What Should I Consider In Finding A Spouse

Now I'm searching hard and intentional about finding someone who would be by my side, and I intend to know what i should be looking out for and what not I should be looking out for, so many things i've been searching for based on my fantasies, only to find out that I've been searching in the wrong places. Its good I follow my heart and do what pleases me, but I still need to learn so I don't regret my actions. We only have one life to live, this is my first life I know I'm living, and should be the only one as the Bible teaches us, so its to my best interest to study and see how best it'll be for me not to make errors, how best than to learn from those who have experienced already, the elderly.

So what have I learnt not to look out for firstly before explaining what I should look out for.

1 . Not Focusing On A Beauty Or Hot Body

Are you beauty yet arrogant, mannerless or lacking basic social interaction etiquettes, believe me someday people would forgo the beauty and give you a taste of your medicine. What keeps a couple over years can't be because they are still infatuated by each others beauty. There ate more important areas to consider while looking for a suitable spouse and that relationship goes beyond mere beauty alone.

A hot looking girl or boy today may look so seductive and completely blow off your mind, but it doesn't last forever, the body can changes. Overtime i have seen transformations, slim people getting fat, the fat get slim, one minute you love someone's body and you feel like that is enough reason to live and love the person, but overtime you'll be shocked to see that body you are banking on has change drastically, and you might like the new transformation. Just saying a body is not enough reason to go for a person, it's a tempting reason on doubt but definitely not a good reason of choice.

2 . Talents

Another good reason right, imagine having a woman who can cook so well, or having a man who can sing you to tears, would that be enough reason to marry or date such person, now we know talents doesn't change with time, if you have a talent that talent is likely to remain with you till the end of time. For example you guys on this platform can't possibly not know how to write good articles, you've done it over time and know the drill so it can't be stolen off you, similarly if you can sing or dance, or act or any nice talent, it can't possibly be stolen off you, but yet its not enough reason to pick a partner. Talents are nice but can you deal with the actual person when he of she is not exhibiting the talent anymore.

3 . Wealth

Hmm I think I can pick a spouse for this singular reason, lol, just kidding guys lol.... It is a secured motive,when this is in place you really want to stay, imagine a place where you would have everything you want to buy, whatever you want to eat, where you want to go both internationally and locally, no doubt its a quest for many, but out of the many who has entered into a relationship having this as a mindset have mostly been disappointed. It goes farther than just having wealth, the person behind the wealth would determine if the people would enjoy or be doom cause wealth is power and authority.

These among others are things I love but I very much know they can't and shouldn't be the center of my search. I won't go concluding before of physical attributes alone, no doubt I like them, yes I want my spouse to have them too, but I would most likely be in trouble if i make those my priorities.

Now let's dive down to those things I hope to look out for, what I'm gonna search with more interest than any other interests.

1 . God Fearing

I know why i mentioned this first, it seems the world has forgotten the essence of this statement, when being told to go for a God fearing person, either male or female. Someone who truly fears God and will to keep his comandment. Being truly God has a way to settle a lot of possibly arising issues incoming from the future. When the Bible says no to adultery, Formication, jealous leaading to unsatisfation. Also we need a God fearing too as there are many hurdles in a marriage and with proper prayers it would all be sorted out,,

2 . Loyalty & Love

Can't be overemphasis more we can try, when she truly has her loyalty for you as a man, it gives a different kind if security, with pronounced loyalty a long distance relationship would scale through. Love is the grand master of all option to pick a spouse from, I look out for someone that's show to love me truly.

3 . Respect

Respect is reciprocal and it applies likewise to a relationship, there are actions that can be tagged as a pure heart of disrespect and all this causes fight, especially with the men who hates to get taken for less. Ladise too dislike an act of disrespect, we can understand each other and know how to respect each other's boundaries.

Maybe after these that I look out for,getting an additional attribute would be lovely indeed, the wealth, the beauty, the talents. It would must definitely be great. Who doesn't want it all? You do too.