more. She want to experienced being wounded , to make mistakes and to learn something from it.
She felt like she was a puppet who controlled by those hands and told her what she will going to do. Those hands that keeps on saying be like them , be like her. And the girl said that they are teenager but it doesn't mean that they will make mistakes. They saw teenager being happy outside , with a relationship to someone but it doesn't mean that they have no better future and dreams to achieved.
She wants freedom , she want to escape because it seems so unfair. They are so strict everytime she tried to asked for permission they will always said no. She was tired of that kind of set up and asking if how it will end. Shes like a bird in cage that cannot make her own decision. She's like a bird in a cage who can't go outside and the only place she saw is the four corners of her room. She felt like her actions is limited and they are afraid that she made mistakes and then she added how she can be able to learn if she will not commit mistake and how can she learn to stand up if she didn't experience to fall.
Then she addressed the parents to be more open and even said that they also experience to be teenager before being a mom.
Then I remember when my father shared a story to me why he is not so strict to us. The reason is that our grandfather was so strict to him during my father's teenage days resulting that my father turned into rebel one. Then because he was rebel back then he promised that he will never felt his children that kind of strict ways that's why they end up not so strict parents to us.
For me , I experienced to do what I want on my teenage days and I also know the effects of it that's why I don't want my son to be like me. I will not be strict parents as like too strict but I will make sure that my son will feel that I trusted him but it's doesn't mean that I will allowed him anytime he wants. There's a limitation ofcourse.
Then earlier I heard my father talking to his friend in messenger and he said you know what? I didn't humiliate my children infront of other people. I will talk to them inside the house when people is not around and you know what I am so proud because they applied it also. As you all know earlier there's a fight there between my mom and the Aling Marites and I told them to stop and said mga wala ba silang hiya then my father also get annoyed to my mother but I told him to stop making argument.
You know the feeling that it's my turn to correct them. Just sharing yays! Thank you for reading guys. I am having a headache now and I will sleep. Goodnight
Parents should let their kids be free pero that doesn't mean na open na sa kung ano among mga bagay. Kasi mas lalong mag rerebelde yung anak kapag sobrang higpit ng parents. Feel nila na nagiging puppet nalang sila ng parents nila