I think I have seen some articles talking about their exes which I also confirmed that on @gwapojohn 's article yesterday. He categorized and talked about them. He made me remember my own experience with my exes too. I have been in different relationships in the past and I can say they all came for the same reason and I was a fool. Should I say love blinded me not to get out of them immediately? Well, it was Love's fault and not mine😁
I will only categorized my relationships into just one type because they all are the same. I call it "SELFISH EXES".
MY FIRST LOVE EXPERIENCE
My first guy was called "Segun". We met when I just finished my Secondary School and we started our love life. Those days, love was the sweetest. So, I tried all my best to satisfy my boyfriend. How did I do that? I always send him money so he doesn't look elsewhere. I will steal my mom's money and recharge cards and give to him. I was doing this for four years and he never for once spend on me. Segun was a selfish guy that he thinks of himself alone and wouldn't even support or care for me.
I was the one risking my life to make him stay. Whenever he comes visiting at my mom's shop, I will entertain him with everything in the shop and he would be happy to receive all. Segun never calls me on his own. He will always flash while I recharge to call him back.
I was a fool not to understand that both partners should always support each other. This went on for two years until he gained admission. Even when he gained admission into the University and I was still at home, I would continue stealing from my mom to send to him. Whenever he needs anything, he will flash me and I will call him back, only for him to tell me he needs card or money. I still obey him to send to him until after two years in the University. By this time, I was also admitted into the College of Education.
One day, I checked his Facebook account and I saw him with another girl, holding and embracing her tightly. I knew something was going on between them. I confronted him but he denied. It dawned on me that I have been a fool all these while and I left him.
MY SECOND LOVE EXPERIENCE
His name was Pelumi, a very handsome guy I met in Ibadan City. This guy came from an average family and I didn't know he was this womanizer. I was working as a teacher this time and part of my salary, I give to this guy so he doesn't look elsewhere. I loved him so much but I discovered he doesn't love me the way I do.
Many times when he sleeps with a lady, he will chat me up and explain what happened. He knew I would accept his apology. It was always hurting me but because of the love I had for him, I still find myself around him.
He will always come up with excuses that would end up giving him my money. When I visit him at home, and his friends are coming too, he would lock me up inside until the friends go. I was seeing all these but I really do love him. So, I succumb to all his commands and instructions.
After some months, he stopped chatting or talking to me. He just came up with an excuse for me to leave him. After everything, I was a fool again. I cried for days and I moved on.
I stopped giving any guy a chance since then and I determined never to give my money to any guy again. I was single for two years and didn't give room for any other guy for the fear that they are the same.
I was still on this decision when I met Paul. Oh my God! I thought I have finally found love. By this time, I was already in 200 level in the University (2019). Paul wasn't like this guys I have dated. I came to realize that there are still good guys or men out there. Paul would send money to me, loved me and would even come visiting me in my school.
He was a son of a Minister in the Redeemed Christian Church of God and so, he was so nice and caring. He understands me. He was a patient guy and I was so happy I have found love. Until one-day, he came up with an excuse too. "He called me and I wasn't picking his calls". Was that an excuse? I can still remember some part of his message to me then.
He appreciated me, said beautiful words to me. He said he likes something about me which was that I was hardworking and even an independent lady. He said other things and as I was reading it, I cried especially when he said "Goodbye, don't ever call me again".
That was how Paul left in April, 2019.
I stopped being desperate in searching for love. I closed my heart because I was afraid I might be dumped again. But now, I feel I need to be loved and not me loving who doesn't love me.
I can't remember where I saw a question in an article that "would we rather love or be loved?" Yes, even though I want to love, I still prefer someone to love me more. I don't want to be a fool anymore.
Thanks for reading
|August 13, 2021|
I don't think you have been foolish in love but that you have encountered bad people in your love life. I think it has happened to many of us. Sooner or later the lucky one will come along who will win your love because I know from the little I have been able to read in your posts that you have a good heart. The evil ones will always take advantage of that. God bless you.