Good morning brothers and sisters, and ughhhh.. where do I even start today?? The reason for me to force myself to do this my own family and usually as you guys know, I write either paranormal or goofy comedy posts but I want to be serious today, so what happened actually?
Few older men in our street has asked my father in law saying "your daughter in law is a Mother now, why she dresses like a teenager, why the sleeves on her dresses are small? why don't you ask your son to control her? Ask her to behave Mother like...."
First of all, Control????? what the heck is that even mean, HOW do you call a relationship or marriage if you "control" your life partner instead of motivating them and uplifting them? and they said "I should behave mother like".... as If I'm not already doing it? I cook, clean, help my daughter in her studies, clarify her doubts, I even left my corporate job for her where I was making 28000/- (28 grand) monthly to be with her because I do not believe in care takers.. Apart from all this, what else should I do??? seriously.......when this sad sick society standards be ever happy with us women?? as if we do not have issues already? physically, emotionally and in every possible way.... How and why is that a bunch of men decide on what a woman should wear on her OWN body?? how do you even explain this logic??
It was then, I decided to list all of the stereotypes about me/women that I have heard all through my 35 years of life... Mind you that most of these are sadly from people who literally saw me grow up, relatives, family friends and people who knows us.... if they themselves talk and judge this much, imagine other women/men from society... why don't they just let women breath??? let's get to the list now... on top of my head,
One of my uncles bought me a gift, a sports car controlled by battery and his wife looked at me and said "am not sure if you like it or no, I told him to buy you a barbie doll, because that is what girls should play with"...UGHHH right?? 😏😏😏I looked at my uncle and said "Thank you, for not buying me a doll.. I appreciate your gift uncle"... my aunt frowned all day.. I don't care though..
The literal colour palette that has been assigned to genders, pink to girls and blue to boys?? I hated that ever since I could think for myself.. and guess what, my most favorite colour is black... then blue... you don't believe me if I say this, I do not own a single piece of pink... not dress, not in lingere not even in kerchief form....
Differentiating with cloth choices? I was in 8th grade when my tuition sir told me "why are you dressing like a boy??" I was wearing a T and a pant.. so a literal dress changed my whole gender?? is that what it is?? I' m not a woman because I didn't wear a dress? Is that it??
in 10th grade, I went to my sports teacher and before I could even open my mouth, he said "why are you here, go study.. this is for boys?" he was training guys in cricket and I said "I came here to play chess".. he said "Oh a board game? I see I see, then you can enter...." so I can't play sports if it isn't a board game?? How do you explain magnificent women in sports then? who won awards, rewards??
I was talking louder in college because it was our break and my teacher said "shush, talk like a woman" while other guys are literally tearing the roof off and they weren't said anything... why? I did not stop shouting though...
This is the most I hate, there was a girl in our class who was a little chubby, because I hate the word obese, and our teachers used to pass judgement everyday saying "did you leave any food to your family or finished it? I hope you do not sleep in class"... bla bla.. Mind you, she used to eat as much as any other kid of that age, what can she do if that is her hereditary issue? Poor girls,.... stereotypes on us to be slim or fair skinned... absolutely ridiculous.. you are born in a shape and colour and OWN IT girls, like queens !!! 👑👑👑
When I was working, I pretty well know how and when to say "no" if i do not like something or someone... and because I was bold and know what I want, I was called a Bit*h but men who were doing the same were called "Assertive".... like what???? can somebody explain this?? 🤔🤔🤔
women with children are either not committed towards their children or job... I was told this by my in laws before we were trying for a kid and I was asked to leave my job.. if that is true, why leaving job, why not "not having a child".... how about that?
I saw one of my friend's application for promotion of her role was being rejected by her manager quoting "well, this job needs a lot of thinking and women are emotional, what if you decide something while you were in emotions or PMS??" This is the worst I swear to God.... 😡😡😡 So men wouldn't leave our menstruation even they have literally NOTHING to do with it huh????
If women show emotions, normal ones like angry, sad or frustrated "we would be called crazy" .. I was visiting one of my friends who was married and her husband was joking on "she gets crazy easily hahaha" and later that evening, he was cursing and banging the tv screen with remote because "his team whom he was rooting for did not win".... EXPLAIN ME CRAZY AGAIN SIR????? at least we do not break our tvs for make believe stuff... we become emotional for ACTUAL real life stuff... DON'T EVEN TRY SIR....
I'm sorry for the longest post I have ever made since the time i started writing here but I just couldn't stop venting... what should we do? Ignore? smile back? reply back? be angry? ... Me? I was and am literally exhausted from all the stereotypes and actually speaking, i do not have time for this crap anymore. BUT BUT, as a mother, and as Mothers among you and also as elder sisters among you, it is our primary duty to teach our younger generation in advance about all such issues and make them stronger from their childhood and also, those who have Sons, brothers have bigger duty to respect women as co-humans, explain them "They have the same rights as you, disrespecting them is not even an option for you".. because I watch a lot of true crime, and I'm honestly very scared for the future generation...Protect your girls Moms, from all the issues, Be there for them....and most importantly, if they come to you for advice, do NOT invalidate their problems immediately.. look into them.. you might end up fighting a hidden whale....
Please take time and let me know about what all stereotypes you guys has faced growing up??? How frustrated are you? I want to know all...
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Stereotypes never change. Its much difficult to change. The men who are not much bothered in the odd dressing of their own wives or kids, take much interest in other women's dress code. I think this issue affects globally every women to a certain extent. Never matter what others say, be confident and comfortable in what you do.