What do you do if he or she cheats on you?

“Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.”

Margaret Mead

No one can stop infidelity in some people because the human relationship isn't absolute. There is no friendship or relationship with being married together that is complete. Why is it that way? This is because human beings have been conditioned to do what they want to do and not what others want them to do.

This is the reason you see people doing what they feel like even if they receive advice from others. They just want to satisfy themselves and that is it. No man can change any human being. You are deceiving yourself if you think you can because you will hurt yourself in that process.

Things I have been seeing lately had made me see to what extent some people can go to hurt another person. It saddens me to see a wife burning her husband to death because he cheated.

The day I read the news, the only question that came to my mind was “Is killing him the solution?”

Why would you think of setting someone ablaze just because he cheated and you cannot think of calling him and talking to him? Better still, if you have talked to him and he still didn't change, then leave if you aren't comfortable with it. It is not in your hand to punish another fellow even if you are so connected to him or her.

No lives should be claimed through you. Just because you both are married doesn't give you the licence to kill him or her over infidelity. At least you would have seen the red flags before both of you tied the knot.

We can never know everyone's behaviour until we are both joined together and they start revealing the true person they are and with that, you still cannot know them to the end. Even when you thought you have known everything about them, they still would introduce a new behaviour and you will be shocked.

Burning your partner over infidelity has now become a trending one because I read of a young girl who also set her partner ablaze over this same issue.

These people aren't even married yet and all you could think of is to kill him. Is it that you don't want to see them cheating again or not to see them forever?

This is also like punishing yourself if you ever think of punishing another person.

To me, it's barbaric and uncalled for. There is no excuse or reason for killing another man because you aren't in such a position to take lives. A life you can never bring back again. You only kill but cannot raise back.

Killing someone means his or her blood is in your hands and it will forever haunt you.

Infidelity comes when a man isn't contented. Greediness brings infidelity and there's nothing you can do to a man who isn't faithful to his wife except he wants to change himself. Same thing with a woman.

Now, what do you do when your partner cheats on you?

Well, you may think what am I about to say, especially seeing a single like me but trust me, I have seen and heard many things about people and I can speak my opinion and understand what is happening.

Everyone is unique and we all want the best for ourselves. Yes, we love so much that it hurts us to see someone cheating on us and we feel as if we aren't better enough. It's okay to think that way because we are humans and have feelings in us.

When you see your partner cheating on you, call them if it is the first time seeing them. Talk to them and let them know you don't like it and if they still do not change, the best is to walk away and know that you are special and desire to be cared for.

You deserve someone better and if you cannot stay to endure which I doubt anyone would do, just walk away from the relationship and if they truly love you, they will come back and change for good.

In my viewpoint, I wouldn't want anything to compromise or jeopardize my happiness and so, the only thing is for me to walk away because I know I deserved better.

This can happen during courtship before you both tie the knot. Observe each other's behaviour and attitudes before you get married. There are warning signs in relationships and if you are so blinded to see them, you will be at fault if anything should happen later when you have been united.

Don't think of killing your partner just because they cheated on you. Yes, you have both gone through a lot and you think they shouldn't betray you. Humans would be humans and we aren't perfect except for Christ's relationship who is absolute.

Step away if you can't handle or endure it because you will feel sorry for yourself if you try something bad.

Fighting someone doesn't mean they should die. No matter how wicked someone is, we don't pray for death for them because when they are gone, we would be hurt more. So who then loses?

Though the woman who burnt her husband also committed suicide. What is now the gain? Will that solve the issue? The woman could have just stayed away from the marriage.

No man or woman would put up bad behaviour except if they have been doing it before coming together. The man would have been cheating before getting married and he continued in the act.

May God help us all. Killing isn't the solution. It makes us weak and not strong people.

Thanks for reading

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