Growing with a Teenager

Grow with your children, especially, if he or she is a teenager. Grooming them at this age will be the result of what they are in future. Your patience and commitment is what is required to make him an asset to your family.

If we have a Teenager at home, for most parents and children it is supposed to be a crucial time. This is the age where they get easily influenced by others.

Win your confidence over them by not finding fault over them but by correcting them. Most of the teenagers are in rage when we try to correct them. It is because Patience is not there in teenage dictionary.

They get easily frustrated and get into relationships that cause long lasting troubles. Some take to bad friendships which finally takes them to drugs and other, unmanageable acts.

According to them the decisions taken by them is appropriate. They argue if we try to guide or correct them. A rather unpleasant unappealing character.

They are always in a confused state of mind as to what to do and what not. When we try to help them out they say its not our cup of tea. In simple words, they meant ro say "better mind your business".

Sometimes their behavior hurts us. As technology grows faster so are they. Their mindset is more faster than us. When we ask for any personal help some children are ready to help, while some snubs us saying "you can't do this simple things by yourself". They are not aware such simple phrases hurt us a lot.

Some few guidelines where we can get close to teenagers:

• Once they are above your shoulder they are your friend. Be a friend not a parent.

• Attend to their needs right from childhood. Correct them when needed. Use a cane only when necessary.

• Give them their freedom unless and until they choose a wrong path.

• When at home, give them some of your tasks. They will understand the pain you are taking to do the same. At the same time, their confidence and will power will strengthen. Trust me.

• They must fear you as well as respect you. They should be aware of the fact that you are the only person to whom they can confide and get a solution to their problem.

• When handling serious issues with teenagers its better to talk softly rather than raising your voice against them.

• Keep telling and showing them inspirational stories. Their journey should be with you.

• Do not keep repeating things to them.

• When something good happens appreciate them. Give them a lovely hug. Obviously they will work more better the next time to win your confidence.

• Close your eyes when they do little naughty things like bunking classes, going for movies without permission etc.

Though teenagers does not pay heed to what parents say their constant push will definitely lead them to follow the parents sayings.

If we need a good citizen, the training should start right from home. They are the future of our country so give them the best and let them do the rest.

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