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What do Filipino Kids usually hear? Date: March 23.2022 Author: Sequoia Growing up in a low sector community here in our country is arduous. The moment you were delivered into this chaotic and rapid changing world, are bunch of responsibilities, expectations and burdens are already tied up in your hands and feet. Truth be told, when you belong to the poor and average families, you have no choice but to work hard day and night just to feed and support your loved ones. I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth. Therefore, I admit that I’ve experienced several tough moments in my life that broke me into pieces. Nonetheless, I still managed to get up and pick up the pieces. Because if I give-up and cry all day, nothing will happen. Maybe that’s just how we are destined to be, to breakdown a little while but get up and function again afterwards. Time will never stop just because you requested it to stop. Never think that you can extend or turn back time. Because just like a river, it’ll only pass once. Time won’t wait for you. With that being said, you have to always put in your mind that time is running swiftly and using it wisely would be the greatest thing to do. I’ve gone too far already from my topic for today. Anyways, I’ll be discussing about how is it to be a Filipino kid in an average to poor families. Specifically, about the things that I constantly hear from my family. Please note that I am not generalizing all the Filipino families in here okay? This is just merely based on my own opinion and observation. I got these realizations from my experiences by the way. Let’s proceed. _________________________________________________ **NO PRIVACY** Being a Filipino kid, your family meddling with your personal space and life is normal. Yah. It’s quite frustrating but when you are a Filipino, you have no choice but to get used to it. Lucky are those who have families that respects them and their personal lives. Because no matter how much you tried to keep your life private, maritesis are everywhere. And you can never getaway with their telescopic eyes, 10000000000 gigabytes memory, out of this world hearing ability and a shotgun and judger mouths. LOL. **“MARRY A FOREIGHNER FOR US TO HAVE BETTER LIFE”** This was the first pressure that I’ve ever had when I was younger. Whenever we have reunions or gatherings, they will always point out to me among all my cousins and say these words. HUHUHU. However, as a young kid, I didn’t mind them and even go with the flow. However, it didn’t stop until I got my first boyfriend which obviously isn’t a power ranger AHAHHAA. As a result, I was taken aback by their judgements and hurtful words. **“STUDY HARD AND GET A BETTER JOB”** This has always been in the Filipino mindset. They would encourage us to study hard in order to have a better job and die working. Mygash, no one ever get rich by just working alone. You gotta learn how to manage your finances and find several sources of income. Being rich isn’t about the material possessions, it is about our mindsets. **“YOU WILL GET US OUT FROM POVERTY”** The sad thing about Filipino toxic culture is that parents tend to make their children as an investment plan. I have heard how they talked to each other about their children. For the love of God, kids are not insurance plan huhu. We didn’t even ask you guys to bring us out here. It pains me to know that several people out there feel like they are only living their lives for other people’s sake and comfortability. Yes, I am talking about all the breadwinners. Sacrificing their dreams just to support the family who sometimes can’t see their efforts and sacrifices. Just keep holding on. Your time will come. Please don’t be too harsh with yourself and take a break as much as possible. You are doing great……………………………………………............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................……….self **Being a FILIPINO KID is a mixed of fun, challenging and tough life.** _________________________________________________ **Author’s Viewpoint** Sorry for my inactivity yesterday, I just have to other important things. I’ll try to make it up to you all today. Thanks for your time and have a great day ahead! **Disclaimer: Lead Image not mine. It was own by istockphoto.com**
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Tinuod jud ni sis. Kanang ingon na minyo ug foreigner para mahaw as daw sa kalisud. Tapos kana pud na mo skwela ug tarong. Mao bitaw naa uban na gipaskwela pero sibra bugbog pud oagka graduate kay gusto adto ra tanan ang hinaguan. Nindot man kinabuhi sa pinoy kaso naa lang jud culture na toxic ra kaayo
Mao gyud. Louy kaau. Mao pay pag graduate napuno ng responsibilidad.
Except marry the foreigner point every other point is relatable and is applied in kids from which I am from. I'm from India and most of the developing countries mindset is following the same thing which has been there from the past. Like study and get job, there's no other option to earn money. And here I get the comment without job none will marry you. Even you are a businessman, people want job ones. Me be like okay it's their loss then, lol. With time people have to change their mindset and thinking or developing countries will have hard time to be developed.
We have to change our mindsets with this one. Thank you for your time.
Sobrang totoo nito Langga. May mga parents talaga na pini-pressure nila yung anak na iaahon sila sa poverty. Sobrang hirap nun. Kung ganun man dapat support nalang ibigay para yung anak magiging inspired and motivated sa life. Hindi yung pini-pressure. Yung foreigner din Langga. Mostly ganun talaga nangyayari.
Kaya nga ate eh. They should be the first one who will suppor tus.
That investment plan about kids..is so true.. I felt that one when I still studying and parang naumay din ako kakasabi nila sa kin ng ikaw ang mag aangat satin ..pero di man lang nila matanong kung kumain naba ako..ok lkang ba ako. ano ang kailangan ko... Pero despite that..gusto ko talaga na maging successful para naman dina kami minamaliit ng mga taong mapagmataas..
True. Di man lang nila natanong if okay pa ba tayo. If kaya paba natin.
