Two days ago in our Nigerian Forum WhatsApp Group, we were gisting and having fun and I can't remember what topic it was again but seeing @QueenRaay message made me remember a similar incidence with me some years back.
You know what, a friend of mine had a date with a guy she met online, she got there first. Immediately she saw the guy in real life, she knew this was not what she bargained for.
My friend japa through the back door
"Japa" means run away for my friends who doesn't understand that.
Do you know how it feels to see the opposite of someone you have been seeing online and then in reality, it becomes something else? Snapchat, Photoshop and the likes are really covering our real beauty 🙈 especially for ladies and when a guy sees them in reality, it is now a matter of "what I saw vs what I am seeing now" 😅
Have you come across the trend "what I ordered for vs what I get?" Seriously, it's not always funny again. So in conclusion, let's be real and not deceiving ourselves.
In year 2012, I just gained admission into the college of education (this is just like a university but it isn't. This is a programme being run for those who needs to have certificate in teaching and wants to become a teacher) such a person can decides to further to study degree in the University. Facebook was so rampant and popular then, also the time of 2Go chat. I met him via Facebook and we started chatting and along the way, he fell in love with me. He was too quick to do that for a person he is just meeting online.
I could see he was ready to spend. Something I am always chasing after then was a guy who can speak good English. If you can't speak, then there is no way for us. I think I was immature then 🙈 Many times he would send card to me. Infact, it became a weekly thing for him to send me card and money and since I was ready to flow along, I was enjoying those goodies from him.
Despite sending me card every week, I won't call him and if he ask why I don't call him, I will tell him I do not have any credit on my phone. But he never stopped sending to me. It went on for some months until he wanted us to meet. I told him to come to my school but he insisted I come to his house. He sent money already from Oyo state to Lagos.
He was really looking cute on his profile picture on Facebook, so I was happy I am meeting the handsome guy I am into a relationship with. He didn't spill everything about him to me so I concluded he is a graduate 😅😅
Then, I love taking risk. I have traveled to many places to see guys I met on Facebook. I didn't mind if I get kidnapped because I always believed I can't be kidnapped. My friend kept warning me to be careful but I was so desperate to be in any relationship then. Can you imagine an 18yrs old girl then? Lol
I only told my friend about my journey to Lagos to meet "Mr handsome". Even when the bus I boarded passed in front of my mom's shop (her shop is situated very close to the main road, an expressway in between Redemption camp and Lagos), I saw my mom outside her shop. In my mind, I was like "see your mom, you are going to visit a guy in Lagos"
That little girl got to Lagos and with the description given to me by him, I was told to wait for him while he comes to pick me up. After some minutes, I saw him afar off. One thing about me is I can quickly notice someone who I am meeting for the first time even before you get to me.
When I saw him, he was not different from a tout boy, his lips were so black like someone who just finished smoking, and the worse of all is that he was one leg up and a leg down (do you gerrit, if you don't gerrit, forget abourrit) 🤣
Who am I to abuse God's creation? I have my own disability but seeing this guy was something else. It is now "What I saw vs what I am seeing now.
I couldn't turn back or hide because if I do, I will have to beg for transport back to school. I had to see him and he took me to his family house.
Can you believe he has introduced me to his mom already that I am his wife? Lol
His mom was so happy to see me and they took care of me like a newly wedded wife. I got to know from his brother's wife that he is a drop out in a secondary school and he had to stop his education. They now want me to finish my NCE and get married to him quickly. My mind was refusing everything and I was like "once I leave here, I am blocking him straightaway"
I slept in his mom's house for two days. Thank God he didn't touch me because those days, he was sleeping at his own house because I refused following him to his house. I can't imagine allowing him touch me 😣
The next day I got there, he came by and told me to dress up, he took me to his Aunt's place and that one was begging me not to leave him alone because I was the 11th girl who is staying with him. I laughed in my mind and told her "he will find the 12th girl that would stay because I can't stay"
On the day I was leaving, this guy really tried, he bought beverages for me (milk, bournvita, sugar) and also 12yards of material clothes. He was ready to spend but I don't see myself having a future with him in anyway.
When I got back to school, I gave my friend 6 yards of clothes to sew for herself while I take the remaining ones. That was the end of everything because I blocked him and couldn't have access to me.
Don't you think I made the right decision? If I had settled down with him, I wouldn't have gone for my degree study or even planning to go for my NYSC
I may not even be a writer talkless of being on Readcash and Noisecash and other platforms I am in now. My mentality would be so low because I would have been influenced negatively.
Here I am today, thank God for saving me and giving me a good decision. I bet my family wouldn't have been proud of me today.
I don't know if what I did to him then is affecting me now but I don't want to believe that because God loves me right? Just tell me something in the comment section 🥺😔
Thanks for reading
|November 08, 2021|
🤣🤣🤣🤣. Hope I'm not late. This is so hilarious. I can imagine what you felt when you saw the guy.
You even tried staying over for two days. I can't stand staying over at all.
But if I may ask, how do you think it's affecting you? It can never affect you. You made the right decision to run for your life. If it would be, you guys will meet again some day.