Money Changes People

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3 years ago
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As much as I don't want to talk about my personal experiences or dramas here on this platform, I just can't. This is the only way I can let out my emotions without intentionally bothering someone. I don't care anymore if I will be judge by others through my articles, what matters the most is that I let out my emotions/ dramas by journaling here and reflecting on them.

Money makes the world move. It motivates us to do more to earn more. It can be destructive. Having money can make us change, about our perception of life and our attitude towards other people. Indeed! I now believe that money is the root of evil. It can turn someone into a monster without them realizing it. Although some people take this as an opportunity to help others.

Why is it that when we have we still have problems like the times that we don't? It is a never-ending cycle of problems for some people that cannot handle it correctly. Money can give way for us to help other people, but if done wrong, it will be a disaster. For instance, helping your sibling pay for his monthly payment in Social Security System (SSS). You help him because of your willingness and love for him. But when he died, you don't want to give the money to his family because you think that they aren't deserving at all. Would you give the money to the grieving family if they themselves didn't bother to take part in the monthly SSS payment?

Let's assess the situation and let me have a storytime. The one who passed away was the sibling of my Grandmother. He has I think six children, four of which do not have a job and still depends on their needs even if they already have a family. For a senior citizen who cannot do much already and still chooses to work just to provide for his family, would you feel sympathy? His other sibling which he helped him pay for his SSS pension loan claimed his money and doesn't want to give it to the family because he thinks that they aren't deserving of it and it was his money that was used to pay for it. Would you be on his side of keeping the family or is it just right that the family should have it?

I can't express how disappointed I am in them because of their feud over money. This is just pure bullsh*t. They can't even respect the dead who was buried a month ago. They kept on quarreling over money.

His good deed of helping his brother is unquestionable. He did it because of his love for him. But it became destructive because he wants to keep it to himself. It is ethical and by law that the first family should have the assets of the deceased. To me, it is just right that he should keep it to himself but, if he wants this to stop, he should just give it to the family. Same with the family, if they know that they are not deserving of it, then why chase over that money that they did not have a fair share on?

My realization for this is that people will chase you if you have something that they are interested in. They will bug you as long as you give up and give them what they want. If only people would come up to their senses and realize that it's not always money, it's about knowing when to step back and knowing when is the right time to take action.


Author's Note:

I don't know about this blog--- if it really makes sense or not. If you've finished reading this, thank you!

P.S. This wasn't to be posted tonight, I just got triggered and want to let out my emotions.


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In this times kasi, mas nagiging dependent karamihan sa pera. 'Yung tipo ba na sa sobrang pagmamahal sa pera is nagiging masama na ang ugali kahit na gaano kaganda ang ugali nila before. Super relate ako dito kasi nangyayari sa amin 'yung ganito eh. Makaginhawa lang is akala mo na napakatataas na nila. Sana lang mas malaman natin kung paano i-lessen ang pagiging toxic, para mas happy ang lahat.

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3 years ago

I agree. Most people do not notice they are starting to get greedy. Same happened here as my grandpa died, next grandma...

I have no respect for people who start a family but are not providing in their own needs. If you do not have a job, no income stay single.

I learned those you help out are never grateful. They hate you and dump you as soon as they have a better life. Besides providing in others their need does not stimulate them to find a job.

No respect for the lazy abusers and manipulatirs. Good subject.

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3 years ago

If only people would come up to their senses and realize that it's not always money, it's about knowing when to step back and knowing when is the right time to take action.

I love that and I will also say the same thing. We should learn how to evaluate things before we execute things. On the other side, I think the money should be divided fairly to the both parties.

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3 years ago

true o kaya may mag paraya na lang talaga sa kanila kasi naiipit na kami sa gulo nila.

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3 years ago

The hard situation na laging prinoproblema sa pamilya eh yung Mana like Pera, bahay, lupa. Pinag aagawan ng mga magkakapatid or worst lahat ng kamag anak kapag may namatay sa pamilya. Hindi na talaga yan bago may mga tao padin talaga na dumedepende sa iba at di nagpapakahirap para lang may pera na bubuhay sakanila. Naalala ko yung great grandma ko nung namatay siya, yung lupa talaga dito ang pinoproblema nila like meron na nga silang part na binigay, may kanya kanya sila pero gusto parin akuin or kunin lahat or dapat mas lamang yung isa ay naku! Pero grabe naman sila di man lang sana nirespeto yung patay na 🤦🏻‍♀️

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3 years ago

Nakakalungkot lang kasi nalibing na yung patay tas di pa sila tapos na issue na yan. Sobrang nakaka disappoint. Nakakahiya kapag malaman ng ibang tao kung anong pinag gagagawa nila.

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3 years ago

Omsim wala silang respect. Bakit ba kasi laging pera ang problema sa mundo 🤦🏻‍♀️ may mga tao na hindi marunong magsipag.

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3 years ago

That's a common case for families who have claims with SSS pension. The brother can't claim even though it is his money, since he loved his brother, why not just give up? He gave contributes it willingly after all and, considering the fact that there are still 4 children who don't have a job. He is an elder, I think he must give way to stop the feud. He should just think of it as his aid for the family of the dead.