Toxiz mind set ng mga filipino ang sugoon ang mga anak nga maningkamot para maahon sa kahirapan ,ang uban paminyoon og kano aron makalingkawas sa ka pobre ,pero wa sila maghuhuna nga g pressure nila ang ilahang mga anak ,like what?reponsibility na sa bat?oh no ,dili jud ,dili jud angay ing anaon ang mga anak.
Louy kaaung anak kay maoy magsagubang sa kalisud.
Yung sasabihan na magasawa ka ng porenger para iangat sa sarili, eto pinaka ayoko hehe. Kasi you are marrying the money and not the person. Eto kasi yung parang gusto iparating ng iba and based sa mga nakikita ko. Sana mawala na tong katoxihan.
Kaya nga sis eh. I mean di ba natin kayang i angat ang sarili natin?
There are a lot of pressure pero ang sarap lang di ma challenge kasi mapupush through ka always. Take it as a challenge since wala naman tayong magagawa dahil very dependent pa tayo sa kanila.
Yahhh. That's the answer. Let's take it as a challenge.
Naku when will some parents realize that their kids have no responsibilities for them, it is otherwise. It is their responsibilities to give their kids a good life but it doesn't mean the children have to do the same.
Kaya nga ate eh. Kaylan kayam abe break ang cycle na iti.
Sad to hear when kids grow up hearing these words, it would keep them under pressure all the time.
Yeeees. It usually does.
I also just found out how to live a child in the philippines but that is something that will continue to motivate you friends, because in difficult times you will learn a lot about life and it will be an amazing experience for you.
Yesss. We should make this as an inspiration to never repeat this cycle ever again.
Tinuod gyud marites is everywhere,and about marrying afam sus and mga marites sa time nga nakahibaw nga nagkabuwag mis akong afam ingon dayon sayanga man to hahaha.inyoon to oi basin ganahan mo .bitaw they can't just watch and see lol..naa koy rason ngano ako gbuwagan ug wa ko sayangi gyud.
Mao man ateeeee. Wala sila kabalo sa tung reasons nganong gi choose natu na nga desisyon.
mao gyud di kay mg ingon2x ug sayang
Afam is the key daw hahaha. Nagkalat ang marites sa Pilipinas gamay² naay say.
Di jud na sila manggamy ying.
Grabe yung mga parents na binibenta nila mga anak nila sa mga foreigners ano? Yun nalang talaga minsan ginagawa nila sa mga anak nila pang ahon sa hirap hays
Kaya nga mareng. Laging nasa isip nila na porener ang makakaahun sa atin sa hirap.:(
Sometimes it is very frustrating to be a filipino because of these expectations. We are expected to do this and that. We are never asked what we wanted to do in life. Sometimes we feel that we are born to take responsibility of other people.
Why can't we just live for our own life and dreams?
Sakto jud tanan sis. Sauna ingnon pud kos among silingan nga magforeigner na lang kuno para madatu ug dali. They didn't know nga naay uban nga nagsuffer tungod sa ilang mga partner nga foreigner. Pwera na lang sa makapili ug maayuhon nga taw.
Mao gani sis. Dili tanan naka porener kay nindot og life
*Nakahinumdum ko sa giingon sa akong lola nga mag Bana daw ko ug foreigner para daghang kwarta. Ikapila jud na niya ibalik² kay para daw mamaayo na ang among kinabuhi. Toxic mindset, ma pressure ang isa ka tawo kung ingon Ana ang madungog permi.*
Mka pressure jud kaau na sis ay.
MARRY A FOREIGHNER FOR US TO HAVE BETTER LIFE, mao na usually akong madungog katong bata pko, toxic Filipino attitude. Na mura ganig naka minus.
Sila nalang kaya mag porener HAHHAAH.
I don't know a lot about phillipines people but after reading this I learn a lot about this topic
Thanks for your time.
That is why most of the eldest childrens are mostly the most pressured ones when it comes to providing the families needs. I am not against with helping back our parents but the idea of obligating the children to help and giving them the responsibilities at a young age is what I really hate about our culture. Seems like they just made a child who would suffer just to rise them from poverty.
Helping our parents should be done out of love and not out of responsibility.
Kana jung pa minyoon or pauyabon ka ug foreigners maoy diko ganahan. Jusko por santo, dijud ko. 😭😂
Mao gani hahaha. Sila nalang mag porener haahha
Yung iba kasing parents ganon yung mindset eh, parang binuhay lang tayo para iahon sila sa hirap. Pag hindi naman nangyari yung gusto at expectations nila sa anak parin yung sisi. Like, hindi naman naming choice mabuhay ah? Saka nag-anak kayo then responsibility niyong alagaan yan.
Kaya nga eh. Bakit parang kailangan natin tuparin yung pangarap nila? Eh may mga pangarap naman tayo.
Yes, I agree with you no matter how you try to be good it's marites who keeps mar your dignity. They've have been waiting for the perfect time especially when you made a mistake.
They are just waiting for you to make one mistake.
Yes, that really hurts me when I've realized that one.
Napressure din ako nuon sis kanang marry a porener. Jusko. Di ko sugtan mag uyab2 pero paminjoon tag foreigner 🤣
Lami kau iyabo ng nga porener sis ay hahhahaa.
Maygani akong mama dili na demanding karun...sauna ang gusto niya dapat naa jud koy afam unya kay terkuluon man kog utok maong ni give up na ako mama hahaha
Samuk jud ning nga porener beb ay hahah.
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