Why women needs to be an independent?

"Most of the time, women who are fully dependent with their husband or partners are often experienced abusive treatment because that man(husband/partner) knows that his wife can't fight against him. She has nothing to depend on, she can't live alone, because she's lack, financially and jobless as well". It may not happen to everyone, but as far as we can see, it's true.-This statement came from the newly elected Senator Raffy Tulfo on his program yesterday. He said, if he will be in the Senate, he will fight for , women's empowerment by giving them opportunities to earn, or job in partnership with the national and local government.

As a wife, I am happy to know about this because majority of women in my place are not given the chance to earn extra.

I also remember during my college days,(I'm undergraduate in college)one of our subject is, management. Our teachers Mam Elgie always reiterates every time she teaches us that we should learn to become independent(bilang babae)so that, if in case we will get married, we don't need to depend on our husband. I can see in her eyes, so serious to instill that to us.And for my marriage,I can say that we really need it, or most women wanted to gain, or earn money but there are no opportunity like jobs, or even capital to start our own business.Each of us has our own different passion and skills that we can developed to produced income.

I have watched Raffy Tulfo's program, about a woman who is abused by her husband by cheating on her. And then, she becomes the breadwinner of the family because her husband has despised her and the children. Senator Raffy, gave her a livelihood so that she will no longer depend on her husband.

Personally, this thought of Sen. Tulfo was true, I know some women in my place who are independent like having a job or doing their own business, they rarely experienced being abused, or even not. Most of the time, women or wife's who are stay-at-home with no income, and no work, are often abused by their husbands, or underestimated, and have a low self confidence.

Why do we need to become independent?

So that we will not be abused

This is a very practical reason, why? Because if a man recognizes that her partner/ wife has an established income, he will be double-minded to make a move like abusing her.

I don't want to see a woman who is being look down by people just because of having no job, no income, and putting them down was just so easy for others because they can't fight for themselves.I hope that Senator Tulfo will really fulfill this goal for women in Senate.I will be happy if the government will take actions.

When the woman is dependent of her husband, there is a possibility that she will suffer from low self-esteem. This is to simplify that women, in some ways should be empowered to stand on their own feet and become independent.

We'll never know if a man will left her behind

Honestly, there are some wives that even if they have already experienced verbal and physical abuse, they still choose to be silent and suffer because they were thinking about what will happen if she will fight for their rights, they can't sustain the needs of their family.

This is one of the problem in our country, and as I can see in my place, the majority of women here are not employed, and the local government doesn't have any programs that may help us to earn even a little.

There are some factors that women cannot be employed, one of the reasons being educational attainment, lack of skills, and many more.

I'm just glad that the women in this generation are already doing creative ways to earn through social media, but still, there is a lot of percentage of us are still dependent on our partner's income.

Marriages nowadays are often tested, regardless of status in life, there are some instances that marriage/partner couples got separated when the relationship won't work anymore. When the woman doesn't have anything to sustain her family that would be very sad.

To help support for the family needs

Again, for practical reasons, women can support their needs and their family when she is independent. Especially since the prices of all basic needs in the family goes higher.

My husband once told me that I should help him to support our family and honestly, it inspires me to strive and seek opportunities.

Women are one of the vulnerable part of society as we mostly heard. That is why we need to stabilize ourselves to overcome all the possible problems that most women encountered. It doesn't mean that we want to overpower but we will help strengthen the society by being an independent support in every household.

Not all partners and husbands are treating badly with their wives if they are jobless, there are men who are responsible enough and take their responsibility seriously without the help of their wife.

In this new era of generation, women should be empowered to become productive and free from violence.

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