You'll agree with me that people are so quick to judge, they percieve from afar and conclude so quick, they be like "is it not that guy? he can't get the job done", "is it not that girl? she can't get married " "oh that family, they hardly get by every day, so fast so easy to conclude about someone else's and sadly we too take this to mind and starts feeling down, now the issue is when we are sad because of what people have said instead of just believing on in ourselves and keep pushing ourselves to greater heights regardless of their hurtful opinions.
The reality of things is that people don't really care, you see they can say whatever they like however they like it, doesn't concern them who they hurt on the way. This action has often led to depression for a lot of people listening a lot of people, listening to what people have said about them and believe in it to be true, However we must know our live belongs to us and us alone. We have the singular power to change at will, whenever or however it pleases us. This is the beauty of life, the free individualistic choices we have.
Well, we all get guilty off this, we all judge people in our heads, only that few of us knows better than to speak it out so it doesn't hurt another. We know not everyone is emotionality intelligent, as some would deal with it easily, some others won't and it'll lead to stigmas in their life, huge enough for them to deal with alone, might require a therapist to help them through. Hopefully they meet a good therapist, cause if they don't then life might keep being a rollercoaster ride, as they hardly find peace within theirselves.
The bitter truth is that no matter how tough you claim to be, you'll still care a lot about what people has to say concerning you. I might act like I'm living my life regardless, but I know deep down that I wish people would say what I love rather than the hurtful words they say currently. I can only act up for sometimes or get used to it especially when I have no option than to continue, maybe because of my job, or because of a certain benefits I enjoy from it, so I don't want to stop regardless of the hurtful and accusing fingers from people, but bet you I really wish I can be on the good side of people.
It doesn't matter what you are people will talk if you're good people will talk if you're bad people will talk if you're white if you're black if you're tall, if you're thin, if you're a short they would talk. Talking is one of our major fun excercises, so you can't stop anyone from expressing their opinions, or should I say, you shouldn't stop anyone from expressing their opinions, cause you can decide to confront the supposed gossiped and beat them up, so you shouldn't stop anyone, that's not the way out, there is a better way out.
Well the first step is to judge for yourself, If people are talking, then they must have clearly seen something to talk about, there must be a content of any such before people would talk, so what are they talking about, is it good or bad? If it's good then that's fine, if it's bad, then do you want to change or not, don't be surprised a lot of people don't want to turn a new leave, and would continue doing what they please regardless of they knowing what they're doing is outrightly bad. Now after knowing all this, you'll feel more relaxed knowing fully well you've dealt with the issue within yourself.
Stop letting people get to you easily, especially when you feel you're in the right track, you shouldn't switch course because of fear or because of humility of what people has said, no one really care, that word you heard and is causing you sleepless night, may just be a pure cruise, the person who said it might not talk it seriously but there you're hurt and battling with emotions and bad mood swings. More reason why its best we see things for ourselves too. Don't forget that person who talks about you is also being talked about by someone else, so take it easy with yourself.
I too wish there's a easy way to get them to stop, or an authority you could report gossips to and they would take it up for you, but apparently it'll be treated as a minor issue, though you're feeling hurt and hated, and that is because it truly is a minor issue, one you can deal with within yourself and still live a healthy life. Don't take something's too serious, it's just life remember, find your happiness and shun bad energy. People would Surely talk about you, it's all part of life's experience.
Thanks For Reading.