Imagine a scenario where you were strolling and pressing your phone. While walking on the sidewalk, you didn't notice that there was a log of wood on the ground. You hit it, and you stumble. You fell, and you bruised your hands, lucky your phone was intact thanks to your screen guard.

When getting up, it is normal for someone to complain about the log of wood placed in the middle of the road, which lead to one's fall. But while it is ok for one to lament why the wood was on the road, you should also blame yourself for pressing your phone in public.

Imagine you didn't press your phone while walking, you might have seen the log earlier and avoided it. Many of us have lamented about the situations we find ourselves in, we often point fingers at things we believed to have caused it.

It is easy to blame something or someone for what happened, but most people find it hard to blame themselves when they are at fault. Some people look at things to blame their situation on, while they neglect the role they also play to be in that situation.

People like that look for excuses to give in every scenario. Even when there are no excuses, they come up with something.

While it is easy to cry and lament about things people did to you or what happened that prevented you from reaching a certain height in life. But it is rare to see people talk about their contribution to their suffering.

Many people have learned how to swallow the hatred they feel for a particular thing, person, or institution and they let this hatred consume them. They are not ready or willing to see things differently.

When a person, group of people, or a country begins to blame other people for their own mistakes, then such person, people, or nation can't make headways.

Learn to take responsibility.

People are quick to blame their partners when there is an altercation in their relationship. They never admit their own mistakes or the stubbornness that might have led to the altercation.

We live in a world where people are shunning away from responsibility, and this is alarming. Countries, governments, and people are not doing what is right. We've learned to blame people for our fault.

Just like Russia blames the US and the western world for their decline in world status, Russia isn't looking inward. The level of corruption happening in their country is enough to bankrupt some European countries.

How does a country (my country) that has been independent for more than 60 years still blame its colonizers for the suffering She suffers today? I beg to ask, what have they done in the past 60 years?

Nothing is 100%

While someone might do something bad or wrong to you, while you might fall due to someone's negligence, make sure you check inward first and retrospect what part you played in your fall.

Just like the dude in the intro of my article walking on the street while pressing his phone could have avoided falling if he was paying attention to his surroundings. Many of the problems we face, wouldn't be ours if only we paid attention.

I remember being taught in school that no machine is 100% efficient. No matter how good or nice a person seems to be, remember, they can always disappoint you.

Don't place 100% trust in any person or any process. Give room for the thought that things might not work out the way they should, and you will find yourself being prepared to face every disappointment or failure.

Conclusion

Before you place the blame on others, check if you have a role to play in what happened. Learn also to forgive people, and not only people but yourself too. You are your own biggest critic, fan, and helper.

19-09-2022

2:25 PM

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