Celebrate your loved ones when they are still alive

4th of January, 2022.

I do not know if I'm happy or not, probably mixed feelings, today being the first day of my Industrial training. This is because I know it's going to be work, work and work😢. But who am I to complain, that's what I signed up for when I chose an engineering course. It's going to be 3 months of industrial training before I finally have my 6 months this same year. I'm happy anyways and a bit nervous😂. It isn't my first industrial training though.

I tried to sleep early last night, so as not to sleep past the time to resume this morning. Something came to my mind just now 😂. I remember when we were younger, how anxious and eager we always were for any event we have really anticipated, maybe Christmas, sallah or any other ones. Some even go as far as putting their new clothes and shoes beside them when about sleeping 😭. I think it still happens to some adults till now, and this occurs when one is extremely happy and looks forward to a day. It's never a bad habit as far as I am concerned.

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So back to where I was, the company actually has a staff bus and it's always in a particular place, where all the staff around the vicinity will join to go to work. I got there in time to avoid stories that touch and also, to create a very good impression, just like the saying that "first impression goes a long way". I was meant to have it at one of their offices but was later transferred to another place closer to where I am. I cannot be more than thankful 😂. I will always keep you posted as the industrial training goes on.

The main discussion

I find it hard to know why people don't appreciate their loved ones, friends and family, unless they die. I have sat and thought about this, it is so true. The only times a little appreciation is done is when they die or maybe on such a person's birthday. 

I have a friend that always clamor that we, her friends must celebrate her birthday, even if we wouldn't on some other days. I'm the type of person that doesn't really fancy birthday celebrations and all, so I sat her down one day to discuss this issue. It was a lengthy one and I came to the realization that it's actually a bad thing to only appreciate and celebrate people when they are dead.

For instance, there was this Nigerian celebrity that died probably two months ago. I guess he died as a result of Cancer. Shortly after his death or the second day of his death, people started coming on social media, even celebrities, singing his praises. Apparently, he has helped a lot of people, including his fellow celebrities even when he knew he had cancer. Infact, I was sad at that time. Why now? Someone did something huge like this, and you couldn't sing his praises until he died. Some will even need help but wouldn't get it, but when such a person is dead, friends and families will want to sponsor the funeral, to make it a befitting and an elaborate one.

Come to think of it, if you truly love someone and care for them, you should celebrate them when they can see it or hear it or feel it, not when such a person cannot hear, see or feel the appreciation or the celebration. There have been many cases of these, when it happens only when the person is dead. That's when you know that the person did this and that or have really made impacts in people's life.

I watched a movie one time, I think it should be Coming to America2. The dying king made sure he saw his funeral, like it was done in his presence while he was still alive before he eventually died. It was kind of funny to me because here, and even according to our culture, I don't think it's right. But looking at it from the other view, I like it, you get to see what will be done and said to you after one's death.

It's best we change this narrative and start appreciating and also celebrating our loved ones, even when they are alive. 

Thank you for reading!