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3 years ago

That was also our point. He did it willingly and now he doesn't want to give it to the family because he thinks that they are undeserving. The family is now awakened because they found out that there was money left.

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3 years ago

If he can't be convinced, then why not just divide the money. Since the family will be the one to claim, half for them, and a half for him also. Fair sharing to end the feud, haha.

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3 years ago

This reminded me of the time when my grandmother died. She wasn't even buried yet but the youngest of the siblings were already making a fuss about the thing she left behind. But I guess they resolved it now since even the SSS were split evenly amongst the siblings.

Hopefully they were able to come to a compromise. I do not know the whole story but it didn't sound like the sibling is in need of the money if he had been able to help pay for it. Besides, why would he claim all of it for himself just because they think the family is undeserving?

It sounds like ang gulo ng situation sa inyo and I pray na you can find some peace and quiet soon.

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3 years ago

He doesn't really need money because he has his own pension and wala din siyang pinagkaka gastusan. Di rin naman nga niya madadala sa huling hantungan yung pera niya. Naiipit na lang din talaga kami sa feud nila over that small amount of money. And gusto niyang sarilihin yung money because he saw how his brother's family treated him while he was still alive. Ni pag timpla ng kape di nila magawa.

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3 years ago

Oh no. I don't know what is right or wrong but I kinda understand why he wants to keep it for himself. I mean honestly, they couldn't care bago namatay tas dahil may pera they will pull out the family card huhu. Sana tapusin na nila yung gulo, kawawa kayong naiipit pa sa ginagawa nila.

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3 years ago

One should step back para matapos na ang gulo nila.

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3 years ago

Wait, why sa kanya mapupunta. I mean, yess sya ang nagbayad. Pero matic ng sa asawa't anak mapupunta un liban nalang if di sila kasal so sa magulang nong namatay mapupunta ung lump sum or if they want pwd maging pension ng family nya un if they will choose. Hindi ba kasal ing namatay sa asawa nya? Kahit nga si Mommy, sya ang nag hulog ng sss nya for papa. May pension mandin ngayon su mama.

Pero totoo lang, nag iiba talaga ang tao basta pera na ang pag uusapan. Tsk

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3 years ago

kasi galit siya dun sa mga naiwan nung namatay. nakita niya kasi kung pano nila pinabayaan yung kapatid ng lola ko and he thinks that they aren't deserving of the money lalo pang di naman sila nag susumikap sa buhay. The decease was forced to work kahit na lumpo na kasi umaasa pa rin sa kaniya yung mga anak niyang mga bulbulin na. Nakaka disappoint lang kasi naghahabol sila ngayon kasi nalaman nilang may pera pero nung buhay pa, para bang dinadaanan lang nila.

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3 years ago

In my own opinion lang naman, diba ang purpose ng SSS is parang mag aact as a source of money pag nag retired na yung tao or pag namatay na? Dat aware si kapatid na ganun ang purpose ng SSS and wala syang rights na kunin yon dahil lang sa pakiramdam nya walang ambag yung mga anak. Kasi in the first place tinulungan nyang maghulog sa SSS yung tao dahil sa ganung purpose.

Correct me if I am wrong.

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3 years ago

Yun din nga yung pinag point out nung kapatid ko last night na even if he was the one who helped pay monthly, still hindi niya dapat yun kunin. And also, helping his older brother yung unang ginawa niya and dapat di niya na yun naisip na in the end, kukunin niya yung pera. He/we witnessed kasi kung pano pinabayaan yung Lolo nung family niya and naghahabol lang sila ngayon dahil nalaman nilang may pera. But still, the assets of the decease ay dapat maiwan sa family niya.

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3 years ago

Iba talaga ang nagagawa ng pera sa tao. Most of the time nawawala na ung respect towards other people. Sad to say nowadays, money is the most valuable thing in this world. Hindi na love.😥 pero ok lang yan, go lang tayo sa life.. 🙏

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3 years ago

Money can make someone's color show. Nakakainis na lang,

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3 years ago

Yes true.... 😥

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3 years ago

This is actually a serious post because I saw a family here who did not even finish doing funeral to their dad but started dividing the assets sitting in front of his corpse. How could they?? it is so disrespectful. I agree, money is important. But don't lose your family over it??? great post here, Sub'd to you :)

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3 years ago

Wtf. They didn't even respect the decease. They are a new breed of people who has a lot more audacity. So disappointing.

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3 years ago

seriously, that made me so mad honestly

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3 years ago

The sibling should think about who is the most in need of money. Also, if they ever put themselves in place of the deceased person, who do they think he wants to give the money? I am sure he has SSS thinking that the money will be in good hands if someday he will leave. Anyway, condolence. I hope the feud of your family end.

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3 years ago

yun din nga yung punto namin. Why would he keep the money eh meron naman siyang pera. Ang anggulo lang na nakikita namin para di niya ibigay is yung naging treatment nung family towards dun sa namatay--- pinabayaan nila nung nabubuhay pa.

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3 years ago

Money can really bring out the worst in people, as you have unfortunately witnessed...

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3 years ago

and can ruin relationships between families.

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3 years ago