If I were The One, I Would Have Done Better

Tough times don't last but tough people do, this is a quote we all have heard or told someone at one point in life. It is true how easy it is to tell someone that, we say it with so much ease like it never meant anything to them.

I still remember when I lost my grandma, a friend of mine walked into my room and saw me crying, she stood for a while looking at me and then burst into a loud session of laughter. I was surprised and rose to ask what the laughter was all about. She kept on laughing then she told me just your grandma gone and you are this weak, c'mon girl let's go grab some drinks. I was shocked when my friend said this to me. 

It also happened to her a few years later, she lost her mum, crying and being moody all day. I visited her with some bottles of drink. "Hey girl! What's up with you, your mum is dead and gone, let's drink some liquor while we wait for the boys to join us". She began raising her voice calling me inconsiderate, unkind and a weirdo. I just smiled and walked away.  Though what I did was wrong, I only wanted her to feel the same way I did, when she did the same to me when my grandma died.

It is so easy to console someone and make them feel bad for crying or mourning over a job, relationship, relatives or even a pet. But before you start condemning them for being so weak, why not take a moment to fit into their shoes. You need to understand their pain. 

As a teacher, before you write off any student as being too dull or a failure, why not take your time to enquire why they aren't concentrating. Are you too fast or too slow while talking or do they just find the class boring. I still remember in high school I never found Arithmetic classes enjoyable so I performed poorly but I topped my grades in Biology class. That explains to you one could be weak in one aspect and a pro in another aspect, it all depends on their preference.

I don't like this particular customer of mine, he complains a lot and I am not comfortable with it. My dear, that could be the best customer you could ever get but the question is, how did you treat them? Were you bothered to know why they complain about your meals? Or do you just conclude they were being too rude.

Life is lovely, beautiful, enjoyable and fun but not to everyone at the same time. I still remember when I came to this platform and I saw some users complaining about not being rewarded by the @TheRandomRewarder At first I condemned their actions, judging them to be greedy only writing for monetary gain. But things weren't the same when I was first awarded, I discovered it was so important to them. It boosts your morale and it is really a pat on the back for a job well done. Then rusty didn't visit for a while, I began my own rants on my post. Then I realised I was wrong. I shouldn't have talked badly about them.  Then I realise how important it is, to place yourself in one's situation before judging them.  By doing so, it will be easier for us to either console, condemn or appreciate them. Everyone has more on their mind  than just a gloomy face. Before you condemn someone, be willing to hear their own side of the story. I do think when life doesn't add up for another we were sent to make it better for them. Don't add to their pains if you know you will judge them. 

The statement " if it were me, I would have done better " has caused a lot of pain in our world today, you wouldn't have done anything better if it were to happen to you. 

My dear readers, Let us handle other people's heart aches as if it were ours, be mindful of what we say to others at their lowest moment. Do have a blissful weekend. I love you all.

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