Without Trust, Love is Lost!

Article # 27
April 23, 2022
Saturday

Trust is a feeling that develops when you feel secure with someone, when you feel that this particular person would never do any thing to hurt you. Now that particular person can be your best friend, your best cousin, your parents or your spouse. People often confuse trust with love. We need to understand this, if we love someone it does mean we can trust them too. We love many people in our life but we can’t go trusting all of them. Besides, if you love someone, it does not mean he or she loves you in return. So you have got to be careful while putting your trust in someone. 

Everyone who is sweet to you and talks to you with a big smile on his face can’t be trusted. It takes a long time and observation to finally trust someone. What does observation mean here? It means you need to first analyse that person. Notice how he treats others and does he tell you secrets of others or he shares information about others which must not be shared? If he does this, he doesn’t deserve your trust. Because such a person is good to you when he is with you, he might be spilling out your secrets in front of others just as he does when he is with you. So it takes many things and a long time to build trust. But irony is, it takes a single moment to get shattered. Trust is like a mirror, once broken can never be repaired fully, there will always be those cracks visible.

Trusting someone who has once already broken your trust is the most foolish thing in the world to do. It’s like presenting yourself to that some one again and again and allowing them to hurt you repeatedly. It is a hadith of our Holy Prophet (PBUH) (the most honest and truthful man in the world) that:  

“The believer should not be stung from the same hole twice”

It clearly states that you should not allow someone to hurt you again. We are humans, we make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes happen out of our love for someone. We get so blinded by their love that we can’t discriminate between love and lust, good and bad. Even if they hurt us and break our trust, we always look for something good in them, we constantly find a reason to trust them again. Even though the circumstances clearly show that they must not be trusted. 

I am not saying that if a loved one of yours breaks your trust than you should stop loving them. No! What kind of love would that be if you can’t forgive them. You must love them no matter what, and always pray for them and try to see the good in them by ignoring their shortcomings as every human being on this planet has been created with faults and shortcomings. But I would say, you must stop trusting that person. Because trust is gained and if that person has not lived up to your expectations than he neither understands nor he deserves “Trust”. If you really want to trust someone, then you have your parents trust them. As they have this unconditional love for you that even if you break their heart they wouldn’t break your trust even then. 

If someone claims to love you but he or she doesn’t trust you, know that he doesn’t love you. Because the first step towards love is trust and if the first step is missing, how on earth can you think of reaching the ultimate feeling of love? Let me put it this way:

“TRUST IS THE KEY TO LOVE”

So all the boys and girls out there, don’t go running after those who don’t deserve your trust. By doing so, you hurt none other than your own self!

Thank you for reading my article. Stay blessed and happy!

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